to be annoyed that dh will not let me have the gorgeous Mercedes car that is parked outside our house?

[oliveoil]

He claims it is for a client!

Client my arse, where are his priorities fgs, I have given him 2 children had my stomach slashed and my nethers stitched and what thanks do I get?

Do you think divorce is too harsh or just separate for a while?

TIA

Xenia - so caring for others is demeaning and money-earning work the only worthwhile occupation in life?

Do you realise how materialistic, selfish and money-grubbing you sound?

It's a pity, because you bring a lot of interesting and reasoned points to debate (unlike another poster with whom you are frequently, and to my mind wrongly, associated - she doesn't have a tenth of your reasoning skills). And then you rather spoil it all with this mindless and vulgar materialistic nonsense not worthy of a used-car salesman [mile]

May I apologise for my foul mouthed outburst, so unlike me, but Xenia + co make my teeth itch

In reply to why dh works full time and I don't, we are kind of old fashioned in our house and he runs his own business and I don't know anything about cars so can't run it for him basically. Unless he sold toy cars.

He came home with a cake for me yesterday though, I am so ashamed and demeaned by the concept of free bakery items.

I need a compulsory re-education policy, make no mistake.

Anna ! ....now be careful

like I said, I'm still waiting for insights...

Olive, I wasn't terribly surprised by your outburst. I too have been getting rather irritated the way Xenia has been popping into all manner of threads extolling the virtues of WOHM and the failings of SAHM. Things like we need to be "compulsorily reeducated" to see the error of our ways!!!!!

oh I know, yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn

I used to earn more than dh, had dd1 and thought feck this, I think I will go part time, then had dd2 and thought hmmmmm, will remain part time

house runs well, no stress, still have enough money to do what we want

Snap, same story here. I supported dh through law school, bought our first car, paid the deposit on our first flat. Was earning more than dh. Had dd then went part time, dh's earnings increase each year so when I had ds I went more part time, then we relocated so I am currently a SAHM. I enjoy running the home, dh enjoys his job, we are totally happy with the situation. I most certainly do not neeed to be re-educated, I have a very very good education under my belt already .

TBH the more Xenia protests about SAHM's, the more I think she secretly wants to be one

Her posts come across as very bitter as if she is , maybe her lifestyle choices/DH etc prevents her from being one.

Why else would she protest so much about other people choices ?

More importantly, why take it to heart what Xenia et al have to say? You know you have made the right choice for your family so why let it rile you? You know as long as you bite she will continue to provoke...

She has given away on another thread that she doesn't have dh or dp atm.
Surprised?

Xenia that is

I know I have made the right decision and I am happy with it. What riles me is her highly insulting comments such as the one I highlighted below about "compulsory re-education" to see the error of our ways. She seems to see SAHMs as some sort of sub species that needs to be taken in hand by the rest of society and sorted out.

CoV - the "compulsory reeducation" business is so ridiculous that it makes Xenia look far less intelligent that she really is. She's just got this "thing" about paid employment, as if it ought to be, for all people, the highest priority in life, whatever their circumstances. It blinds her to reality. A pity.

Don't take her on, seriously, she's only doing it to wind you up, for fun. She's probably sat at home now, waiting for her highflying dh to deliver her new bentley...how do we know really? alternatively she could be sat dispatching cabs in a taxi office for all we know Whatever she is I must say she's a professional wind-up and bloody good at it as it goes!

I also find her comments re "letting our daughters down by being SAHMs" highly insulting. I am a well educated person who has choosen to take time out from paid work for an unknown period of time with my husband's full support. I don't critise or insult her life choice and am sad she hasn't the courtesy to do likewise.

I have some sympathy with Xenia's position. My dad left my mum after 35 yrs of marriage (just didn't come home from work one day) she was (and is) an exceptionally bright woman who worked in the civil service and gave up her career when she had children because thats what you did then. Never really got back to a well paid career after that. she never envisaged a time when my Dad would leave with his pension having accrued on a much better paid job and hers on less well paid and shorter term jobs. On divorce no children were living at home so it was decided that each had sufficent money an no allocation of income was made although we did manage to fight for a slightly higher share of the equity.

Difficult not to be bitter about that and Xenia is right to warn that could happen to any one of us. Personal attacks on her about why (or even if) she has a partner are uncalled for.

However it is bizarre and ridiculous that Xenia chose this thread to make her point (again)

KC I do have sympathy for her situation, and you are right that she does post a valid warning re women protecting themself should the worst happen, the way she posts that is fine. What is not fine however are her insults like the one I quoted below. That is neither helpful, nor informative, just deliberately done to get a rise.

Snap Cov, and well said OO Xenia's comments make my blood boil!

I earnt far more than DH pre-kids, I now am a SAHM. I chose this life, well, we both did. I heartily object to some woman (so highpowered she has oodles of time to come on a parenting website and write endless diatribes insulting other women) telling me my choices are wrong and I am some sort of underclass.
I wouldn't want to put earning vast amounts of money ahead of my children, but I know some do, their choice.

The car in OO's link is not worth a blow job. I don't think it is even worth a snog, to be honest.

I don't like it too much either Quattro...

A foot rub at best

agree Cov - I suspect Xenia does like a little wind up from time to time.

Look, I am SAHM. I have no pension, no income of my own. My dh is wealthy and sucessful and supports his family completely financially. He has worked since 18 to become what he is today and he is still only 37. I could never equal or match his earnings now. He has bought every car I've had whilst with him. We go on expensive holidays. We have a money-worry free lifestyle. So, I, of all people, am a prime target for Xenia's ramblings. But, we're happy, so her nuggets of wisdom are nothing but a source of amusment to me. You may be suprised to learn that I'm not that arsed about money - I've been very, very skint and now I'm comfy but if it all changed tomorrow, it'd be ok because we've had a good innings!! And if he decides to leave me when I'm 50 for a 28year old then it wont be because I was a SAHM not a highflyer, it will be because his penis was making the decisions. Oh well, I'd still hopefully have the respect and love of my daughter so I'd live and if she wanted to be a SAHM and it was feasible I'd support her every step of the way.

If dh leaves me down the line I'm not going to be bitter about my position - I chose it and nobody has ever, or ever will, dictate to me what I do. I do what I damn well like and I like working from home, being with my children, doing school stuff and still having the money to buy the all the clothes, shoes and bags I like . If he leaves me, y'know, I'll survive, I won't be on the street. I'm not stupid.

ok so Merc is decreed rubbish by popular vote (grrrr)

what car do I earn if I wear my Agent Provoc items and prance about?

[innocently winds up hatchet faced others]