To not want to give my friend a lift?

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My friend has moved house, she doesn't drive, and our children go to the same school.

She dropped her daughters off the other week, and it was raining, she asked if I would mind giving her a lift home as they had got soaked walking to school, so I said yes.

Now, every time it rains, she asks me for a lift - I wouldn't mind but she lives the other side of town to me, so it takes me a 3 mile round trip out of my way each time I give her a lift home (her walking route is shorter than this, about 1/2 a mile)

I feel like I've made a rod for my own back, she's a great friend, but I worry about winter coming and the snow, and having to drive her home all the time, I've already given her 5 lifts - that's 15 miles of petrol that isn't in my budget either.

Our children are in the lower stages of school, so if I don't do something now I think she'll expect this for years to come.

What do I say to her? I feel so put on the spot when she asks me

send me link couldnt find it I have rich friends and boy the stories I can give about their wifes demanding things and toys from their husbands are silly.

Sorry for going off topic but,You pay a "road tax"? Is it an actual tax just for driving or do you mean like a "toll" fee on certain roads. - again, sorry, just curious. I've never encountered this term before.

Road tax is the tax paid on each vehicle. Your car needs to have a valid tax disc (now online) in order to be allowed to drive. It’s not strictly road tax it’s a tax on each vehicle and I think it varies on type of vehicle.

Is it an actual tax just for driving or do you mean like a "toll" fee on certain roads

In the UK there used to be a road tax but it was abolished over 80 years ago. We now pay VED - vehicle excise duty. It's based on vehicle emissions, so the more polluting a vehicle the higher the tax. Very low emissions vehicles are zero rated and not subject to tax. There are occasional toll roads in the UK but they're nowhere near as widespread as they are in places like France.

I agree with Tinkerbell-those who have a car-perhaps through a rich husband?- should least try and imagine the fatigue and cold of walking long distances in the rain.

Oh god that's hilarious!

Depressing from a feminism point of view but hilarious.

It absolutely pissed it down here on Friday. I thought of this thread as I walked past my car on the drive and walked my DD the half mile to school. Then I walked home again. I was not 'fatigued' or 'cold' as I wore a coat and jumper and carried an umbrella.

That said, tomorrow I'm going to run - for fun - 13.1 miles in the cold and damp. Maybe my expectations for a short walk are skewed.

Ah! That explains why many of the cars I've seen there are so compact. My God if we had that charge in the U.S. People would be bankrupted! LoL, thanks for explaining.

Worst case, become a Uber driver.
That way you are paid to take her home.

Christ almighty, just say NO

Ah! That explains why many of the cars I've seen there are so compact. My God if we had that charge in the U.S. People would be bankrupted! LoL, thanks for explaining.

It's only a couple of hundred dollars per year. Not bankruptcy stuff.

My friend lives in my direction (with a 15 minute detour) and she has started just following my to my car when we are out together (social or exercise class). She doesn't even ask for a lift but expects it, and I've had to amend plans to go in her direction when I wanted to pop elsewhere (e.g., a supermarket or to see family which are not in the same direction). I don't mind giving lifts at all when I am going in that direction, but it's really bothering me that she doesn't even ask. And then I feel like the awkward one!