I think the teacher is wanting to see me about what I said on Facebook...

[TruckLoadOfSubtleGlitter]

Do I have a leg to stand on?

One of the TA's has been disregarding my 7yo DC's hard work and he missed out on 'extra play' despite doing the work asked of him (I can go into more detail if needed).

This is reading that is done at home and written in a book for school.

The TA was counting the reads, in fact totally ignoring most of them.

I bought it up with her, she tried to explain which made absolutely no sense whatsoever.
I played it over in my mind for 2 days and did not understand why they weren't counting all of my sons reads and why he was missing out. Reading doesn't come easy to him, he would rather not do it, it's a battle every day. Yet we do it, we record it, but it's not being ticked off by the TA (some is, some is ignored).

Still not understanding why 50% of it is ignored, I went on to the Facebook class page. It's a closed group of 20-30 parents. A closed and private group.

I posted a picture of his book and asked them to help me make sense of it. I don't understand??
Some other parents couldn't understand either.
I said I was really disappointed in the person who marked it. That I would mark it for them and add up his reads and do their job so they could see in black and white what work he had done. I haven't mentioned any names. It's happened to other kids too and they are missing out on 'extra play' as well despite doing the hard work.

DS has been in tears about this several times.

It wasn't an issue for the first 3 years at school and it wasn't a an issue for the 7 years my other DS was at this school. It's an issue now.

Now they have called me in for a meeting at 3pm - I cant make it today but I'm almost certain this is what it's about.
I think someone has reported me being annoyed with them and posting asking for advice about it on Facebook.

But surely I can ask for advice and express my disappointment (the only negative word I used, I was very careful!) no names mentioned?
I need to know if I've done something wrong here.

I'm still seriously fucked off them them so I held back what I really thought and just saved that information for my husband.

AIBU?

Unless the teacher, being a human being, doesn't personally like the child or mother for whatever reason and could perform little petty slights and digs upon the child. Not necessarily in this case but it's not unprecedented for a teacher to treat students differently....

Pashal2 - cultural differences. In the uk, it's not really ok to libel/ slander people. Respect is a big deal. All people expect to be treated honestly, openly and with respect. Obviously this doesn't happen ALL the time.

It really does present a terrible example to children that if you have an issue (large or small) you call them names and speak disparagingly about them - especially a one-sided bash about someone behind their back. It's petty, and it doesn't solve any problems.

I am very pleased I don't live where you do - where you treat professionals that you rely on to educate your children like dirt if they do a TINY thing you disagree with. By all means, maybe we shouldn't rely on teachers to educate in bearable conditions. Get your own child the background they need to give them choices in life!!!!!

It's only libel if what's said isn't true.", and that's not the case here from what I can gather. The OP also didn't name the TA, I think it can only be libel if the person concerned is named?

It was unkind, definitely, but there really isn't any action the school can take against her, unless you think her DS should be punished for his mother's actions?

Lizzie - not what I'm saying. Pascal was indicating verbal abuse is tolerated where she lives. I was being thankful that we don't live in that sort of society!

I actually think teachers are far more respected in other countries than here. This is a country where teachers are very much not respected, sadly. So I struggle to think of any country where verbal abuse against teachers is acceptable, apart from the UK sadly.

It could be a difference in social class perhaps? There are some very rough areas where teachers possibly wouldn't dare to stand up to any form of verbal abuse. (The PP mentioned the possibility of violence, which might be a clue to where her attitude to teachers comes from.

We live in a nice middle class area and we respect the teaching staff. I've certainly never seen any criticism of teachers happen on our parents' Facebook page. But it is carefully moderated, which seems to be what is lacking in the OP's case.

I have read part of the thread but not all. The school/class clearly have a system - which hasnt been explained clearly to you - but you now seem to understand. You want to do something different to that and are surprised that the school cant mange that? Hopefully during your meeting the school will explain to you what the system is and you will be able to follow it. Because they have a class of upto and perhaps even more than 30 children - they cant really make exceptions because you and DC dad cant be bothered to write in a book the same time the child is reading. I used to update my dc reading record at the same time they were reading. Job done!

Still no update?? 😩

Still no update??
Why are you surprised?