To think DD shouldn't have called me at work because of this?

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To say she has heard back from one of her unis and got an offer? Not trying to be an arse or unsupportive, but I assumed an emergency, I had to come out of a meeting. Just curious what others thought. Thanks.

Wow ok guess that told me!!!

Did you get a fright OP? I think it’s really exciting news but perhaps you were worried when you got called to the phone so that’s coloured your view somewhat?

I'm a cowbag parent too, (without regret) & will say YANBU. However, it's a small thing. Is it an unconditional offer, at least?

I have a work mobile which is turned on. She knows to only call that for emergencies. My personal is definitely on silent throughout meetings.

No, it's a conditional!

People are usually understanding if others need to pop out of a meeting.

My son has always shared good news with me from school achievements and exam results to getting his first teaching job. I have always been proud and delighted that I'm the first person he wants to tell.

I can't imagine being snotty about it.

You didn't bollock her, did you? Just kind of gently explain that a text would be fine & that way you'll get to ring her back when you have proper amount of time to chat, share her excitement.

Believe it or not, this is the weirdest thing I’ve ever read on Mumsnet 😂

You could’ve chosen to not answer. And text her : “is it urgent? I’m in a meeting and will call you once I’m out”. To which she could’ve replied “I got accepted to uni, speak after ur meeting, wohooooo”.

I think your daughter might be feeling very unloved and unworthy if this is the way you feel about her exciting news’s

Crikey my DS once called me at work, dragged me out of a meeting to ask me what we were having for tea!

If this is a first occasion then mention it to her, as it could be seen badly at work if you are going out of meetings for small things. Also it could be kind for her to be aware that when in a job herself, treating something as an emergency or urgent when it is not and can wait, will be much appreciated by others.

Well YOU sound like a grumpy mum. Your poor daughter.

Hope you're more excited for her when she gets her 2:1 in a few years time!

Why are so grumpy?

TBH if I picked up a colleague’s phone while they were in a meeting I’d have thought twice about going in, interrupting the meeting and dragging them out unless it was a genuine emergency.

Your poor dd. Hopefully she has someone a bit more interested in her life .. I was chuffed to bits when ds’ offers started to come in . He called me each time

I don't think the op is being that unreasonable. A quick text or WhatsApp message that can be read when you're free is much better. I always assume that a phone call means an issue/question that requires an instant response not just passing on a bit of news, it's not like it was A level results. Most people I know got offers to all the places they applied to.

@soulrider I'm glad it's not just me, pretty suprised at the harsh responses on here. My dd sent me a whatsapp when she got hers. The kids know not to call me at work unless it's an emergency, work take a dim view of personal calls.

And no, I don't have an important job.

Unless you are a brain surgeon, or Theresa May, YABVVU

God this is such a depressing post. Being as family > work you sound like you have it all depressingly wrong.

I bet your daughter is really disappointed in your reaction, even if you think you sounded happy for her I bet she could tell she'd annoyed you. Poor girl, I remember my mil had a bit of a pants reaction to my pregnancy news and I've never forgotten it.

I always assume that a phone call means an issue/question that requires an instant response not just passing on a bit of news, it's not like it was A level results. Most people I know got offers to all the places they applied to

Gosh I am cringing at this, it's not like it was a level results? Being as most people you knew got offers where they applied, I'm assuming they've not been applying for courses such as midwifery and medicine where there is huge competition. Getting a place on my course was a massive deal to me as there was 5000 applicants and 60 places.

When I was a teenager my boyfriend called my dad from the phone box outside school to tell him his amazing A level results. My (very very d)Dad made the appropriate lever of congratulatory fuss. BF later told me he'd called his father first who had been basically underwhelmed, so he'd called my dad because he knew he'd be genuinely happy for him and really care.

Just be careful.

I would be thrilled if either of my DS called me about getting a Uni place - even if I was in a Board meeting. And I tell you what, I bet my colleagues would be pleased for them too! Why on earth would you not be over the moon?!

That's a lovely happy/sad story, MyKingdomForBrie.

YABU OP

Sad for your daughter and even more sad for you that you don't realise the significance of this.

My son once called me at work (mid meeting) to see if it was ok for him to have the last can of Diet Coke .. I was less pissed of about that than you are about this?!

Yabu

Not trying to be an arse or unsupportive

Might not be trying to but yes you come across as both

Well don't you just sound delightful.