To not date someone because they smoke?

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Really like a guy, everything about him is perfect. Known him years.

He has absolutely no intentions to stop smoking and smokes about 20 a day.

AIBU for this to ruin everything?

As Lizzie48 says, it's goady.

It's also ignorant.

Around 15 per cent of people in the UK smoke today. That varies as to your social circles but in my circle of acquaintance four people smoke. When I was in my 20s thirty years ago I can't tell you how many people smoked.

We used to sit in all kinds of enclosed spaces like offices, restaurants, cinemas, clubs, buses, trains and planes where people smoked and we didn't.

I'm glad I don't have to put up with that any more but I'd still date a smoker if I liked him.

I wouldn't under any circumstances.

Smoked in youth and wouldn't want to be tempted to light up, health problems, risk of condoning it in teenagers etc

Why is it ignorant?

Why is it ignorant?

Because it's one of the last acceptable prejudices that so-called tolerant people allow themselves Knittink

Around 15 per cent of people in the UK smoke today. That varies as to your social circles

I'm a scientist in my 40s. No-one at work smokes, no-one in my family smokes except DH's teenage niece who is being rebellious, none of my friends smoke. It's not part of my social circle at all.

Of all the reasons to not date someone I think smoking is one of the best, up there with drug taking, drinking too much alcohol and gross obesity. Living with a smoker would be bad for my health. It negatively affects their health, their life expectancy, their finances, their looks, and the way they smell and taste. The people I knew at Uni who smoked also took drugs and drank too much, it's all indicative of someone who indulges in risky behaviour. It's a great big red flag. Considering the reasons some people come up with for not dating some (there's a thread on chat at the moment from someone who doesn't want to date a man 3" taller than her ) I think not dating someone whose life choices have a massive impact on the people around them seems a pretty good reason.

Of all the reasons to not date someone I think smoking is one of the best, up there with drug taking, drinking too much alcohol and gross obesity.

I'd agree with that CountFosco and you don't even have to be a scientist in your 40s to realise that. Sometimes you can be a non smoking typist in her teens to realise that smoking is not a good idea.

But despite that you might fall in love with someone. and these are not how we all make our life decisions.

I don't smoke and neither does my husband and the OP is a smug twat

I'm glad I don't have to put up with that any more but I'd still date a smoker if I liked him.

Fair enough, that's your choice. But other people have the right to decide not to date someone who smokes. No one would dispute that we have the right to date who we choose to date.

It's the fact that the OP saw fit to post a thread about it that I personally consider goady. She appears to have been looking to start a bunfight.