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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
DeepanKrispanEven · 25/12/2018 00:58

SheWore, if you agree to babysit overnight on the basis that the children will be picked up in the morning, it's entirely reasonable to book for a panto the following afternoon. And, of course, it may well be that the panto was booked well before OP agreed to babysit.

justilou1 · 25/12/2018 01:00

I am dying to hear how Boxing Day goes...
I am hoping you and DH are gifted with a weekend of babysitting and fully covered spa weekend in said hotel, BUT my family is full of entitled CF so I know you’re going to get some re-gifted beauty gift with purchase or a shitty candle and expect to act delighted instead of underwhelmed. You’re also never going to be reimbursed for the ticket. I can see fireworks.

TheLittleDogLaughed · 25/12/2018 07:35

Unbelievable. And then to get dropped off at home first, thus taking up even more of your time! They should pay for all if you to have an afternoon out somewhere to say sorry.

billybagpuss · 25/12/2018 07:59

Merry Christmas OP hope tomorrow goes well

MsTSwift · 25/12/2018 08:44

No good deed unpunished it seems! They are not good people. And have shot themselves in the foot for any childcare henceforth. Ooops! Happy Christmas op x

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 25/12/2018 08:45

I would have been pretty pissed off at dsis and her DH staying late at the hotel, but what was required was for dsis to come to collect her children (eventually) and grovel and apologise.
Not decide to be dropped off home and not show her face.
Too tired? She obviously didn't consider that the OP might be tired after 6 hours of unscheduled childcare.
That's the ultimate CFery

Littlenic73 · 25/12/2018 08:53

Pay for the kids to go to the panto and send the bill to DSis after

ResistanceIsNecessary · 25/12/2018 09:01

Hope you are having a lovely day today OP. Good luck for tomorrow.

Clutterbugsmum · 25/12/2018 09:12

Her DH was incredibly sheepish when he picked the kids up, very apologetic. I'm wondering if she also lied to her DH and told him you told her to come back when they were ready as you were not doing anything on Christmas eve.

FrancisCrawford · 25/12/2018 09:21

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WhereYouLeftIt · 25/12/2018 09:50

"Obviously the Op can book the panto for whenever."
Really? Our local panto books up quickly and early, so don't be too sure about that SheWore. You're very determined that this was the OP's fault, aren't you? Are you the sister, by any chance?

InsomniacAnonymous · 25/12/2018 10:32

Littlenic73 "Pay for the kids to go to the panto and send the bill to DSis after"

Look at the date of the OP! The panto was 2 days ago.

RCohle · 25/12/2018 10:43

Plus, if it's a well attended panto, how on Earth was OP meant to magic up two more seats next to where her family were already sitting?

RedSkyLastNight · 25/12/2018 11:34

For the weekend before Christmas, our local panto was booked up by March/April time. And if you both work and don't, for example, want to book the panto on a school night it can be tricky to find a suitable slot.
So "booking the panto whenever" is really not an option, and quite possible that this was booked first.

thebaronetofcockburn · 25/12/2018 11:50

Well, Droning, it appears your sister, SheWore found the thread. You were supposed to plan your family's outing to indulge her pisstaking because ya know, she has toddlers.

DartmoorDoughnut · 25/12/2018 12:43

@SheWoreBlueVelvet who gives a flying fuck what was booked first?! The Op agreed to babysit for a specified amount of time and had plans with HER children which she missed out on thanks to her DSis (you?)

GladAllOver · 25/12/2018 13:05

Hi there SheWore
I hope when you meet your sister tomorrow at your DM's you will have the good grace to apologise sincerely for making her miss the panto.

EKGEMS · 25/12/2018 14:15

How was Christmas SheWoreBlueVelvet* in your parallel universe?

FlamingoPoet · 25/12/2018 15:13

What does DSis mean? Your sister? I get so confused by MN talk! Oh and yeah, they’re dicks whoever they are.

GlitterStick · 25/12/2018 15:52

DSis - dear sister.
Not so dear in this case though lol

CountessOfNowhere · 25/12/2018 16:15

Just found this thread - what aresholes your DSis and BIL are. Good luck for tomorrow op!

CantGetDecentNickname · 25/12/2018 23:16

Am furious on your behalf OP - that they spoiled your panto trip with the kids, but you definitely did the right thing. Am angry as I know how soon the time comes when your kids no longer want to go to the panto. Your sister owes you replacement tickets to the panto and if they are sold out, then tickets to another production for children later in the year or a day out somewhere they would like. Definitely wouldn’t babysit again. Good luck Flowers

MaggieFS · 25/12/2018 23:33

Definitely CFs!

@DroningOn I think you had the right approach when you said this wouldn't be all out feuding forever but they can forget any future childcare.

Do let us know how tomorrow goes!

HardyforTom · 25/12/2018 23:54

Unbelievable CFery. Well done for handling it so well op. Let us know how it goes tomorrow.

I love a good drink but could not imagine drinking to this level of excess now I've got two kids, one a 5 month old and the other 2.5 years. I'd need a couple of nights off before the event so I could catch up on enough sleep to be able to stay awake until 4am.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 26/12/2018 00:03

Sheworebluevelvet does appear to be, if not the actual sister in this situation, at least of the same mindset!!

Which should stand as a warning to anyone who knows her - don't agree to a favour of babysitting, as she's likely to fuck you over on the grounds that you should have expected it and rearranged your life around her toddler-free time.