Friend asked me not to send him a Xmas card next year

[Loletta]

Felling a bit puzzled and would like to know if I'm being unreasonable to feel like this.
I sent Christmas cards last week. Tonight my DS went out with his friends and asked me to pick him up and give his friend a lift home. The family of his friend was one of the recipients of the cards I sent. When I dropped her off, the dad opened the door and thanked me for the lift and then said "Do you mind not sending us a Christmas card next year please? Just because it's embarrassing. We don't celebrate Christmas".
I'm a bit . I'm not religious and neither is this family but in our family we still celebrate and give each other gifts. I know this family quite well, we've been on holiday together and sometimes hang out at the weekend...I was aware that they don't celebrate Christmas but thought a card would be gladly received as it's also wishing them well for the new year. AIBU to feel it's a bit of an odd thing to say?

You knew they didn’t celebrate Christmas but you sent them a card?

Are they JW?

Why would you send a card if you knew they didn’t celebrate Christmas at all?

Please tell me this is a joke.

It sounds like they have been perfectly reasonable about it. They'd prefer not to receive a card. They politely requested you don't send one. Why that bothering you in any way?

Not really odd so YABU. If somebody sent me a card for something like winter solstice, I would probably wonder why, as I have never celebrated it in my life and friends know that. He's saving you postage and money for a card so don't worry. Send a separate card for new year well wishes, or a text.

They have politely asked you to respect their wishes yabu

If they didnt celebrate I wouldnt send cards. Although someone I know who doesnt celebrate christmas sent me a card and I was confused and I hope they understand why I didnt send them a card..

Is it a Christmas card though, or a “seasons greetings” or even a happy new year card (I’m sure I’ve seen them somewhere)

YABU to send a Christmas card to people you know don’t celebrate Christmas. How would you feel to receive a card saying happy honnikah or Diwali

YABU. They don't celebrate Christmas, you knew this, but you still sent something which celebrates Christmas.

Are you usually this dense?

If it is because of a religious thing e.g. if they are a religion that doesn't celebrate Christmas, then it's even more strange to send one to them

As long as he was polite, YABU.

Full moon? Broken up from work? Generally batshit? These are the only conclusion I have for tonight's threads.

I think that weird.

I don’t celebrate Christmas as I’m Jewish. But I would never be so rude as to to tell someone not to send me a card.

It’s given in good faith and should be accepted as such.

You must know yabu really

You sound so rude! They've made it clear time and again they don't celebrate Christmas and you keep sending a card?!

Posted too soon trying to correct spelling of Hanukkah.
Was supposed to end with saying if you aren’t a follower of the appropriate faith. You would find that strange.

You should respect their wishes and faith

It's incredibly rude to say that to. Your card was sent with good intentions. Different if you expected a card in return.

I say this as someone raised not celebrating Xmas for religious reasons and this would have been the stance my parents took. Very kind to send a card and we appreciate your thoughts however we won't reciprocate because of x.

If you knew they didn't celebrate Christmas,
then it wasn't a good idea to send them a card.

But

If someone had sent me one and I didn't want it, I would just recycle it and wouldn't say anything.

Maybe you're a bit hard of thinking and the family are fed up of circumlocution-ing? Hence saying directly stop it you're embarrassing yourself?

Maybe.

Interesting thatcthe only two of us admitting to actual experience of bring in this situation are saying YANBU op.

YABU and rude.

You knew that they didn't celebrate, you sent a card anyway. He said please don't send a card next year, and reiterated why. Don't be so obtuse.

Learn some boundaries. You knew they didn't celebrate Christmas. I'm not religious, I don't actively join in all the festivies, but I do celebrate it enough to send and receive the odd card. Sounds like they don't do it at all.

Why are you confused? He asked you politely and explained why. It's simple. Just don't send them a card. It doesn't mean you've fallen out or anything.

RJnomore1 I have experience of this. I have a friend who, for personal reasons, decided to stop celebrating Christmas a few years ago. I stopped sending her cards at that point. It's called respecting someone's wishes.

I get really fucked off with these really rude threads...so what..somebody sends you a card? Are you really that rude to actually say "I don't want it". It doesn't matter who you are or what you practice, just decent human nature and good manners would accept it and say nothing at all. It's not hard. How on earth is a card offensive? Really? In the grand scheme of life? My Catholic parents received cards at all random times of the year from various denominations...why the fucking fuck would you be so RUDE as to say "I don't celebrate that"..???? No wonder the world is in the state it is. I am sorry but if you can't accept a card that has been sent with good intentions, regardless of your "beliefs" then you can't possibly wonder why the world is in the state it is.