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To those whose DP's snore, how do you sleep?

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MattieB19 · 08/12/2018 22:14

How do you work around the issue and sleep? My lovely DP snores terribly and I'm the lightest sleeper. I'd just like to know how others try and solve the issue if you have it?

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Hawkmoth · 08/12/2018 23:44

I genuinely don't mind the snoring. The rhythm helps me sleep. The bruxism though I cannot endure and I lever him over or say his name loudly until he wakes up.

Wearytree · 08/12/2018 23:45

OP you need a fan. Earplugs don't work because you can still feel the vibrations but we got a fan in the summer and the white noise drowns it out! Even better now I'm so used to the noise of it, it's like a routine comfort. I'm a ridiculously light sleeper too.

We went from most nights me kicking DH into the spare room to that being quite rare, like when he's had a few too many drinks.

I sympathise, snoring really is the most infuriating noise. Oh and it has to be an actual fan, not white noise from an app!

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MattieB19 · 08/12/2018 23:46

I'm the same thenightsky

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Ontheboardwalk · 08/12/2018 23:47

No sleep, separate rooms, ear plugs! Why isn’t the cure for snoring the bigger goal than the common cold solution. The cold is only once maybe twice a year.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/12/2018 23:48

Our own bedrooms!! Not very romantic,but we both need our sleep.

Romance is better if you're both well rested!Grin

DH and I both snore a bit and have completely different sleeping habits, as we're fortunate enough to be able to have separate rooms it's the civilised solution.

shirleyschmidt · 08/12/2018 23:48

I play white noise through the phone on my bedside table. Depending on DH's volume it'll either be 'background' or on loud. If he's in full warthog mode I'll bring it next to my pillow (but not often thankfully!).

There are a range of noises out there but I have a low-key hairdryer type because it's more 'constant' than the lovely falling rain types. It's just a 30 second 'song' on a loop on iTunes. Weird at first but I'm really used to it now and it's amazingly effective at drowning out the snoring!

KarmaStar · 08/12/2018 23:53

Soak sponge eat plugs in water then squeeze small and place inside ear,it expands to fit ear and there's enough room for two in each ear.however be very careful they don't go too far down.
Other option is to go on the sofa and listen to the dogs snoring....😂🐕

Narya · 09/12/2018 01:43

He only snores on his back, so I roll him towards me and tuck his arm under mine so he can't go onto his back.

Lovingbenidorm · 09/12/2018 01:46

Prod, “darling, you’re snoring “ end of

Lovingbenidorm · 09/12/2018 01:48

Narya have you tried the potato in the pj’s?
My DH sleeps starkers so it doesn’t work but the principle is the same.
If they don’t sleep on their back they don’t snore, voila!

themagicamulet · 09/12/2018 01:48

Ear plugs and give him a shove when he wakes me up, which despite the plugs is 3-5 times a night 😧

Tattybear16 · 09/12/2018 02:01

I don’t, which is why I’m awake listening to it☹️ He is currently drowning out the tv, it’s like a chainsaw. Next door must be able to hear it. I’ve given up up on nudging him to roll onto his side. He says sorry, then 5 minutes later it’s started again. He wakes up refreshed, I’m grumpy and irritable.

gluteustothemaximus · 09/12/2018 02:08

Ear plugs, fan for white noise.

And he sleeps downstairs Grin

I can still hear himHmm

snorenomore · 09/12/2018 03:47

My DH used to snore horribly and I was at breaking point. Between us we’d tried ear plugs, white noise, sleeping tablets, various anti-snore things and taking turns sleeping on the sofa but nothing gave either of us a decent night. Our relationship really struggled as a result. I was angry and he constantly felt guilty.

He eventually saw the Dr and was referred to a sleep clinic where he was diagnosed with severe apnea, despite having none of the obvious risk factors for it - under 40, slim, active and fit.

As part of the diagnosis they discovered that he had very enlarged tonsils. He had them removed about a year ago. He no longer snores and the apnea is greatly reduced. Finally getting a decent nights sleep has been incredible for us both. It’s saved our marriage and due to the severity of the apnea, seeing the Dr for snoring may well have saved his life.

Name changed as lots of friends use this and it’s outing when linked to my other posts!

LondonLassInTheNorthPole · 09/12/2018 03:59

We sleep completely separately

Me in spare room every night.
I can't deal with his snoring, it actually makes me angry.

I relax with him in the main bed for afew hours of an evening, and at the point we are both ready to sleep, i leave for the spare room... Normally to mumsnet for hours Confused

LondonLassInTheNorthPole · 09/12/2018 04:01

He tried loads:
The rings
The nose strips
The things that goes in the nose holes
Laying on side...
Blah blah
.. Nothing worked

ImNotReallyAWaitress · 09/12/2018 04:22

Spotify playlists with a bunch of white noise / rain / rainforest sounds and a set of airpods.

Going to bed a bit before him helps as the main disturbance is when I’m getting to sleep.

On a really bad night I will use the 50mg nytol but I try my best to avoid that as I don’t want them to become a regular thing.

Alcohol makes it worse so if he has a drink we don’t sleep in the same room

jxnx · 09/12/2018 04:39

I pull his leg hairs out one by one until he stops, doesn't always work but I gives me something to do while I'm awake

nbtosser · 09/12/2018 04:46

I kicked him once but he woke up in rage ripped door off threw it at my head

Bunbunbunny · 09/12/2018 04:50

I prod him, if it's bad I wake him to move. If he has a cold I'll sleep in the spare room as he has to sleep and I can't deal with the noise. I also try to avoid the colds as we'll

caesio · 09/12/2018 05:15

Separate rooms.

He did stop snoring for a while when he lost a lot of weight. But started again when it went back on. None of the strips etc worked. Lying awake listening to the noise right next to me used to give me the rage. He thought it was my problem as I was the one awake Hmm

If we're on hols and in the same room I use the foam earplugs.

Whataboutbobbo · 09/12/2018 06:50

Earplugs.

Nenic · 09/12/2018 06:59

Foam earplugs. They are amazing

Ninabean17 · 09/12/2018 07:04

After elbowing and nudging didn't work last night, I moved onto the sofa. It's actually really comfortable so I don't mind too much, he's tried so many things to stop snoring and nothing works.

Howtodeal · 09/12/2018 07:06

Earplugs here too, the industrial ones they use on building sites! They have given me otitis externa though so my ears are often sore, but it's preferable to no sleep. He doesn't snore all the time but I'm used to wearing them now.

DH is an inconsistent snorer, I can deal with it when it's rhythmic as even though I can hear him with the earplugs in I can sort of tune it out. The worst nights are when he's totally silent then starts to snore really loudly, then stops then starts again...

We do have a spare room though and tbf if he feels like it's going to be a bad night (has a cold, been drinking etc) he will go in there. Otherwise I switch if he wakes me up.

He is quite put out that I think the dog's snoring is cute and his isn't....🙄