To think DD shouldn't have called me at work because of this?

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To say she has heard back from one of her unis and got an offer? Not trying to be an arse or unsupportive, but I assumed an emergency, I had to come out of a meeting. Just curious what others thought. Thanks.

My mum trained as a nurse after having my sister's and I. When she started working weekends it was a sick to the system. She'd left frozen pizza for my useless dad to cook us for dinner. I found the number she left by the phone and called her on the ward to ask if we were asked to eat pizza on a Sunday. I doubt think if ever had anything but a proper Sunday roast up until then and I was mortified at the thought of being left to make Dorothy pizza. I was 8.

It’s a massive thing. If your mum can’t be delighted for uni offers then who else can be? If you’re in a meeting where you can’t take calls then your phone should be on silent or you do what most people would and decline the call and text back to say you can’t speak. My husband and I call each other for things that are far less interesting and exciting. We’re both senior and it’s fine in our workplaces. we can’t speak and just cancel the call. I’d be delighted to receive a call about a uni offer and would have no hesitation in telling people around me.

I'm with the minority who entirely get where the OP is coming from -- a phone call out of the blue can put your heart in your mouth with fear that something catastrophic has happened.

I'm an academic and I can't step out of a lecture to a hundred finalists to take a non-emergency call. I have my phone with me, and on silent, precisely in case of emergencies, because I have unwell elderly parents and a six year old who relies on a complicated combination of a childminder and breakfast and after-school clubs, any of which can fall through.

Are you for real OP?

Glad you're not my mum.

Oh Jesus get over yourself,

This post makes me so sad as it takes me back. I stopped telling my mum good news as I was growing up as she would be so underwhelmed by things like me getting a place at Uni, my first job, etc... It's horrible because your mum is the most important person. I'd tell other people, of course, but her reaction always took the edge off the excitement. It's just a bit of rain on your happy parade when you're young.

It's a big deal!

MyKingdomForBrie - sweet/sad, your Dad is awesome; MrsRyanGosling15 - genius!

You sound like my parents

“ you can get all the offers you want but you’re not going “.

My dad used to the work for the council before he retired and had his own phone line.I rang him when I had my first migraine (sobbing because I couldn't see and was terrified),with work problems ,random news and he didn't mind at all.Honestly get a grip she's your daughter and she loves you and probably wanted you to know first.

I think it's lovely that she was wanting to tell you her news! So what about having to leave a boring old meeting!

@ThisIsNotMyRealName1 thank you, he really really was

Absolutely agree it's a big deal, it's huge!

I think a lot of posters are massively missing the point. It’s not about the OP not being pleased to hear the news, it’s about the appropriateness of the way her daughter communicated it. On not getting a reply on her mother’s personal phone, she called her mother’s work causing her to think there was an emergency and had to leave the meeting, when she could have just sent a text. I think that was inconsiderate.

No-one is missing the 'point.'

We can all see what's going on.

I also agree. Sad thread indeed.

My daughter is free to call me any time day or night. I won't always be able to answer her call but I won't assume it's an emergency every time she does call because we speak on the phone quite often!

At first I though yabvu then after the dripfeed of it being your work phone, which you explicitly told her is emergency only, I now think you're just being unreasonable.

This is really sad

Glad you're not my mother 🙄

It is sad because it's big news, and the OP was just irritated that her daughter had called her. It makes her come across as uncaring and miserable, and having no time for her daughter.

If the daughter had called to ask what's for dinner, I could have understood the OP's annoyance. But getting an offer from a university is a big deal. The OP is definitely being VVV unreasonable!

Hope you at least pretend to be happy and super proud of her.

This is the exact same way my Father would react, I quickly went NC and moved 600 miles away and he has 2 grandchildren he's never met

Hth

I phoned my dad in work, and my sister who was at a university interview/assessment day, to tell them both I had found £10 on the floor near my house... They were both very pleased for me.

Maybe you really enjoy your work but I'm always happy to take a minute off to share in someone's joy. Not judging you at all there. But I think it's great that your daughter called you. She must want to include you in her life and share her happy moments with you :)

Really?? She would have been so excited, well done her. Having had a DD go through this last year I know how often and obsessively she was checking the UCAS portal - she was beyond excited when she got offers. Is this a joke? Good grief.

My DS has been calling me and sending me details of his offers. Am delighted for him. In fact, I'm probably more excited than he is.

Yup. Agree with everyone else. YABU.

When my dd texted me at work to tell me of her offer, the 2 colleagues I was meeting with asked me to send their congratulations to her.

If you are doing something so crucial you can't be interrupted, (say you were a surgeon or a sniper) then you wouldn't have your phone on you - other things that are 'un-interupt-able' leave it outside the room or have turned it off.

I wish I hadn’t read this, it’s made me quite sad.

Bet your DD is feeling pretty gutted right now.