DS messaging ex teacher

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Ds left school in the summer and has been messaging on instagram an ex teacher of his. He is 17 and she must be mid 20s. I know this because he left his phone home while going out one day and messages came up, I know it's bad but recognised her name and read them. Started off innocent about how he was getting on now but have turned quite flirtatious. Obviously I am massively concerned about this. AIBU to message the school saying this young teacher is flirting with my DS who has only just left school months ago? Or is it none of my business now he has left, and perfectly legal? Really not sure of rules on this!

In the end I contacted the school and also spoke to my son about it. It has been a pretty stressful Christmas but in the end I feel he understood why I did it, maybe.

I actually went in and spoke to the head. I didn't really want to put it on email since I didn't know who would read it. I have heard nothing since, but he was very nice and respecful about it and said he would be taking action on it and he was sorry and it shouldn't have happened!

Thanks for the update. Sounds like you handled it really well. I’m sorry you had a stressful Christmas....... wishing you a new start now in 2019 x

You did the right thing OP.

Well done

You definitely did the right thing OP and your DS will see that in the long run.

Definitely think you did the right thing. I’m a teacher and would never dream of having contact with students or recent ex-students outside of school and neither would 99% of teachers. At our school we are specifically told we are not to have any kind of contact socially e.g phone contact/social media etc with ex pupils. Years ago I remember some teachers I knew were Facebook friends or even went out socially with ex students which I thought was a little dodgy but now it’s totally forbidden. Teachers have got to be so careful.