To think I can have sex before period without getting pregnant.

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I usually use condoms but around 2 days before my period I allow my partner to ejaculate inside me. He looks forward to this each month lol so I allow it as a treat.

I don’t want anymore children. I have been doing this for the past 2 years and seems to have worked so far.
I don’t do this anywhere near ovulation. Am I being risky?

If you are regular, track ovulation properly and know you have already ovulated then it's not risky. If not then it is risky as sometimes we can ovulate late...

OP I agree with you. There is only 2-3 days each month you can fall pregnant.

Oh come on - do people really still believe this shit?

I think the OP is getting a fairly hard time. Recognising your body’s cues on ovulation may not be 100% infallible but it’s not like guessing the lottery FFS: many many women can do it to a high level of accuracy if they’re paying attention, especially if they’re TTC. Barring freak changes to her cycle her method should reduce her risk of pregnancy from 80% per year to less than 5%, which would suggest she’s got just as high a risk of pregnancy from using condoms on the other 26 days as from the 2 days condom free.

That said, the human body is not a machine, and freak cycle changes do happen. You’ll probably get away with it OP, but I personally wouldn’t risk it if pregnancy would be a disaster. If your family is complete then maybe male or female sterilisation is an option?

You allow him this as a treat? Just buy him a bar of Cadbury’s Whole Nut. It’s a damn sight safer
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Pretty sure I conceived at the end of my cycle. It seems like a stupid question to me. But as long as your happy finding out your unexpectedly pregnant.....

I tracked my ovulation. And still in some how managed to get pregnant on the day before my period. (Nowhere near ovulation) Youn can get pregnant at anytime!

5 days before and 5 days after period is safe.

My GP told me this and it’s never failed for me.

Biologically you cannot get pregnant a couple of days before your periods. Not possible and indeed why you haven't got pregnant in the two years...but... you could have an odd one out when your body does something unexpected. This will become more likely as you get older.

So going on what you rely on now, regular periods and physical sign of ovulation, you are pretty safe. However, considering the rat there will be a time when the regularity will not be so one day, you are taking a risk.

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You mean on the day you thought your period was due. It is not biologically possible to fall pregnant a day before your period would have come on. Eggs survive only 24 h, at exceptionally best 48h, ot 10 days ! By the time your period is due, your progesterone levels drop and couldn't hold a pregnancy.

That’ll be (probably) fine if you ovulate mid-cycle Trolley, but it’s absolutely not fine if you ovulate unusually early or late, either every cycle or as a one-off.

I don’t agree though. Conception can only happen during ovulation. I will have already ovulated by more than a week prior to my period

You don’t agree? Science dlcertainly doesn’t agree with you. How do you know you’ve ovulated? Withought looking at your ovaries you can’t be 100% certain. It’s absolutely normal for women to ovulate early and late and have no idea.

There’s nothing to ‘sort’. If you and your DP want to be responsible, no sex until he puts something on the end of it.

There are lots of contraception options for people that don’t want hormones or those at risk from DVT.

There’s no excuse really.

Sperm can survive within a body for a couple of days, so yes, you can get pregnant if you have sex before ovulation.

Biologically you cannot get pregnant a couple of days before your periods.

Of course you can! You can get pregnant at any time in your cycle - it might be less likely at certain times but it's still possible. It completely depends on when you ovulate, whether it's late/early and a whole host of other factors.

Pregnancy and conception is not an exact science!

Biologically you cannot get pregnant a couple of days before your periods.

Yes. And as this poster and others have said, the issue is that you won't always know when your period is about to start. As I have got older I have had the odd month when 1 period has come 14 days after another so who knows when I ovulatw for that.

Why don't you get sterilized or ask your dp to get the snip? Then he could have a "treat" any time.

I really don’t like the thought of chemicals in my body.

Your body is made entirely of chemicals.

I got pregnant not around peak ovulation time. It was fine for us as we wanted another child but it's unpredictable so I would never chance it. Only do it if another pregnancy isn't an issue for you.

Oh dear.

You are playing a risky game. You might be fine and get away with it for years but it only takes one miscalculation.

I got pregnant when tracking ovulation and avoiding my most fertile days. That was with making sure he always finished outside as well - even on low risk days. Some very determined escapee sperm still found its way.

Even if you are being careful the rest of them month you can still get pregnant, adding in the ejaculate inside the week before period just ups your risk factor.

I used to use a device called Persona which required you to pee on stick every single morning. The Persona would measure the amount of hormones in your wee and after months of analyzing, it would tell you when you were ovulating by showing an egg-shaped outline in its window. This was the contraceptive method XH and I used because I'm allergic to latex and the Pill didn't agree with me. I only ever got pg when I was ready, and the Persona was perfect for that, too.

Well I had to have ivf for my first child then thought I didn't need contraception. The first night we were in the same bed together I got pregnant, then I had a period, so didn't realize till I was 10 weeks. And now pregnant at 43 after trying for only a month. Bodies aren't machines and they aren't consistent.

I can well understand it's a treat for your partner. Sex is far more pleasurable without a layer of latex between you. How is that "weird"?

It's obviously not 100% safe but if you are regular it is fairly low risk. It's a better time than during your period. And I'm shocked at the poster who said her GP said it was ok for five days after her period. It's definitely not. Let's say period lasts six days, plus five days is day 11. If you have a text book 28 day cycle ovulating on day 14, you are at risk as sperm can live for several days.

After ov the egg can only be fertilised for about 24 hours. So the OPs method is ok unless something throws ovulation wildly out. As can happen of course.

What you need are Eccles Cakes Op. I treat DH to them every week and there’s no chance of me getting pregnant.

Nine years ago I "knew my cycles".

My daughter has just turned eight.

Can't he use a condom when he comes inside you as his 'treat'

I think you've missed the point!

We were trying for ds... but illness meant we didn't have sex for almost the whole month... we finally did it a day before my period was due. Ds just turned 2.
Dh has now had the snip... although he was happy to use condoms in the meantime as... well... you know... he's a grown up.