To think I can have sex before period without getting pregnant.

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I usually use condoms but around 2 days before my period I allow my partner to ejaculate inside me. He looks forward to this each month lol so I allow it as a treat.

I don’t want anymore children. I have been doing this for the past 2 years and seems to have worked so far.
I don’t do this anywhere near ovulation. Am I being risky?

Good~Grief

If his 'monthly treat' is worth the risk of an unwanted pregnancy then go for it. Sounds a bizarre agreement to me but we are all different, I can't imagine announcing it's treat night tonight

I know what you mean OP, ovulation is very obvious and regular for me and i've used that for 6yrs to stay unpregnant BUT, there IS a chance we could randomly ovulate late so i'd only do this if it would be ok in the end if i did get pregnant after all.

I track my ovulation and know when it's 'safe' for DH not to pull out. However, we know there is still a small risk and we're fine with that.

We've used this method for 7 years and have only had one (planned) pregnancy.

shivering it's weird to call it a treat!!
We all know it feels better, how great would it be to be spontaneous all of the time with no thought of contraception or safety?

If you can, do. If you can't, wrap it.

Ha ha ha ha ha! Don't do this unless you
a) Are secretly trying to get pregnant and you think your OH is too stupid to realise what you're doing.
or
b) You're using both ovulation tests and a daily basal thermometer reading to confirm that you have already really ovulated.

YOU WILL GET PREGNANT IF YOU DON"T USE CONTRACEPTION. SIMPLES.

Try Natural Cycles, it’s worked very well for me and is much more accurate than just standard period tracking or natural family planning. Just take your temperature first thing every day and the algorithm does the rest. There are generally only a few days you can get pregnant each month yes, but I wouldn’t completely wing it without being sure when you ovulated. I have a very regular cycle but don’t ovulate on the exact same day every month.

Love the comments. My method has worked so far. I know body well and my period is regular as clockwork. I see your points though. Will be taking on board the advice!!

It's a period of about 5-7 days where you can get pregnant each cycle, not 2-3. The problem is that you don't necessarily know when those fertile days are. It's easier to estimate if you have very regular periods and if you're tracking signs but unless you're doing the full NFP with combining cervical mucus and basal body temp you can't be sure, and even if you can pinpoint ovulation like this, there are always months where it's ambiguous and there is a chance you can ovulate twice in one cycle, this increases as you get older.

If you're relying simply on counting days around your period this could be unhelpful as the luteal phase can vary from anything from about 9 days, meaning you'd still be potentially fertile 2 days before, up to closer to 20. It's not an exact fortnight for everyone. You also have to be totally confident that you're identifying the first day of your period correctly, because lots of people spot before it's due. Then the gap between period and ovulation can vary too.

If you have a standard 28 day cycle there are the 5-7 days you're fertile, but a fair bit of ambiguity about where they are. The fertile period could span anywhere from day 7 to day 26. It's most likely to be somewhere from day 10-24. And if you have shorter cycles there is even more of the cycle time covered by the potential fertile window.

As you get older your cycles can change - get longer, shorter, you may not ovulate when you expect to or you may ovulate twice in one cycle so for that reason I wouldn’t risk it.

If you’re finished with children, send him for the snip! Then he gets a treat every time you dtd. It’s a very simple procedure- DH was in and out.

I was reluctant at first because it is so final, but actually our sex life improved greatly once the fear of pregnancy was removed.

It takes 2 to make and raise a baby, so why is birth control almost entirely left to the women? You’re a partnership!

I’m fairly confident that i’d have been able to do similar with confidence when I was fertile. My cycle was 29 days every single month. I had very obvious CM changes when ovulating as well as experiencing mittelschmerz every month and very distinct breast pain post ovulation. I wasn’t bothered about falling pregnant though. But I very much doubt I’d have fallen pregnant having sex on day 27/28 of my cycle. Sadly I had secondary infertility so we’ll never know if I’m talking shite or not......

If your periods are regular as clockwork it should be almost impossible to get pregnant from sex the day before your period. But, it only takes a late ovulation one month and you could get caught out.

We were vaguely trying and my cycles got longer and longer (28, 28, 29, 35, 48, then nothing from October to January). I was about to book a GP app so do a test, positive. I must have ovulated CD60ish.

What I'm saying is if your cycles are like clockwork, and then suddenly one isn't, you'd be shagging at prime conception time. I haven't seen an age mentioned, but releasing two eggs in a cycle is more common as you get older as well, the cycle is a fine balance of hormones, when they get out of whack there's no telling what will happen.

I have occasionally done this as a treat to both of us when I'm about to come on my period ( cause it is a treat, it's nice) but I wouldn't do it every month and I know it's a risk

What you need are Eccles Cakes Op. I treat DH to them every week and there’s no chance of me getting pregnant.

It’s definitely not failsafe because absolutely no contraception is but if you know your cycle, this method has worked for women for many years. It’s highly unlikely any woman with a regular cycle would ovulate anywhere near the time of her period. I know it’s always said to be possible to get pregnant whilst actually on your period but instances of that must be extremely rare.

The family planning clinic used to offer a naturally family planning free workshop. It’s for people who don’t want to use contraception. It is possible to know when you ovulate and track the changes when you are no longer fertile - by looking at changed in cervical fluid and also checking your morning resting temperature.

Whether you will get pregnant or not is pot luck but I find that your partner considers this a 'treat' to be really disgusting!

Also sperm can live in the body for up to 5 days regardless of your period so depending on how long you bleed for you could get pregnant.

Bleurgh tmi!

This is a forum for adult women largely for and about parenthood meangirls. It will occasionally discuss the physical process whereby you achieve parenthood (or avoiding the same).

I’m also a bit surprised that so many people are surprised by the idea of liking condom-free sex. Most people practicing NFP for non-religious reasons will have condoms to hand for when they fancy a shag at the wrong time of the month. This is just looking at it the other way around. I grant you that expressing it as “DH’s monthly treat” is a bit toe-curling.

I got pregnant after having sex right after my period ended. Nowhere near ovulation, you'd think, but I still conceived.

I was able to track my ovulation and avoid pregnancy for my entire reproductive life. It’s really not that risky if you have regular cycles and know the signs of ovulation.

Old cliché but true: what do you call couples who use natural contraceptive methods? - parents.

There are apps for natural birth control where you can track your temp and other things.

Although am reporting this post as there are disgusting men who want stories of women who do this for their own sick pleasure.