Neighbour has ignored us for over a year

[Mk1234]

We moved in a year ago, next door to us are a couple with 2 girls. Few weeks after moving i went over with some some chocolates and said hi and general chat outside door step with the man, i even said tell your other half to pop over for a cuppa it would be lovely to meet her. The man has always been polite to us and will acknowledge us however the woman has not once said hi, there have been times when she is in the house and ive gone to drop off their parcel and she has not opened the door instead shes waited for her husband to come home to collect it.
From what i can tell there are no language barriers or health issues from what i can tell. Im not too bothered by it in all honesty as ive got far to much going on in my own life but just out of curiosity im baffaled as to why she is ignoring us.

Does she actually send the parcels there though? If she does, I agree it's very rude.

Doesn't matter wether she does or doesn't! OP is good enough to take them on! Otherwise maybe she should update her delivery details to say do not deliver to neighbours?

She's rude not answering and she's rude not explaining why you f there is an issue!

Why does she order stuff to be delivered if she won't answer the door?

Perhaps she is just nervous or not very sociable. Personally, I will always say hi, give a wave etc. but don't socialise with my neighbours. I think if you are too chatty it can go a bit wrong - but you still have to live near each other!

@LoniceraJaponica bloody good point! Or invest In something to put parcels in and stop inconveniencing neighbours!

t's understandable that someone may really have such issues that stop them from opening the door or even say hi on a street, but then it's up to them to deal with it the best way. Eg lockbox and potting combination for it into delivery notes.

I order stuff to be delivered when my husband is home. Sometimes it may come early and I don't answer the door. I'm not rude, I have PTSD and can't answer. If they can't deliver at the time I've paid for, that isn't my fault - no one has a clue why this lady doesn't answer the door so saying she's rude when she could be very ill is appalling.

I would hate to live next door to someone like that. In my street everyone is friendly and sociable

@WhyDontYouComeOnOver do you also have an issue with reading? Why doesn't she get a box to have parcels delivered too? Why not explain if she's ill? Not just keep letting OP be inconvenienced by HAVING to answer the door to her OH.

She's expecting others to be inconvenienced without explanation why! it's ok because she doesn't want or have to open the door! If I was OP I'd be telling them to make sure parcels aren't delivered to my house.

I would not tolerate such rudeness, illness is no excuse to be rude!

Tbf OP said she doesn't even say hi so it's logical people assume she is simply rude.

@Shepherdspieisminging she could put a note of her own door saying where people should deliver? Couldn't she? She's the one with the problem so she should deal with it! Get a lock box and stop putting others out!

I'm not over invested, but nor am I going to quash my opinion because others think her behaviour is acceptable!

@WhyDontYouComeOnOver you have serious issues, get help!

And don't name call because I might just start calling you names..... would that be acceptable?

I have PTSD and can't answer.

I’ve had PTSD, didn’t stop me answering the door. And tbh if you start thinking like that you’ll never get out of it.

How does this work?
Can't open the door, but can manage to be aggressive af online?
So is it really just the face to face bit? I am genuinely curious because chances of meeting anyone irl with PTSD are minimal due to number of people who suffer with it so maybe, instead of calling people names, you could actually use this to tell people about PTSD and how and if they can help.
You know. Like be a decent human being.

@Shepherdspieisminging I was offering alternatives to answering the door also, but of course that's not right either!

Nobody want pushy neighbours, just in case they're round at the door every other day. I have had to purposefully pull back from my neighbour otherwise she'd ring my bell every single day for something. She doesn't see anything wrong with it; I am made differently. That's it.

@Shepherdspieisminging, thank you! I appreciate that.

When we moved here last winter i had just given birth and had stiches, i waited for a few weeks till i was better enough to knock and say hi and give the chocolates. I remember on the 3rd day after moving in there was a delivery for them, i told the dpd man that i just moved into the property and had not introduced myself to the neighbours so it would be odd to take in a parcel for someone i didnt know. Dpd guy just dropped it to the opposite house. I think that if i took their parcel without them knowing who i am then that on my part would look a little strange.

The other day my OH was coming into the house and saw a woman outside theirs while their door was open, my OH said hi while unlocking door to get into ours, the woman said hi but neighbour lady ignored my OH. OH has said hes seen her talk to other people but when he says hi casually while coming in or out our house she blanks him.

I am utterly baffled by some peoples views on this.