To ask if you are age 45-55

[Iamtheoneandonly2018]

Did you go to your parents with your problems? Was talking about this to someone and we both can't work out if it's a generational thing. We were left to deal with stuff on our own/ told we were making a mountain out of a molehill etc. Parents still won't discuss stuff now - still ignored or brushed under the carpet.

No. Parents were not there for me emotionally. I inform them after the fact if there are problems but usually after I have had a go at sorting them out.

An example. Tried to talk about depression to mum - her rwply 'oh, for god's sake just snap out of it- stop being a drama queen, it's not always all about you you know!'

No. I was the eldest, my siblings came to me (and still do).

I would rarely discuss anything in depth with my parents when they were alive, and when I did it tended to be more my dad than my mum.

Iam that could have been my mum too

I could talk to my Mum about anything but sadly she isn't here anymore. LC with Father, so no parents to talk to. I miss that a lot about my Mum.

Christ no. It would be used as evidence against me for years to come.

My mum is 58 so slightly out of your age bracket but can always go to her mum for support. She (her mum, my Grandmother) has suffered numerous mental illnesses over the years (thankfully recovered now), and is very open and understanding so nothing is brushed under the carpet or ignored, though I'm not sure that's the norm for her generation as my other grandmother was the complete opposite.

I am 33 and would be completely lost without my mum for emotional support.

My parents both died 20 years ago. I'm nearly 50. I'd sometimes discuss stuff with my mum.

No. I agree with @hamiltoncork, it'd be used as evidence later!

My dad still thinks of me as a spendthrift who makes bad decisions. I made one, but that was about 18 years ago.

Yes, I still talk to my Mum about things. She has lots of commonsense and is a good sounding board. We often share how hopeless men can be and despair how things haven't really changed

Never went to my parents for emotional support. They love me and helped me no end financially when I finally got divorced but there was no way I could discuss the problems that led to it with them while it was happening. Father has no empathy at all and mother saves all hers for him.

I am 50. I still talk to my Mum about some things but I choose wisely...mostly because I don't want MY worries to cause her distress.
However she is a wealth of common sense and kindness even though I'm sure she still thinks of me as a child in many ways!

God, no, dad has never told me he loves me, even. Makes me sad.

I’m 48. DPs both quite good with practical advice but do not discuss emotions. When I told my parents I had failed my degree and had an eating disorder, my mum left the room. She didn’t come back. She was doing paperwork in her office. She told everyone I had glandular fever. We have never spoken of it again. I could still have bulimia for all she knows.

My Mum would have been there for me but I stopped turning to her in my teens. She was a very loving person but a bit old fashioned and out of touch with my life. I loved her hugely too but was deeply independent and relied on friends not family for support. That's still true.

I have a much closer relationship with my DD18. I think I understand her life pretty well and she trusts my advice but she also has space to have her own private life and confides closely with her friends.

No. I was often told "you've made your bed now you have to lie in it" when I went to them to try and tell them about domestic abuse I was subjected to. I was also told I'd shamed them when I left my ex husband. My sister suffered with awful postnatal depression and was told to "pull yourself together everyone gets the baby blues". We both parent very differently to how our parents did and were very low contact with them until they died.

No. I kept my worries to myself then had still do now - sharing some with DH and friends but not with DM.

My younger dsis however has always talked freely with our DM.

Interesting question and answers. No, I never have. Some of my friends just a few years younger have closer relationships.

No. I talked to my friends for emotional support. She is loving but finds emotional support hard. For example as a teenager a child in my class got leukaemia. I tried to talk to her about it, and she just said oh she will be fine, they have some great treatments these days. The girl died and I did not talk to my mum about it.
So I don't think it is lack of love, just that she can't really do it if you know what I mean.

Just thinking about this more, my mother used to get very angry with me if I even let it show that I was feeling low, never mind asking her for any support. No. I am not allowed to be hurt or sad or angry or depressed. I just staple gun on the bland smile and we talk about the weather. I don't feel close to her at all because I can only show certain sides to her.

Realise I only talked about my mum. My dad was a fairly absent father, Physically there but did not interact with us much as kids at all.

44. Have literally never had a conversation with my parents about my depression.

I do go to them with practical problems though, and they are generally good and helpful about those.

@maelstrop, you've just made me realise my dad has never said he loves me either He does though.

I’m 46, my parents have been very supportive. I’ve not always wanted to go to them with my problems but when I have they were amazing. When I separated from my husband they welcomed me back home and tried to help put me back together. I remember calling them in despair one day at work and they drove 30 miles to check I was ok.
I don’t go to my mum so much now as she’s older and I don’t want to worry or upset her.

Wouldn't have dreamed of asking my mum yet my kids think I'll solve everything still