Page 10 | To think DD shouldn't have called me at work because of this?

thistleorange · 2018-12-13T15:40:00+00:00

To say she has heard back from one of her unis and got an offer? Not trying to be an arse or unsupportive, but I assumed an emergency, I had to come out of a meeting. Just curious what others thought. Thanks.

AChickenCalledKorma · 13/12/2018 21:55

Today my boss's young adult daughter phoned to ask him how to cook a jacket potato. We chuckled.

I do realise there are occasions where there be good reason to avoid disturbing someone at work. But I'm still glad to work somewhere that it's not necessary to pretend that one's family doesn't exist.

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 13/12/2018 22:02

Today my daughter facetimed me repeatedly whilst I was leading a meeting. I assumed it was an emergency - she wanted to show me her hair extensions

Poppyinagreenfield · 13/12/2018 22:04

Oh dear. Please enjoy her whilst she is still there. I cried for three days when my children left.

foundoutyet · 13/12/2018 22:08

hm, no call me for an emergency but txt me with anything else, and I will call back when I can. Doesn't mean I don't care

anniehm · 13/12/2018 22:09

It's huge for them, dd was so excited yesterday and really was upset that neither of us answered our phones (were abandoned in another room) when she tried the landline. Try to understand it from her point of view. You could suggest to her in the future texting is better and you will call her back

ADropofReality · 13/12/2018 22:11

Spot the middle class yummy mummies predominating here.

Some mothers do not have the right to nip out of work to indulge a child with a bit of good news that could probably have been anticipated (an offer depends on A-Level results, A-Level results depend 50% on AS-Levels taken a year in advance, and final exams taken 2 months in advance where the results could be guessed). Some bosses do not like mothers nipping out for phone calls at will. Those mothers who have to work for a living have their priorities between not getting sacked or indulging a child's news that could well wait until the evening.

ADropofReality · 13/12/2018 22:15

@Tw1nsetAndPearls

And I hope you told her off, and I hope you apologised to those whose time had been wasted with such utter crap.

No longer productivity in this country is in the shit when work can be interrupted by something so bloody irrelevant. This isn't a game; post-Brexit, if we all fuck about with social-media-ing one another hair extensions when we should be working, the country goes down the pan.

iamyourequal · 13/12/2018 22:18

@ADropofReality

Bah humbug! Really. Is OP Theresa May? No. Then her job is surely really not that important that she can’t spend 30 seconds on the phone to her own DD desperate to share her thrilling news. There are plenty of us mums out there working bloody hard, but it’s important to support your kids and have a heart and an ear for them too. Not just between 7pm and 10pm or whenever your terribly important schedule suits the interruption. The poor DD, if she knew her mother was actually posing this thread!

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 13/12/2018 22:22

Spot the middle class yummy mummies predominating here

Spot the patronising person assuming crap!

I'm not a mummy, i'm not yummy i'm on minuim wage live in socisl housing yet i think tje op was cold and frankly quite discouraging to her DD

If OP was one pf the mothers you are talking about guess what she woukdnt have nipped out wether she thought it was an emetgancy or not. She chose to come out of the meeting.

Here you go i got a call on my mobile today, my manager even asked me if it was my phone, did i check it? Nope, did i ask to be excused? Nope. Even thoygh actually my manager was asking case i did need to answer it. Op chose to answer it. So she knew she wouldnt be sacked for answeringto it like you suggest adropofreality she didnt have answer it she chose too.

SirGawain · 13/12/2018 22:26

If I had reacted as you did to my Daughters excitement I would be too ashamed to admit it.

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 13/12/2018 22:35

And I hope you told her off, and I hope you apologised to those whose time had been wasted with such utter crap.

No longer productivity in this country is in the shit when work can be interrupted by something so bloody irrelevant. This isn't a game; post-Brexit, if we all fuck about with social-media-ing one another hair extensions when we should be working, the country goes down the pan.

I did apologise and we laughed.

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 13/12/2018 22:37

Spot the middle class yummy mummies predominating here.

