To make DH unwrap and rewrap presents for me?

[MincePieMum]

I want him to re-wrap my presents in the correct paper. Am I being a dick? Sorry this is long.

Every year DH stays up until 12/1/2am Christmas Eve and our DS is still young and giddy with excitement; he's prone to waking veeerrry early Christmas Day. Last year it was 4am and we did everything we could to get him back to bed but failed. This year will be no different. DH is then grumpy all day as he's not had enough sleep. Always promises next year will be different. I've been trying really hard to make this year easy on all of us. I've been wrapping a few presents a night for most of December.

I have done all the present buying for everyone including his family. Including oversees family and getting cards and presents written/posted in time.

We both work full time. He finished for Christmas more than a week ago, he had all of last week off. I finished for Christmas on Saturday lunchtime.

We've just had a massive argument over Christmas presents.

I asked him to come upstairs and help me sort through presents as I was having a massive twitch over DS present pile looking expensively small. He asked "do I have to do it now?" And I replied "how long shall I wait for you?" It turns out he meant to say "I don't want to, can't you worry about it now, then fix it all for us so that I can carry on not giving a fuck?"

When he finally came up to help, we went through it all and he agrees the pile and stocking are both small. Now he wants to buy cheap plastic tat to pad it out with. I don't as I've done this in previous years. DS doesn't play with the tat and it will still be littering our planet 1000 years from now, still with the gift tag on. I'm being negative apparently.

I suggested giving one of my presents to DS instead. One of the presents I bought myself and put in a box in his wardrobe, in front of him, saying "here are 3 Christmas presents I really want this year. I bought them, all you need to do is wrap them". Because I tried the same thing last year and he didn't bother to wrap the present I bought myself, he just moved it along the shelf a little towards my side of the bed. Didn't put it under the tree or give it to me in person. So when I suggested my present for DS, he looked completely blank. He'd forgotten.

I asked what he had wrapped last week when he made a big show of hiding upstairs to wrap, when he'd been home alone all day and I'd just got in with DS from school and needed a quick turnaround to get him back out for football. No he hadnt cooked dinner.
He has got me other things, which is great, but it turns out he has used the paper that is only for gifts that come from Santa.

I had told him I was doing this. I told him last year that we should have separate paper, but he refused as he'd left everything to the last minute. I don't want a present for DS from Santa to be wrapped in the same paper as a present from DH to me. DS is going to suss and I'd rather not risk it. He agreed or he didn't listen and nodded in the right places.

So we've argued about all of this because I'm pissed and wouldn't let him off the hook. I'm not going to back down on this. Unless the general consensus is that I'm being a dick.

Chill out, don’t infantise him, let him be found out and grow up. He’s a probably a problem part of your own making.
BTW your post could have been he’s used the Santa paper for another present, don’t want son to suss it WIBU to tell him to rewrap it, he’s a lazy f* so it will cause an issue.

Of course this is the bit of the thread where people will keep telling you off for days to come

Glad you had some nice gifts!

@NopeNi Yes indeed! I would have thought the title would have made the thread defunct by now.

Although someone will come along and say they had assumed I was trying to resolve an early wrapping crisis before next Christmas! TIA

Happy Christmas?

Just wanted to say sorry for clumping down my emotional wobblie all over your thread yesterday. It was a tough day. And the kindness of the few people on here really REALLY helped. Was a better day today. Still had bad moments but within a good day, and I managed to ‘be mummy’ instead of a terrifying snotty mess. So yay!

Ive been slightly (aka completely) panicked as woke up with an increasingly swollen little finger, which is somehow infected. I hadn’t realised that I’d been ignoring the last 2 days before, too many other things to think about. Spent the day watching it and hoping I can make it through the next few days and not have to head out to find healthcare... not ideal when you’re housebound a lot, and have no helpers (or anyone else here except DS, 8yrs old) until the 29th. Cue pen marks on finger and photos through the day to chart progress and convince self it’s not going septic! Anyway; it’s twice the size and throbbing nicely, but has definitely stopped moving down towards my hand, so panic avoided, phew! Also, other rubbishness was that we do this silly little tradition each year where rudolf’s bad steering tips one present off the sleigh into our back yard, which has developed into a small- medium size pressie being hidden in the yard and DS and I hunting for it. This year it was a silly game involving a parping monkey (clearly from FC as mummy would Never buy such a terrible bad taste game!). Anyway, it was hidden under my mobility scooter cover, wedged under the seat. In the yard.

But it had been nicked by the time wecwebfvg. Poor DS’s, he’s so sad. Not the value of the gift in money, it’s the ritual and he excitement... who would do such an awful thing?

Although now he’s asleep am allowing self a tiny swear... ‘ffs when is enough enough? Go find someone else to pick on, my life is already fucking hard enough without anything or anyone making it harder!’ Ah well.

But anyway, sounds stupid but in spite of these serious whines on here, the day was still a Good Day with my boy.

Happy Christmas to you Mince

@WellThisIsShit That's really shitty about the present. Really, who would do that?!

I'm glad you managed to get some good from this thread, I certainly did too. Although I've spent some of my day today with my head in a bowl, trying not to be sick. DH has the shits and I feel like our home needs to be burned to the ground and re-built!! The only way to get rid of this sickness bug we have been passing on to each other for the last 2 weeks.

I often see DS being really compassionate and caring towards others. From a young age he has had to learn that other people can be ill, have feelings etc and the world doesn't actually revolve around him. That's tough to learn at a young age but disability in the family makes this necessary. There is always something good to come of our struggles. Keep being positive and enjoy your little family

Why are you with this man? He sounds like a selfish prick, much like my ex. I got rid of him for similar reasons.