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AIBU?

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Aibu to take brothers presents back after they open them?

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ThatPeskyElf · 24/12/2018 10:11

2 brothers.
Neither have their own kids/family/bills (other than mobile bill) etc. One lives with my dad, the other with my mum (neither pay rent so all their income is theirs).
Just found out from my mum that neither have bought my daughter an Xmas gift.

I’m a skint single parent and I have bought them a nice tshirt each from Next. Can’t afford it, but it’s xmas.

My daughter doesn’t see her dad, none of his family bother with her. Only other gifts she gets are from me, my mum and my dad.
I know xmas shouldn’t be about getting gifts but I’m so upset they aren’t buying for my daughter as they’ve overspent on their Xmas do’s etc.
One bro has bought spas days for step
Mother and step sisters (2), other has bought for 3 of his friends kids.
We are close, have a good relationship... so why don’t they love their niece enough to buy for her when they spend so much on others?!!!!

Aibu to give them their tshirts that I’ve already wrapped then take them back after they’ve opened them if they do not produce a gift for my dd?? I would spend the money on taking my dd out somewhere before she goes back to school.

I’d never expect a gift for me from them, I host them here on Xmas day, they’re just cf aren’t they?!

OP posts:
forumdonkey · 25/12/2018 12:21

Ohhh love, they've behaved appallingly. I don't like Christmas for a number of reasons. Not in the least that one day can cause so much heartache and stress. Remember it's only one day. You can make it how you like for you and your DD. Children are so little for such a short time, make the most of the precious moments, mummy and daughter. Have a lovely day together

Weihnacht · 25/12/2018 12:31

That's horrid. Did you tell them you'd bought food? Don't hand over gifts op. Just return it all and don't contact them off your own back.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 25/12/2018 13:12

So not only do they not buy your or your DD anything, show up empty handed to expensive holiday meals, now they cheerfully plan to leave you out of pocket by not showing up at all to eat food you've already purchased for them to eat?

Wow.

Your brothers are selfish dicks. I'm so sorry. I'd not have them round again for a long, long time.

Your mum isn't much better by the way: she has catered to their entitled behaviour and failed to pull them up on it for their entire lives by the sounds of it. All while expecting you to carry on putting up with them.

Crazyfrog007 · 25/12/2018 13:20

Hi OP,

I hope you're having a lovely day with your daughter (and hopefully mother).

I would seriously consider going NC with your brothers but that's something to think about in the new year.

Sending lots of Christmas joy your way. Two people can make the absolute best Christmas day (especially when you don't have to cater for shit people) as I'm finding out this year.

FlowersFlowers

ThatPeskyElf · 25/12/2018 13:36

Keep up Gina

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GabsAlot · 25/12/2018 21:15

wow what a couple of wankers-decided to go to their cusins instead?

they sound about 12-dont invite them anymore

ThatPeskyElf · 25/12/2018 22:06

We’ve actually had a nice day, better than I thought we would.
Mum came over, had a glass of wine, dressed up the dog and have eaten our body weight in Jaffa cakes.
Stepdad has just turned up and we’re all watching Torvill and Dean.
Brothers spent the day hungover and pretty bored from what I can gather!

OP posts:
LoniceraJaponica · 25/12/2018 22:32

Karma

ThanosSavedMe · 25/12/2018 22:50

Do not do a thing for your brothers in future. Definitely take their gifts back and get a refund. Spend it on something nice for you and your dd

Maelstrop · 25/12/2018 23:08

So never host Christmas again, what idiots your dbs are!

HomeMadeMadness · 25/12/2018 23:26

Glad you had a nice day (and that your brothers didn't)! I hope you get you and or DD a treat with the money you'll save each year on the presents you won't be buying them!

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 26/12/2018 00:22

have eaten our body weight in Jaffa cakes

As close to heaven as anyone can get here on earth.

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