Now out of my mind with worry about drunk, now ex, 'D'H who stormed out at 3am.

[IcyVeins]

I don't know what to do, or even if there is anything I can do. I'm feeling incredibly guilty, which is really pissing me off because that's how he should be feeling.

Long story short I caught my husband 'sexting' a relative, including photos and talks of a vid call.

He has form for this although like an idiot I accepted his excuse of stress the first time. He doesn't work, has seemingly been very happy and affectionate and this has completely blindsided me.

I found out at 3am this morning when a phone pinged in the bedroom. Dh was chatting on the computer upstairs but it was also coming through on the phone.

I confronted him, he got angry and stormed out with no thick coat or anything. He sent a few odd texts then radio silence from about 5am.

I'm concerned because he isn't at his DM's, with his Dsis or with the lovely lady on his messages (in Dh's extended family so DH's mum looked - yes eugh)

So now I'm sitting here worrying about a lying shitty bastard and it's annoying the hell out of me. Is there anything I can do to speed up finding out that he is physically ok so I can start moving on, or do I just wait to see when he pops up?

Do NOT think you have any, ANY responsibility for this man's emotional blackmail of suicide. Not your monkeys, not your circus.

I agree, the relationship should absolutely be ended. I just have seen the consequences of not calling the police and the guilt is (wrongly) felt ten years later. By passing it onto the police it is also passing on the responsibility which OP should absolutely not have to bear. Then she can wash her hands of the year!

*twat - not year

See what Anyfucker comments. If he does it, it's on HIM, not on anyone else and saying "what if he really means it" is adding to the responsibility level you're applying to OP! She would not be responsible in any way shape or form if he did top himself Best

In my last message I meant to say people who threaten to kill themselves rarely actually go through with it. Don't know why I wrote it wrong.

I have to agree with AnyFucker and DoinIt. It is not OP's responsibility at all. It is an empty threat to try to manipulate, it's in the fucking script, along with the threat of taking the children away, and saying the woman is mental, along with all the other shit they try to pull.

Of course I'm not saying it's her responsibility at all! In my experience if my friend had called the police they would have found him and it would have alleviated her guilt. I'm saying this because I don't want the OP to have a harder time, it's not for his benefit.

In any case, I'm sure the OP handled it how she saw best, hope you're ok OP.

You are still doing it best

He sounds like a disgusting creep and I agree with PP that he was probably waiting for her to become 'legal'.

Agree to disagree, Anyfucker. Only had OP's best interests at heart and personal experience.

I can see that best

Anyfucker here's to OP getting rid of this pervy twat whilst retaining her sanity - as it totally should be

What a cunt he is

On that we are all agreed

Good for you acting on it and I do hope he’s ok so you can stop worrying