Fucking bitches

[LindaLa]

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

In the grand scheme of things I don’t really understand why an apology from MNHQ would even make this all better?

They done their job.

I haven’t said anything to the OP other than not to keep pushing for a reaction.

I think we could all give some posters the benefit of the doubt sometimes rather than prematurely reporting threads or troll hunting. I had doubts at first, as I said, but I didn't want to report someone who had genuinely gone through something horrific and then been mocked about it.

Also, it was a supportive thread, with helpful advice and support, so it was a shame to let doubts about the OP get it zapped unnecessarily.

For all those saying LindaLa doesn't have a posting history. She does, I checked it out.
I was sexually abused as a child, I don't tell anyone. Well I did but that's another whole thread. For a so called friend to behave like that is appalling, telling op sh should have disclosed her history before babysitting is a sick thing to imply

@LindaLa
Wishing you well for 2019 and cut the fucking bitches out of your life now

Maybe some of the people doing the reporting are trolls?? Getting a wee thrill from seeing a thread pulled.
I don't see why MN can't check things out while leaving the thread up.

bruffin, and your point is?

But she said herself that she name changed regularly, as a lot of you admit to doing, so there wouldn't be a history for LindaLa. Her mistake was not telling us in her opening post that she had name changed for this thread. (Not that that would convince the more hardened sceptics on this forum.)

Anyway, MNHQ have said that question has been resolved now, and there's no reason to think that she isn't genuine.

@Stardustinmyeyes

I'm sorry for what you went through, I hope you're getting support in rl? There is support out there, I'm currently having therapy through the NHS.

What kind of disgusting nasty vindictive thing is that to say? Who laughed? Your other friend's that were there or other people? How do u know she told them?
She must have disliked u to be that way..have you not noticed any signs previously? I know u blocked them but has anyone tried contacting you so far to explain themselves? Its strange this should happen after such a long and close friendship. Id want an explanation. They bought u gifts snd then did this? It doesnt add up. Talk to them it may be the other girls didnt know and eere laughing to what they thought was a joke..even though it was a vulgar thing to say.
I just want to give u a hug right now. Please get some counselling too xx

OP... do they think that you were the paedophile? I assume Original Bitch knows you were the victim, but I wonder what exactly she has told the other three.

It’s the only reasonable explanation I can come up with for why four people would think it was OK to be so horrible to you. And the only thing that would explain them being shitty about you babysitting their kids without knowing about your abuse.

Not that “public ribbing” is an appropriate response to finding out your friend is a paedophile either, but it is slightly more appropriate than doing it to a paedophile’s victim.

Of course they would have to be thick as mince to make that error, but it sounds like they are...

I think it's pretty clear from the comment "paedophile fodder" (sorry OP) that they didn't think she was the paedophile at all, but the victim. They were after the sordid details for their own titillation.

Sashkin

Its pretty obvious they knew she had been abused as a child, as she told her 'friend' in confidence who then told the others. They thought it funny to decide she would probably know the recently alleged paedophile in thier area because of her past. Inferring christ knows what?

Asking for details of abuse in a public bar is beyond ignorant.

There is no excuse to make this a mistake, 'banter' embarassed laughing yadda yadda They were laughing at child sexual abuse. Utterly incomprehensible to.the rest of us.

It's beyond disgusting, and actually very creepy. Whatever their motives, the OP is well rid.

What exactly do you want from MNHQ? I’m genuinely asking, they’ve apologised and explained their reasonings which I think, is standard across the site. What more can they do?

to be fair to the OP and the temporary removal of the Thread, MNHQ didn’t respond appropriately until requested to do so several times by the OP, to the point of OP almost using the MNHQ email sent to OP, to try to explain MNHQ actions. Thankfully after a fashion, they FINALLY respond.

So MNHQ when removing then reinstating a Thread should complete that simple process by commenting on the reinstated Thread, it’s not difficult and not an unreasonable action.

that’s what MNHQ SHOULD have done without promoting from OP.

It was also NYE.

The thread was started on 30th.

Not NYE, although why does that matter?

It doesn’t, it’s just a possible reason as to why the mods didn’t respond as quickly as you’d have liked.

if the MODS have ‘Time’ to reinstate a Thread after checking authenticity, then adding an explanation is not beyond their capabilities, in the same action, and at the same ‘Time’.

how are you Linda, I hope you’ve not allowed these people to mar your festive season.

They haven’t checked authenticity though they’re just saying their IP hasn’t been flagged before and the usual you never know who you’re talking to online.

MN will never say anyone’s 100% genuine

@BumbleBeee69

I'm great thanks!
Heard from one of the others but I just said I was busy with friends.

I get my house back to myself shortly and I can't wait! I do love them but sometimes....

@NOTthepinkranger

That was unnecessary, I think we're all aware that we can never be entirely sure of any OP, this being the internet and all that. It isn't necessary to keep pointing that out.