I am not middle class or yummy, more working class and a but yucky. Having said that I recognise that I am lucky to have a job where my daughter can pop in to see me or phone me and I can sometimes pick it up

FascinatingCarrot · 13/12/2018 22:41

On not getting a reply on her mother’s personal phone, she called her mother’s work causing her to think there was an emergency and had to leave the meeting, when she could have just sent a text. I think that was inconsiderate.
So mother didnt even have a damn clue that this was imminent and couldnt even be arsed to check her mobile. And still her daughter wanted to tell her her news.
What do you think that was?

Mrskeats · 13/12/2018 22:51

I’m not a yummy mummy thanks. But neither am I a mardy arse like the op. I have a professional job and would always make time for what was probably a few minutes on the phone.
Quite depressed now.

ChayngeName · 13/12/2018 23:09

Ironically people keep saying “are you Theresa May” - someone who has actually on many occasions described her pain at never having been able to have children. She’s 62 and it’s still painful. I bet she’d love to be receiving such news from her daughter.

But yes I agree, unless you’re the PM or up in space in a rocket you need to get over yourself.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 13/12/2018 23:13

adrop what about fathers? Or is it just mothers that are on the recieving end of any disapproval?

'middle class yummy mummies' what on earth do you mean by that? What has that got to do with anything? Is it so hard to understand that in some jobs it's perfectly acceptable to take personal calls?

PaPica · 13/12/2018 23:51

And I hope you told her off, and I hope you apologised to those whose time had been wasted with such utter crap.

No longer productivity in this country is in the shit when work can be interrupted by something so bloody irrelevant. This isn't a game; post-Brexit, if we all fuck about with social-media-ing one another hair extensions when we should be working, the country goes down the pan.

This is one of the biggest over-reactions I've ever seen on mumsnet.

cushioncuddle · 14/12/2018 00:23

What is such an important meeting you can't be interrupted for something very important to your D and should be important to you.

Who would Mind being disturbed for a minute. I think most people like to think their jobs are more important than they are. Unless you're in surgery , are making a life changing medical decision I doubt it's that important. It's just we loose perspective.

Allabitmuchisntit · 14/12/2018 00:46

Do you know my mum op? You two would get on.

EKGEMS · 14/12/2018 01:25

I have an 18 year old who suffered a stroke in NICU with devastating lifelong disabilities and he only can say mama and dada and you have no idea what I would give to be able to hear him tell me he got accepted into a university. Appreciate what you have.

Pipsqueak11 · 14/12/2018 01:33

So glad you're not my mum . Feel v sorry for your poor DD .hope she has someone in her life who is pleased for her.

Milliy · 14/12/2018 01:48

Your her Mum. She needed you at that moment to here her big news. That's what Mums do.

lborgia · 14/12/2018 01:59

Weirdly, your further explanation actually confused me more.

You had your work phone on, and to hand, so if a work colleague had called you, you could answer? Surely if it was a very important meeting, that would've been silent too?

Maybe your daughter was SO excited, she had a brain warp and didn't even think about the telephone regime?

My DH is a CEO and still manages to take calls from our children when they have exciting news.

Oh, and I work with a brain surgeon, and he answers calls/text messages in theatre if they're urgent (someone else does the actual tap tap tapping!).

Don't know any prime ministers though. But somehow Jan manages to emote and run a country simultaneously kiwi kid

Lovingbenidorm · 14/12/2018 02:08

Wow that’s been a read n a half!
I think that news was pretty important.
If you REALLY can’t be disturbed then your phone should be off.
If you can you leave your phone with someone else to answer it.
Like pp ,said my DH is a physician who is frequently performing endoscopies, he can’t answer his phone but a nurse will if necessary and take a message.
Your daughter will always remember the reaction she got from her parents about something that meant so much

1forAll74 · 14/12/2018 02:13

Your daughter was obviously excited with the news about a Uni place, and her future, great news,so I am sure you could have handled the work situation.