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Original poster

To hate my tight-arsed colleagues?

192 replies

JumperJapes · 21/12/2018 14:34

NC as outing.

AIBU to absolutely despise my colleagues? We had a Christmas Jumper Day last week, £2 suggested donation to local charity. About 60-70 staff on site, about 80% wore jumpers. Charity box in staff room.
We raised £32.
How can people wear the jumpers, join in on the fun but not put a couple of quid in for charity? How mean and tight can you be?

OP posts:
BumbleBeee69 · 21/12/2018 16:24

Charity Fatigue

mumeeee · 21/12/2018 16:26

YABU £2 was the suggested donation not compulsory. So how do you know they didn't put anything in at all. Also as others have said they might have just forgotten to put something in.

Kemer2018 · 21/12/2018 16:26

Nothing like a chugger in the office🙄🙄🙄
Folk should be able to wear what they like and give to who they like if they like.

FuzzyShadowChatter · 21/12/2018 16:26

I don't own a Christmas jumper and don't celebrate the holiday so no, I wouldn't wear one and just put up as I do annually being questioned and being called miserable/tight/Grinch/Scrooge. I'm not surprised people just go along with it to not have to deal with rude people and I'm not sure it's worth getting so wound up about.

I would also more likely donate to the charity online - which is pretty easy for most charities these days - rather than putting money in a tin with the many stories that come year round, but particularly in November and December, of charity tins or some of their contents being stolen.

Thentherewascake · 21/12/2018 16:27

Punto1
I'll give money to who I feel like giving it to thank you very much. so do all the people you are insulting. They have as much right to chose their charity than you have. Also, when you raise money the way they do, many companies match what has been raised. Some charities receive thousands that way. They are as commendable as you.

Mrskeats · 21/12/2018 16:27

£2 a lot for charity??
Given that people on here are regularly going on about how they spend hundreds on each child I can't agree

Rafflesway · 21/12/2018 16:28

Sorry but why are you so upset, OP?

Did you decide upon the charity/arrange the Christmas Jumper day so feel if you hand over only £32 it will make you look bad? 🤔

FWIW, I wouldn't have worn the jumper self confessed miserable old git but would have donated an amount of my choosing if I felt the Charity was worthwhile and hadn't been arranged just for someone else to look good

fluffydeenosaur · 21/12/2018 16:28

But if they didn't wear the jumper I imagine you'd be jumping down their throats about not joining in/contributing to the charity.

Christmas is expensive for everyone but if they've also got a few kids each wanting just a couple of quid constantly for Christmas related school activities, raffles, fayres, on top of presents, food, travel.

Seniorschoolmum · 21/12/2018 16:28

Op, that’s pretty judgemental. You don’t know their financial circumstances, you don’t know if they give regularly to another charity and frankly it’s nothing to do with you anyway.
If they made the effort and wore sweaters, that means they’ve already wasted £10 on something they won’t wear again for a year, if at all.
YABU

Yulebealrite · 21/12/2018 16:28

I suggested everyone donate instead of buying christmas cards one year. Left an empty tub in the staffroom. Hardly raised anything. Couldn't believe it. But it broke the tradition of sending cards. Nobody sent any the following year either. I didn't bother suggesting donating instead.

Punto1 · 21/12/2018 16:39

Charity is a very personal thing. People have their own preferred charity. For some it might be a cancer charity, for others it might be a local dog sanctuary, for others it might be refugees, save the dolphins, MS, women's refuge etc.
I hate this forced nonsense. I can't tell you how much it irritates me without turning the screen blue with swear words. It makes me unmentionably irate. I'm like something out of the exorcist with the eyes rolling into the back of my head every time a mass email comes in. DELETE DELETE DELETE. I don't CARE how great and charitable you are! You've nothing better to be doing than cycling to Brighton? Good for fucking you! Don't count me into your little jaunt you idiot!

I fear you have awakened a long held pent up rage in me OP. Apologies. Grin

Original poster
JumperJapes · 21/12/2018 16:41

Raffles - genuinely flabbergasted at your suggestion it was arranged to make me look good! "miserable old git" - indeed.

OP posts:
BoneyBackJefferson · 21/12/2018 16:41

JumperJapes

Your moan makes even less sense if you didn't organise it.

Original poster
JumperJapes · 21/12/2018 16:44

Sorry Punto to have triggered you!

I think it needs to be made more public how many people seem to hate work charity events, would save a lot of admin/baking/time for companies and individuals. Noted for 2019!

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Cherries101 · 21/12/2018 16:44

Usually in the place where I’ve worked it’s the people who don’t wear xmas jumpers that contribute.

Lifeofsmiley · 21/12/2018 16:45

Maybe you should appoint the jumper police aka yourself to man the door next year and don’t let them in in their jumpers if they dont pay.

GaryBaldbiscuit · 21/12/2018 16:46

Yabu, why should people donate what you tell them to donate, I struggle to find cash, as do most of us now

Original poster
JumperJapes · 21/12/2018 16:46

Arranged to make me "look good", is not the same as just arranging it. Or are you suggesting all charity organisers/ donators are doing it for altruistic reasons?

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Thentherewascake · 21/12/2018 16:49

Punto1
you are ridiculous I am afraid. By experience, I can tell you that if you ask people to contribute to something, they wont' give anything -as it is entirely their right.
if you go through some kind of sport event, you raise loads.

It might make you irate, but when you are trying to raise thousand for a cause, you need to actually do something. Then your company matches all the existing donations on top of everything. Totally worth it.

RhiWrites · 21/12/2018 17:02

If a message was put up saying “Christmas jumper day on Friday, please donate £2 to the hospice” I wouldn’t necessarily think a donation was required. It all depends on the message.

LoveAScaryTaleMe · 21/12/2018 17:05

OP I agree that if they did not wish to donate then they should not have 'dressed down'. I am sure that all most of the people who 'couldn't afford a couple of quid went for a festive drink after!

Rafflesway · 21/12/2018 17:07

Don't know why you are flabbergasted at my suggestion, OP. IME what I stated is incredibly common.
cynical miserable old git 😂
If it doesn't apply to you then fair enough but still don't get why you have your knickers in a twist over raising £32.

lljkk · 21/12/2018 17:10

Maybe everyone donated except the one person who decided to instead take half for themselves.

ADastardlyThing · 21/12/2018 17:12

Recently I donated £4 x 2 to DC school for jumper day and another charity, £5 paying for cakes for some charity at work, and £4 for DC for non uniform day for a charity.

I didn't put in £2 for jumper day at work. Can't say I feel bad about it tbh.

TedAndLola · 21/12/2018 17:15

I didn't give on my firm's Christmas Jumper Day and I don't feel guilty at all.

In fact I find it distasteful that Save the Children promote a day in which people wear disposable fashion likely made by child labour.