Fucking bitches

[LindaLa]

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

They sound awful. I wasn't there but sounds to me like the main friend you told is to blame? Paedophile fodder? That's just outrageous.
I can't believe she told them all. You are right to do what you did, they sound abeyond terrible and I assume none of them have tried to contact you since?

If they are that insensitive I doubt they'll woman up and apologise, that's assuming they can understand what they did wrong.

Well done for removing such people from your life. That’s beyond shocking

This might be the nastiest thing I’ve heard in a while. What vile friends you used to have! Good call with the vouchers. I hope you have other friends who can help you through your struggles.

Get lost dillydilly.

What a vile bunch of cunts. You responded in the correct way and the only way they deserved. Thank God you found out what they're really like.

A Happier New Year is what you'll have now x

That is hideous. I am staggered by that. You did the best thing by leaving without looking back. I can only think that the woman who did this perhaps felt uncomfortable/ resentful that you knew her secrets and she was beholden to you because you helped her (that’s happened to me before) so she did this to cut you down to size.
Anyway, look after yourself.

Q

OP, glad you’ve disengaged from these non-friends, so you won’t need to be upset by any further contact. Treat it like a break up from a bad boyfriend - scorched Earth, total impenetrable No Contact

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Hi all,

Just a quick note to say I've heard nothing more from "them" but also, have heard nothing more from mumsnet about deletion or the other bullying threads they allowed.

Maybe not as supportive as they'd like you to think.

You are correct Linda, and thank you for coming back, several OP’s don’t

MN have been very supportive of you. If you had been around longer and werent new to MN I'd have expected MN would have verified you are a longer term poster. They didn't do that. It's simply unusual for a new poster to have so much drama so quickly.

MN have done nothing wrong- new poster with very dramatic story and lots of reports, they deleted the thread whilst they took a look behind the scenes. Once they couldn't find any evidence one way or the other they reinstated your thread with the usual disclaimer. Perfectly reasonable.

@fanofleetwoodmac

I'm not a new poster.

I just change my user name when I get bored with the old one.
Do I have I have to do the "name change but been here for ages, spangran, penis beaker, Mexican house thief, Korean old lady etc"?

What support from mn?
They deleted with no warning.

They did not contact me.

They reinstated with "apologies, our bad" (no explanation) and a comment on here that I had to ask for.

@Bluestitch

Again, mn have never actually contacted me. They've admitted this but have not explained why.

MN are overseeing uncountable numbers of threads. They suspend when they need to look a bit deeper, and reinstate when they find nothing, all the time. It's a fairly efficient and perhaps cursory process. Overnight moderators are volunteers and have much reduced power to address things, so that may influence how quickly things are dealt with as well.

This is a free forum which you say you've been on for a while. Is that not supportive?

I get you must feel double bruised first by your so called friends and then by MN. If I were you I'd just move on. Let it go. Life is too short.

So sorry for all you have been through and sorry you had such awful friends.
May the New Year bring you peace, happiness and some new lovely friends

Look, they deleted you cos they got eleventy billion reports about you.

That's the process.

They looked and your IP address didn't wave any red flags so they reinstated.

What mea culpa are you looking for here?? They have the same process for everyone who gets a shit ton of reports.

OP, I feel you have been unfairly treated by MNHQ. They clearly got it wrong, but surely all you need is some communication and an apology. It's really not too much to ask is it?

They didn't 'clearly' get anything wrong- MNHQ never vouch for anybody on the internet, why would you? They followed the same process they always do.

Think you are being a little harsh on the moderators. They are only following policy, it's the same for everyone. Nothing personal. Glad you have cut your "friends" out OP. With mates like that who needs enemies.

I’m not sure what more you want from MN?

What a horrible experience for you . Your friend sounds absolutely horrid