Does anyone NOT get financial help from parents these days?

[Milly848]

It seems everyone around me is getting money for house deposits or even full houses from their parents. These people are in their late 20s and 30s. I'm not sure if it's the area I live in, or if it's normal.

It makes me feel quite bad, as my parents haven't given me a penny since I was 18, let alone thousands for a deposit. I've had to save everything from the work I earn, and I'm on a relatively low wage. I thought this was the norm, but now I'm feeling it's the exception.

Is it possible these days to get by without financial help/inheritance?

DH and I have always worked very hard for everything we have. I've been on my own since 18, DH on his own since 17. Neither of us has ever been on benefits of any kind. I've never had a penny from my parents. DH has never had a penny from his. Quite the opposite, we usually help our parents out. I don't expect either of us to inherit anything from either of our parents.

I don't get any help from my parents - nor would I expect to - and I don't yet own a house. I will probably be in my late 30s (in my late 20s now) before I can save the deposit for a house, and it does feel a bit unfair sometimes to see friends whose parents gift them 50, 60, 70k deposits or even in the case of one lucky friend, buy them a house outright at 24 years old. But that's how life is and you just have to get on with it :)

I got a boot up my arse out the door at 16. Done everything myself. I treat my DC differently & will help them if possible!

Not here.

I’m teaching my ds (who’s 10) that I’ll go halves on his first car but after that I’m limiting it to my time, ie I’ll help him do up a grotty house but he needs to buy it. I’ll make curtains and sort gardens but my pension is staying where it is.
I’d hate him to have unrealistic expectations.

I bought a caravan to live in when I left home for £185.00. I parked on sites, farmers fields and back gardens whilst saving up. My eldest daughters bedroom was the bottom of a wardrobe and after 7 years I borrowed enough from the council mortgage scheme to get a little cottage but the repayments took 75% of my wages each month. It was hard and after 9 years I managed to trade up, but I didn't get any help in other ways.

Very unlucky that both my parents died when I was young and also very lucky that they left me a good inheritance and security for the rest of my life - if I am sensible. Would trade in a heartbeat.

I dont take any of it for granted as my parents worked bloody hard for everything and I know what a good situation I am in all because of them.