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Absolutely Raging at DSis

619 replies

DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:45

DSis and her DH were at a wedding yesterday, we had their DD1 and DS3 overnight. We've got a panto today at 1:30 for me, DH and our 2 kids.

DSis knows of our plans and has just text to say that both her and DH had too much to drink last night and can't drive until at least mid afternoon. They're 90 mins away so that's today's plans fucked up. Obvs not an AIBU but I am incandescent with rage at the moment.

AAAARGH! Angry

OP posts:
Write · 23/12/2018 10:54

Tell them to get a taxi!

Molakai · 23/12/2018 10:54

Actually I agree - one of them should get taxi to yours right now and wait for spouse to sober up and pick them all up.

thefleurdelis · 23/12/2018 10:54

Find a babysitter. Do you have friends with a teenager. Tell Sis that what you are doing and that she will be paying double time for that.

Dinnerfor1 · 23/12/2018 10:54

That’s awful, I would be so cross at my dsis if she did similar. It’s incredibly selfish behaviour. I would try to insist they do something to fix the situation. Otherwise they need to pay you for the cost of the pants tickets.

Dinnerfor1 · 23/12/2018 10:55

*panto tickets obviously, not pants tickets!

EhlanaOfElenia · 23/12/2018 10:56

They catch a taxi to your house with the car seats and stay there looking after their own DC. After the panto either you or your DH drive them home.

If they don't do this you want tickets for another panto or you never babysit for her again.

Original poster
DroningOn · 23/12/2018 10:56

Babysitting for them is off the cards forever.

DH going to panto with our two and I'm reliving my early child rearing years from 10 years ago this afternoon.

Apparently not their fault as they don't get out often and they just got carried away with the party. Un-fucking-believable

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sackrifice · 23/12/2018 10:56

Send the two kids to the panto and go to bed with hubby. Pantos are rubbish

Huh?

Chocolatecake12 · 23/12/2018 10:56

They need to get to you. Can they get a taxi as pp have suggested or a train? Only one of them needs to be at yours until the other one can drive and collect them all.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 23/12/2018 10:57

Could one of you take your children and the other wait for Mr and Mrs drunkypants to show up?

Grace212 · 23/12/2018 10:58

they should pay for the panto tickets and if they were decent, a massive apology gift for you as you've missed out.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 23/12/2018 10:58

Xposts.
How rubbish for you.

On the plus side this might be a unanimous 'yanbu' which rarely happens.

By comparison I rarely go out so know I'm a raging lightweight so have max 2 glasses of champagne. Dp is the same.

YouTheCat · 23/12/2018 10:59

I think that's the only solution. At least your kids still get to see the panto. And I'd never babysit for your sis again.

Returnofthesmileybar · 23/12/2018 10:59

What have you said???

"It's this simple, you get back here you selfish bitch or the kids get dropped at the police station. Because if you think my kids are missing out because you and x are selfish twats then you are sadly mistaken"

I know you wouldn't do it, neither would I but it might show how angry you are? Is there anyone else can take them?

Star81 · 23/12/2018 11:00

Make it clear that you only get out to a panto with your children once a year !!!!

TokyoSushi · 23/12/2018 11:00

Oh that's terrible. Emotions aside the practical solution is for one parent to go with your DC's to the panto and the other to stay home with 'D'Sis children.

I would be absolutely furious though.

CatnissEverdene · 23/12/2018 11:00

Oh my god, that's a horrendous liberty to take after such a kind gesture.

Is there any family nearby who would step in for you??

AtrociousCircumstance · 23/12/2018 11:00

That’s so selfish of them. Well, you’ll never do them a favour again!

HughLauriesStubble · 23/12/2018 11:01

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MarmaladeIsMyJam · 23/12/2018 11:01

Is she even sorry? she doesn't sound it! I hope she is going to refund for your ticket!

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/12/2018 11:02

What a pair of useless twats. Sorry your plans are ruined Sad

Heartofglass21 · 23/12/2018 11:02

Can you get extra panto tickets and take her kids along too?

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 23/12/2018 11:03

She should be paying for your pants tickets too as a gesture. She has spoilt your Christmas family treat.
Unfortunately the no babysitting means the cousins will not be able to have a sleepover again.

SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 23/12/2018 11:03

Do you babysit for them often? Do they have form for this?

Beamur · 23/12/2018 11:04

Can you find a local babysitter? If so, I'd engage a sitter for when you need to leave and tell your DSIS she'll need to pay when she collects.