AIBU to feel LIVID!!!! 😔

[Bamchic]

Because after 4 .5 years MIL doesn’t even know my name.
Apparently it’s because I’ve not had DHs child. So I’m not really in it for the long haul
I had to have a TFMR in 2017 past 20W, and this would’ve been DS first Christmas (Edd 20.1.18)

I can’t fathom why she can’t learn my name 2 syllable very plain think Emma, Susie, Jessie etc.

We are here until 2 and I feel so sad. Can’t wait until 330 when I can see my own mum and dad. I feel so sad and worthless 😢

Disgusting! Hope her DS is a better human.

That so unkind, at at Christmas too... anyone who can treat someone that way is below contempt. Have a drink of something nice OP. Fuck her! And enjoy your afternoon!

Of course she knows your name. She's just choosing not to use it. MIL will often call me DHs ex's name. He got her pregnant after a 6 week but apparently is far more memorable than his now wife of 2 years and mother of his 2nd child. I've known them 5years ffs

Well I wouldn't be visiting ever again and nor would any future child...

Unless she has some memory issues (and can’t remember anyone’s name) then that is shocking.

What does your dh say?! How can he stand by and watch this?

I’m so sorry for your loss the first Christmas is very hard. Sending you lots of hugs.

If my dh wasn’t backing me up I’d be out of there and over to your parents now. Sod niceties.

Hope 2019 bring you a rainbow baby

My DH would have been livid too. I hope yours is.

Omg Bamchic if I was you I'd walk out. Disgusting behaviour. Piss her off and call her by some other name today see how she likes it. What a horrible person she must be. So sorry for you. Have a lovely time with your own parents.

Appalling. I hope your DH is as outraged. Have a wonderful time later today with your family x

Seriously though, don’t give her any power over you. She quite obviously knows your name, but she’s not a nice person. It’s no reflection on you. My MIL has pulled the same stunt repeatedly and we’ve benn married 14 years. I give zero fucks. Don’t let her spoil your Christmas.

Erm why are you there? Leave now and never visit again. You don't have to do this.

That’s disgraceful from her. Can you leave now?

How does she let you know she doesn’t know your name / how does she refer to you? I don’t believe she doesn’t know your name by the way! She wants to let you ‘know’ how insignificant you are. Don’t let her win!! Water off a ducks back and roll on 3.30. Sorry for your loss x

Agreed with PP, call her by a completely different name too and if she brings it up just say you were joining in with her odd little game of getting names wrong. Silly bitch. Enjoy spending time with your family instead. She sounds like a right piece of work

Call her by the wrong name too?

Call her Dave from now on, what a cow 😡

Well ffs! YANBU..my Mil knows my name and loved me from day one and after 15 years all she has been given remotely dgc wise from us is helping me through miscarriages... so no excuse. YOU are far from worthless op. Not to sure about her tbh! I hope you get so spend awesome time with your own family. For me it's dh's parents who i can relax with not my own mum and stepdad. I get the feeling of counting minutes... in our country there is a saying "leave it to what it's worth".. meaning it's not you- it's her. If this is the way it will continue it's worth nothing. all the best xxx

I agree with the “Call her Dave” option

Where's your husband in all of this?

How does he feel about his mum thinking that you are worthless until you reproduce?

"Well I wouldn't be visiting ever again and nor would any future child..."

Absolutely that.

Although depending on your husband's stance, I might be wondering if he's worth staying with.

That's just rude. I'm sorry, OP .

Don’t let her spoil your Christmas. This is her problem, not yours. Be the bigger person and make yourself a name badge to help her out. Hope rest of your Christmas is lovely. 💐

What a nasty cow. She’s the worthless one OP, no decent human being would behave like this towards their DIL (or SIL), the person their child loves and has chosen to spend their life with. Can you escape early (now) and get round to your parents?

So what does she call you then?

Honestly I really wouldn't stay. People suck up far too much just to keep the peace, it's your Christmas as well. Make a stand, call her Fred at the least.

My mum has been similar with my brothers partners for years. In conversation referring to ‘her’ or ‘she’ not by name...makes me sad/cross. I think with her it’s a possessive thing, that my brothers are ‘hers’. But then when I was on honeymoon she would phone the hotels every day...that didn’t go down well. She shows narcissistic tendencies...

She just calls me dhs name wife, or sorry what’s your name, or Jessica (DH xw name) 😔 she’s about 1/2 he drive from my mum and dad maybe we will slip away sooner