To think DD shouldn't have called me at work because of this?

[thistleorange]

To say she has heard back from one of her unis and got an offer? Not trying to be an arse or unsupportive, but I assumed an emergency, I had to come out of a meeting. Just curious what others thought. Thanks.

I don't work in an office any more but when I did, I'd have been ecstatic to be called out of any meeting. More ecstatic than finding out my kid got a uni offer, in fact.

I'd obviously pass my excitement off as related to the latter, though.

Do all of you criticising the OP think it’s absolutely fine for your children to phone you at work and expect to speak to you immediately whatever you are doing even if it’s not an emergency? What if you were in the middle of conducting a job interview for example?

I think your being a bit unreasonable op. When I was that age the first person I would have wanted to tell about my offer would have been my mum. Your lucky you obviously have that kind of relationship with your dd. Yep calls at work aren't always ideal but sometimes I'm sure popping out of a meeting for 5 mins would be ok.

I would be thrilled for her and understand why she wanted to call (went through it with DD1 and will be soon with DD2!) but I would be asking her to text in future and that you will call her ASAP.

If my dc call when I'm in a meeting, i text back to ask If urgent. They often call me at work about non urgent things (not all the time but usually a few times a week). I dont rush out unless they say it's urgent. I don't blame your dd, she must have been so excited and bursting to share the news with you. If you responded negatively, she must feel terribly deflated.

Was she aware of the etiquette for phoning you at work?

When I was working as a teacher (recently retired), it was understood by my family that there was no point in trying to phone during the day as the chances are they would not get through to me in class.

However, my email was always accessible, so any messages came to me that way.

Maybe you have not made it clear enough what is suitable communication-wise at your place.

Well done to your daughter! When mine would email with news like this it lit up my day.

BF later told me he'd called his father first who had been basically underwhelmed, so he'd called my dad because he knew he'd be genuinely happy for him and really care.

Ahh that's sweet, your DDad sounds nice 😊

Omg, I was so excited with every offer my DC got when they were that age, especially with offers from their first choices.

My DD also rang me when I was in a meeting, fortunately it was on silent but I too assumed a disaster had happened and made my excuses to call her back. I was delighted to hear from her.

SerenDippitty if I was conducting a job interview I would leave my phone on silent, or with someone else who would let me know if there was an emergency. I assume the OP would do likewise. If dd rang and she couldn’t answer immediately I’m sure dd would leave a message.

I think you are being a bit unreasonable.... But I have some sympathy. Still got memories of being in a meeting, forgetting to switch my phone off, and all (remaining) credibility shot to kingdom come when phone started playing the Muppets Show theme tune. Reader, it was the school, to say a packed lunch had been forgotten. Doh!

Yabu. Your poor daughter excited and wanting to share it with mum. Next time try being a mum. Work doesnt matter compared to your daughter.

This is a pretty big deal in your daughter’s world. She’s probably very excited. If this is how you react to the good stuff why would she call on you with she having any problems.

It's exciting news! Poor girl, hope you sounded happy for her on the phone, unlike your post.

Wow, yes - I mean fuck her right?

Imagine that - she thought she, your child and her happiness, might be more important than work.

Or perhaps you could get your priorities right?

Aw, you are so lucky to work in a place where you are allowed a phone, many people aren't and have to wait to hear news.
Well done your dd, I bet you are really proud.

(to clarify, I imagine you are ver ver terribly important and all that but unless you were performing life saving surgery you are being a total arse)

What a sad post. Your DD may not call you excited for much longer with that attitude!!!! You were in a meeting not performing surgery!!!! Get a grip.

If your DD knows you've got some sort of job where such a call would be grossly inappropriate then I'd think YANBU but otherwise you are.

Mine call me 20 times a day to tell me what they had for lunch. If they called me to tell me this I would be very happy!

Aw I remember my mum opening & reading a telegram to me over the phone saying I’d been offered a place. My parents hadn’t been to university and they were so proud

I once called my mum at work (a school) to tell her I’d won a Radio 1 competition.

How did your child get to 18 and not realise you don't really care OP? Have you not tried hard enough to show her?

If your meeting was more important than this, you forfeit the right to brag about her to your work collegues when she graduates with a first.
VW done to your daughter, who has total strangers pleased for her even if her mum didnt give a flying toss.

Agree. Sad thread.

Very poor form OP. Your daughter was excited and you are complaining she called you. FGS!

I am also surprised at the (few) posters pearl clutching because most posters are being harsh.

I am shocked that they think the OP's cavalier attitude towards her daughter is OK, and I feel sorry for their children too (if they have any.)

I think the OP should take heed of the poster who said they knew a lad who called someone else's parents, because his parents give so few shits.

If your child/teen feels they are not getting attention from you, don't be surprised if they eventually start to give you a wide berth. I know several people who didn't show their kids much interest, who left home and moved 100's of miles away, and rarely visit.

Time to start trying harder to be a caring parent. Your daughter already knows you have little patience or time for her. Damage control needed, before you lose her forever.....................