Neighbour has ignored us for over a year

[Mk1234]

We moved in a year ago, next door to us are a couple with 2 girls. Few weeks after moving i went over with some some chocolates and said hi and general chat outside door step with the man, i even said tell your other half to pop over for a cuppa it would be lovely to meet her. The man has always been polite to us and will acknowledge us however the woman has not once said hi, there have been times when she is in the house and ive gone to drop off their parcel and she has not opened the door instead shes waited for her husband to come home to collect it.
From what i can tell there are no language barriers or health issues from what i can tell. Im not too bothered by it in all honesty as ive got far to much going on in my own life but just out of curiosity im baffaled as to why she is ignoring us.

Anyway, it's a stupid argument. And there is no right or wrong. I'm gonna agree to differ now, because I have to go.

Let's just accept we are all different, and we have all been a bit rude and judgy (on both sides.)

Toodles.

“But what I object to is this notion that anyone who does enjoy good relationships with their neighbors is somehow a cringeworthy, desperate, pushy saddo with a barren, empty life, just waiting for an unsuspecting neighbor to pounce on”

I agree with every word in your post olympic19
I left this thread to get on with some stuff. While I was away from it one of my neighbours came round with a gift because we had been keeping an eye on her house for the last two weeks while they were away.

Upshot is, the thing that really fucks me off about all of this, is how incensed and angry people seem to be, when people say they don't want to mix with neighbours socially
You were the one who called people fuckers, I haven seen anyone from "lets be at least polite" crowd swearing and be aggressive...

I am not really sure why me telling someome they were nasty when they obvs were, since majority of their posts were deleted, but posts calling everyone who talks to neigbours 'fuckers' wasn't, but fine....

Where we previously lived we introduced ourselves to the adjoining neighbours the day we moved in.
I wish we hadn't.
The husband would talk to us over the back fence and he always had some sort of a complaint wrapped up in whatever he was talking about. He then asked for a favour then had the gall to complain about something right after! We had a huge fence put up at the back between us and them. It was always petty complaints, and he came over to complain during evenings/nights and we refused to answer the door as we knew why he was coming over.
We weren't doing anything out of the ordinary or anything.
We only got a Christmas card the first year we were there only probably due to the favour.
They moved out the month we sold.
Had we never opened lines of communication in the first place they probably wouldn't have had the guts to complain.
He was the monkey though, she was the organ grinder and a horribly sharp tongued one at that the one time I did speak to her.
We would just ignore them if we were out and saw them out front.
Introducing yourself/talking to them before getting the measure of them is never a good idea. You don't know what they're like or you could be starting a whole load of trouble for yourselves.
Being unsociable is not a bad thing.
In inner city areas for the most part and some other places, it's self protection.

It's a shame for you not to be friendlier because we all need people, don't we? There must a be a big reason why she hasn't been more amenable - perhaps she has emotional problems or is just massively shy or anxious. You can't force yourself on people though.

What would happen if she accidentally locked herself out? The poor woman would probably be too scared to come and ask for help and I think that's a sad state of affairs.

@WhyDontYouComeOnOver

My postman doesn't knock, as he knows me. No one else knocks as they know not to.

When it was suggested that the neighbour should explain if there is a reason she doesn’t open the door, you said she doesn’t have to explain anything.

Which is true, but by your own experience, maybe you can see why it was suggested. The OP doesn’t know “not to” so will continue to inadvertently cause distress (if the reason the neighbour doesn’t open the door is similar to yours).

There must a be a big reason why she hasn't been more amenable

Why must there be something wrong with the neighbour if she doesn’t want anything to do with op.

I don’t have PTSD, emotional problems, problems with facial recognition, I not shy or suffer from anxiety. I just don’t want to get pally with the neighbours.

That's fine, Calishata, and on the off-chance that she is like me, perhaps she has spoken to the postman/friends/family. She definitely doesn't have to explain herself to random neighbours.

The OP isn’t random though. She is quite specifically the person who keeps knocking on her door with parcels.

Made me think of this thread😂

m.youtube.com/watch?v=PT0ay9u1gg4&feature=share

Wasn't there a story written about someone who wanted nothing to do with neighbours and the like? I think his name was ebeneezer or something?

And yesterday another neighbour wanted some help with setting up her new digital radio. So I went round, and even had a cup of tea!

You weirdo 😂

I had some chocolate digestives as well

Saddo😂 You obvs don't have life outside of your neigbourhood. You should do something about that.

(says a person who includes ndn in my food plan during big holidays since I am always giving them some homemade snacks😂)

I have several groups of people I am friendly with, one of them being some of my neighbours.

I genuinely think that those who don't want more friends probably have a large friendship circle already, a large family that are local or are just not interested in other people in general.

I don't fit into any of those categories and am happy to make new friends regardless of where they live.

@masterandmargarita 😂