to be annoyed that dh will not let me have the gorgeous Mercedes car that is parked outside our house?

[oliveoil]

He claims it is for a client!

Client my arse, where are his priorities fgs, I have given him 2 children had my stomach slashed and my nethers stitched and what thanks do I get?

Do you think divorce is too harsh or just separate for a while?

TIA

[speedymama]

Well I work part-time and that is just as bad as being a SAHM. I'm a sell-out.

[squiffy]

I bought my husband a Porsche once. Poor man couldn't work out whether to feel proud or emaciated. hahahahahahaahahaha

[Kewcumber]

Ooh we can definitely sit in the same corner then as I too am part-time (is 4 days part-time?)

[Anna8888]

squiffy - do you mean "emasculated"?

Yes, men whose wives buy them Porsches, Ferraris etc are pretty emasculated IME

[Kewcumber]

over here Nearly there - I love popcorn, I'll keep you a seat.

[Lizzylou]

Squiffy..emaciated ???
You bought him a Porsche, but no food???

[Lizzylou]

Snap Anna

[speedymama]

Actually, I bought DH a silver Porsche too - not bad for £9.99 hahhahahahahahahaha

[nearlythere]

ta- but for clarity can the spectators keep the noise down to a quiet snigger
then those invloved in the 'debate': sahm on the left, wohm on the right and wahm's and part-timers get to stand in the middle and throw the rotten fruit!

[Kewcumber]

extra points will be awarded for those linking the SAHM/WOHM debate directly to the OP

[Kewcumber]

marks will be dedcuted for frivolity and unnecessary humour. This is a serious debate ladies... on your marks...

[mozhe]

Dh buys his own cars. I buy mine. What IS wrong with that...? DH would tell me where to get off if I asked him to buy me a car !!!! vice versa.
In fact I just e-mailed him,( out of curiosity...), to ask,' DH will you buy me a mercedes convertible ? '....I'll let you know reply .You never know I MIGHT get lucky.....

[Kewcumber]

no points for relevance the OP question was -

Do you think divorce is too harsh or just separate for a while?

[Kewcumber]

and OP did not ask DH to buy her a car - just to have it. Technically she could have been asking him to steal from his workplace.

[squiffy]

Oh yes I did mean 'emasculated', but now I look at my thesaurus and see 'shrunken' and 'withered' as alternative meanings for emaciated I think it still fits

[mozhe]

Reply...' are you drunk ? or have you lost YOUR wallet ? ' < his emoticon, not mine >
What else could I ask him for ? We need Anna.....

[binkleandflip]

Can I just reiterate that when your dp buys you a car, that's generally a great feeling, so lets not pretend otherwise eh? And the correct response is "Thank you darling!!!!" Not "You effing b!!! What the hell are you trying to pull on me?????"

Now, I'm just off for a whizz in my CLK...try not to pity me too much Xenia, please

[mozhe]

I would be ashamed.

[Anna8888]

Mercedes are just horrible

[binkleandflip]

If you were me, do you mean, mozhe?

[Hulababy]

DH doesn't buy me anything. I don't buy DH anything. Well, we don't really if you think about it. All our income goes into a joint pot. DH may bring home more money than me from his FT out of the house work, but without me only working PT and then me doing big bulk of housework, shopping and childcare, he wouldn't be able to do that. So we have joint money, so really we both buy each other things, and ourselves things.

To me we are a partnership. We each work to our strengths for that partnership. For DH that means working out of the house. For me it means PT work and then doing other stuff without pay. We are both equally important in the partnership though. Job, career and income is not what defines that IMO.


And back to the car - I loved my A4 cabriolet, that we both paid for out of the joint account (regardless of how much we both put into it).

[Kewcumber]

if the shame gets too much for you binkle - I'll cat you my address and I'll take the source of your hands. Purely as a generous gesture you understand.

[binkleandflip]

Oh I know, Anna, they're awful arent they? I'm digusted at having to drive one really, but, you know, needs must..

[binkleandflip]

Ha, thanks Kewcumber, I'm bearing up so far though...

[nearlythere]

i buy my cars, and dh's cars and dss1's car. Doesn't bother me or them- dh is happy to be a sahd and loves the fact that he no longer has to take financial responsibility.

In fact he brags about being a kept man with his mates! Should i tell him off?