Dd upset at amount of money we spent on her

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Dd (16) got an Apple Mac and reading festival tickets from us this year. She’s upset at how much money we spent on her because she told us before that Apple Macs are too expensive and we thought we’d invest in something she would love but she has gone upstairs after saying she doesn’t want it because it is way too expensive and she will break it and that she only asked for a cheap laptop to do school work on (she already has a computer but it’s very slow) , has now disappeared upstairs to think she’s abit ungrateful ?

Maybe OP made a mistake and didn't realise what she was buying was not s lap top. Feel sorry for the daughter as she's not got what she wanted and what would be most used for her. OP will no doubt be paying over the odds for the desktop due to it being on a payment plan, so neither came out well from this decision.

Interesting that because DD went upstairs several posters assumed that she'd 'stormed off' in a 'tantrum' when she'd done nothing of the sort! Going upstairs upset rather than angry didn't get considered.

Good god this post has gone to the dogs with no one listening to the OP.

As far as I can see the following is true

1. OPs DD does not at the moment go to school she is home schooled so taking it to school shouldn’t be an issue and not what is bothering her.

1. OP is recently getting divorced and had to move but previous to that DD said they wanted the desktop version of a MAC.

1. Due to divorce and moving OP was on benifits while looking for a job. In this time due to a mixup the OPs rent didn’t get paid, worrying at the time but then sorted.

1. OPs DD obviously felt all of this and also knows with the changes her DM might be short of money (though due to new job she is not) and so asked for a cheap laptop even though she really wanted the Mac desktop. Hence the mini meltdown on Christmas Day, some anxiety and guilt from all of the stress and changes through the year.

1. OP and DD sorted it out and DD is now thrilled at having what she actually wanted and not what she was willing to have as a compromise.

Glad you have sorted it out op.

Going upstairs upset rather than angry didn't get considered

I think she was upset, too Beez - and now her DM and DF have made her feel guilty as hell so she's putting a brave face it.