To think I can have sex before period without getting pregnant.

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I usually use condoms but around 2 days before my period I allow my partner to ejaculate inside me. He looks forward to this each month lol so I allow it as a treat.

I don’t want anymore children. I have been doing this for the past 2 years and seems to have worked so far.
I don’t do this anywhere near ovulation. Am I being risky?

I don’t agree though. Conception can only happen during ovulation. I will have already ovulated by more than a week prior to my period

then why have you bothered to post and ask if it's risky if you don't agree? It's extremely risky and I hope you are ready for whichever route you will have to take when you inevitably become pregnant.

There's a version of the coil that doesn't involve artificial hormones, isn't there?

You don't like chemicals in your body?? Do you know what chemicals ARE, OP??

If you definitely don't want any more children, then one if you gets sterilized. Sorted.

DH getting the snip was one of the best decisions we ever made.

Yes of course you can.
It is true you can only get pregnant when you ovulate, but sperm can stay inside you for 6 days and you never know when you will ovulate.

@justthistimeagain I already have heavy periods so this would make it worse.
And no way would I have sex on my period.

You're kind of using the rhythm method then aren't you? If you don't want more kids then it's not 100% safe so you need to use protection. Can't he use a condom when he comes inside you as his 'treat'

you are aware that stress can throw ovulation off track as can other things. sperm can also live several days after ejaculation and you can get pregnant during your period.

I have heavy and painful periods and I'm having to go on copper coil to test it out as I can't have any hormonal contraception. It's just something you have to test to see if your body agrees with it.

May as well try it than risking it like you are; which I find irresponsible leaving it all to chance.

My friend genuinely believe this was true.

Her daughter just turned one.

You can ovulate twice in a cycle. It's rare but happens. You could of ovulated and then ovulated again closer to your period and not realise it. You'll then be pregnant

Well isn’t risk of blood clots what progesterone-only contraception is for? Like every single hormonal coil?

I’ve never actually seen a LITERAL “aibu” “yes” “i don’t agree”, so well done on that one OP.

I’m honestly amazed someone can be this thick. Of course you can get pregnant. You might be able to ‘just sense’ ovulation but I’d assume that’s like how I can ‘just sense’ winning lottery numbers. I’m still in my overdraft.

Him ejaculating inside you as a treat is making me cringe so much.
And of course it’s risky!

It's because "Vatican Roulette" is so reliable, that traditional Catholic countries are noted for having very small families.

My periods and ovulation are like clockwork until i went through a stressful patch with family health/travelling for a few weeks. This meant my period was 2 weeks late!!! This would have meant ovulation was also 2 weeks late. Therfore i was fertile at the time my period was expected! Don't be silly now.

I just sense ovulation. I know the signs.

Hahahahaha!

It's because "Vatican Roulette" is so reliable, that traditional Catholic countries are noted for having very small families.

^This.

It's because "Vatican Roulette" is so reliable, that traditional Catholic countries are noted for having very small families.

^^^ this. Discuss the risk and if it's one you both agree to taking, given the potential outcome.

We used 'natural family planning' methods for years before deciding to have our first and then between children as I can't use contraception.

If your period is on time all the time the chances of falling pregnant at that time are next to none. Your period arrives 14 days after you ovulate if you don't fall pregnant.

Start tracking your cycle and see if you can pinpoint ovulation, I actually get 'ovulation pain' so I know when I ovulate.

If you definitely don't want children then I would still probably avoid unprotected sex at all as there is a slim chance of releasing a second egg or a late ovulation even if you are tracking your cycle.

All that ‘I allow it as a treat’ stuff sounds like a bizarre version of Mary Poppins. Who would tell you to get a grip and sort out your contraception, and buy a human biology textbook.

@Applecrumble79 that’s his treat? I am curious as to know what treat he affords you

Diaphragm or cervical cap? Then you could double up (or just use condoms) when you're most fertile if you're worried, but use that all the time.

OP, after my surprise baby, I was sterilized.

It is literally the most liberating thing I have ever done.

If you are sure that you are done, I recommend it.

Thanks for all your responses. Will be sorting this out aaafter xmas!!

Who wants to put money on next year’s Christmas post being “now we have a baby”...

I used this method for 3 years before having DD, she was planned, then 7 years since. No accidents. I know when I ovulate as I track it and my periods are regular.