To those whose DP's snore, how do you sleep?

[MattieB19]

How do you work around the issue and sleep? My lovely DP snores terribly and I'm the lightest sleeper. I'd just like to know how others try and solve the issue if you have it?

I have the same problem but eat plugs I've used don't block anything out ....any advice or recommendation xx

Snorestore do a selection pack of ear plugs here.

Mattie maybe time yes. But in the end, if you feel guilty your DH will think it's right that you feel guilty and that's not fair. He can't help snoring, you can't help being a light sleeper and being disturbed by that. You both have a problem, not just you, so no guilt needed.

Earplugs never worked for me but maybe Specsavers custom made ones would work. However, as a family we have very small ears (this may sound odd but it's true, none of us can wear in-ear bud type earphones, the holes to our ears are too small, it's a family thing). A white noise machine transformed my life, along with DH sleeping in another room, there's lots around now you can buy.

Separate rooms. He comes through in the morning with coffee.

For holidays or if we have folk staying over then earplugs. But, really, separate rooms is optimum.

Like others, I suffered for years. I'm much happier now.

Ear guards

We are off to PILs tomorrow and I will be transporting our trusty fan along too. So stupid in December to be carting a fan about!
Sleeping hasn't been great last few weeks as DH has had a bad neck and therefore fewer pillows. There's been separate beds a few times.

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On the sofa

Spare room

I know mine snores sometimes because if I happen to wake up for another reason (like needing a wee) I can hear him, but the snoring in itself never wakes me up.

Another for ear plugs. I use wax ones from the states , meant for kids but they’re a good size for me.
Have been using them for about 5 years

In the spare room.

In the spare room or I would get zero sleep
I can hear him even with industrial highest decibel available earplugs in.

This ^

(I'm putting a lot of effort into finding a way of recording his snoring - all night. I will buy a cheap camera and HD chip in the Argos sale and leave it running at night to record him snoring.) I'm cross that it's ME doing the research into HIS snoring. (Sprays don't work. Little plastic nose cone things to open his air passages don't work.)

I want to play the sound of him snoring back to him, preferably when HE is trying to fall asleep. I also want him to hear that he does have apnoea - this is why I also want to play it back to him when he's awake. I want him to speak to his doctor about getting a sleep study. Failing that, I want a doctor to listen to what I've recorded with regard to getting a CPAP machine. This is how desperate I have got.

I'm stressed the minute he turns over to sleep after we have kissed good night. I wait.....and it won't be long....before his snoring starts. I can't relax enough to sleep in our bed because the snoring is about to start. I lay there full anxiety because I know the snoring will start shortly. The spare bed has become my sanctuary. It's where I get peace.

I can fall asleep in front of the t.v. I can fall asleep in the passenger seat of a moving vehicle. However, when I'm in bed with my husband and it's time for me to go sleep, I'm aware of the anxiety that prevents me from falling asleep. I'm just waiting for him to start snoring until I'm cross enough to de-camp into the spare room.

That's when I start my whole falling asleep process again. But by then I'm overtired and panicking about not being able to fall asleep.

Oh dear.....

My DH and I have been together 21 years but for the last year we've been sleeping in separate rooms - he snores increasingly loudly and I'm a ridiculously light sleeper.

His snoring used to be solved by rolling him onto his side but now he snores there too! Like you, OP, I wake up if someone switches on a light elsewhere in the house - I'm a lighter sleeper than ever before. I miss him sometimes but I like the freedom of not worrying about being woken up when he comes to bed, woken up frequently by his snoring then woken up when he gets up to pee!

I'd like him to find a solution (I tried earplugs, sleeping pills, special pillows and white noise before kicking him out, but none worked) but he's reluctant to speak to a dr.

Holidays do fill me with fear however as I know I'll get no sleep for the duration and become an utter bitch.

Bose ear buds - expensive but totally worth it

Danielle Evans- can I ask which ear buds you use? How do they help? I've also considered them.

Bose ear buds - expensive but totally worth it

It's tempting. I use silicone wax earplugs. I can still hear him snoring through those. They muffle the sound of him snoring, not block it out completely. Those Bose ear buds seem to be around £300. Is that right ?

Trying to fall asleep in the same bed as him just fills me with anxiety and panic. I'm on tenterhooks just waiting for the inevitable snoring to start.

He grumbles that he can't fall asleep if I'm not in bed with him. So I just feel like a human teddy bear i.e. my function is to get him to sleep. Then.....I can pretty much do what I like. Stay in bed - go to the spare room, the sofa, anywhere really - makes no odds to him. He's asleep.

I like to be back in bed ten minutes before the alarm goes off so we can be in bed when the day starts. Or he will come and wake me when the alarm goes off so we can start the day in the same bed. So, no loss of intimacy.

However, I understand the dread of sleeping in the same bed with no escape from the snoring i.e Christmas or holidays etc.

If I wake I sneak off to spare room. Holidays I find a way to sleep in dc room s we usually self cater or apartment sofa 😳
In September we are all going to have to share a hotel room I’m dreading it already.

Hi Mattie my husband bought them for me for Christmas as he wants us to try and sleep together again. They are BOSE and cost just over £200 from Curry's.

The ear buds sit nicely in your ear - no pushing in like ear plugs and are so comfortable I don't even feel like there is anything in my ears. You then pair it to your phone (bluetooth so no wires)

There are a number of sounds you can choose from to play all night such as waterfalls, rustling leaves, tranquil music etc. I use the 'swell' option which sounds like crashing waves and gusts of wind. Not only do I sleep soundly but have excellent dreams about Caribbean holidays and storms (I love the sound of a storm if I'm indoors!)

We have been sleeping separately for over 10 years so for is it is revolutionary!

Good luck :)

Also I found that where ear plugs attempt to block out the sound (although it only manages to muffle the sound in my experience), the Bose ear buds work differently - they allow your brain to focus on the sounds from the ear buds thus allowing the annoying noise (such as snoring) to become like white noise - therefore it can still be heard (very mildly) but is not the completely irritating sound like it is with ear plugs - sorry I probably haven't explained that very well! But I LOVE them - changed my life lol

In seperate houses and divorced.......although in fairness shoring was merely one issue 😂😂😂

Thank you for that Danielleevans, I found that really helpful. I'm tempted to buy because you can return them in 30 days if you buy from Bose or John Lewis which is apparently a limited offer. Without the prospect of return, I'm not sure I could risk wasting £200. I'm glad you've pointed out that they distract from rather than eliminate sound. Do you need the volume loud?

Mattie - the volume is a wide span, I have it on less than 50%