To consider going to a strip club cheating?

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DP went out last night and was home much earlier than I was expecting, I asked him why and he said everyone had gone to a strip club so he got his kebab and came home

As the conversation went on he basically expected me to be very grateful that he didn’t go and came home early instead so I said “I’m supposed to be super grateful that you didn’t cheat on me, pay for the privilege and exploit a load of vulnerable women in the process? Get a fucking grip!” And basically we got into a bit of a ‘stripclubs aren’t cheating, yes they are’ back and forth for a while

I don’t understand how having a naked woman rub herself all over you would ever not be cheating - and even worse in a strip club than if you were just at a party because you’re actually paying for it! If it was a prostitute it’d be cheating so why not a stripper?!

He thinks I’m being dramatic
Do you consider going to a strip club cheating?

Isn’t the main thing here that he came home? You’ve got a goodun

Oh and no, it’s not cheating, but paying someone to wipe their naked fanny on your face and pay them for the pleasure is probably worse

So the man who goes to a strip club is either a disgusting lech or a pathetic sheep

Yes - such a catch!

Of course it's not cheating - unless he kisses them or has sex with them.

Poor bloke might as well have gone anyway, for all the grief he got when he came home early.

Sounds like a really decent man - came home early, told you the truth and what did he get - a load of earache.

No Lucy they seem to have had a heated discussion to thrash out something important. Don't you ever discuss things in this way?

No I do not consider it cheating at all. I wouldn’t even consider a lap dance cheating. I have actually accompanied DP to strip clubs in the past. I see nothing wrong with it.

I do see something wrong with a lot of the judgmental posts here.

Never mind.

Elphie I really dont understand that issue. Are you fine for a female friend of your DPs to writhe half naked inches from his face?

It's not cheating but it's so fucking grim that I'd seriously question the type of man who would go to one of those things and pay for a strip tease.

IMO I wouldn't class it as cheating. I'm ok with my DH going if it is with reason (a stag do, or at a birthday) but I also know he isn't interested and 9/10 will find a way out to not go i.e. go to another pub or club and meet back up later. Having said that I'm not keen on lapdances, each to their own, but we are both on the same page that they are pretty seedy when your in a relationship. I do understand people who are not ok with it and believe that it is an opinion that should be respected in a relationship. Alot of my friends are 100% not ok with it, which is fine, and I do see that it can cause alot of problems in relationships when that boundry is crossed. I think also alot if the time men attend these types of things not soley for the purpose of wanting to look but from peer pressure from the lads... which yes sadly still happens even when your an adult. Annoyingly for me is I have been used many times in those arguments.. 'but xxx wife is cool with it why do you have to be a nag/difficult'

I don’t see going in a strip club as cheating tbh. You seem to be very OTT about it.

Yet another person who thinks that letchy men are no big deal. This thread has certainly been an eye opener and not in good way.