Insufferably selfish things your OH does...

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Whenever my exh used to pick up a Chinese takeaway he would eat ALL the prawn crackers on the way home from picking it up. This used to drive me insane as I could never fathom how anyone could do so selfish when he knew I loved them and he would NEVER get two lots no matter how often I asked. Utter nob.

I was thinking about this whilst driving home yesterday and it still gives me the rage 12 years after divorcing him!

Just reading that made me quite angry!

So he deliberately ate the thing you liked and stopped you having any? What a dick.

My ex thought that taking every single BH weekend of every year for himself to do a hobby was perfectly reasonable, because that was when they organised large excuses for pissups events than the usual 1-dayers.

Every. single. long weekend. And couldn't see why I wasn't overjoyed about it.

Would happily pour himself a drink whilst sitting down to the dinner I cooked (after my long day of work providing for the family) and not offer one to me or DD. He is a STBXH due to this and many other small examples.

Pretends to be deeply asleep whenever any of the 4DC wake up in the night.

My do wake me up at 6 something to fill out his time sheet for work . why? I may be a sahm but our dd usually wakes at 4.30am and its me who gets up and puts her back down so obviously at 6am I'm still tired. I usually get up at 730 to sort dcs breakfast

There are too many things to list, he is oblivious to most of the selfish things he does. He is generally a very generous person with money and helping people out etc. but when it comes to doing anything in the house or cleaning up after himself he is very selfish and leaves everything to me. He walked across my lovely clean floors with his muddy work boots on the other morning 3 times in a row. I could here him from bed. Mud everywhere when I got up and I have to clean it up straight away because I have children coming into my house at 7.30 because I'm a childminder!!
Ahhh I didn't realise how mad I was about that 😡. Thank you OP feels good to get that off my chest 😁

butterymuffin yes complete dick. I couldn't even drive at the time so it's not like I could have gone and got it. he would also quite happily finish up any food without thinking if I might want any, i.e. use up loads of bacon for his bacon sandwich and not leave me any even if there was plenty for us both.

My ex, when cutting a cake in half or when picking 1 of 2 cakes, would always take the biggest bit from himself. So bloody rude, I’d never do that to anyone

I think greed and selfishness together are the quickest way to end any love from your partner.

he is oblivious to most of the selfish things he does

Do you really think that? Isn't it far more likely that he just doesn't care because you pick up the slack, and he sees it as your job?

Takes huge portions of a meal so I'm left with a toddler portion. He does it every time despite me saying repeatedly. I've given up eating with him now. Asks me what present I would like for my Birthday/ Christmas then buying nothing.

This is exactly why I don't have a OH!
I can be blissfully selfish all on my own!

That is bloody awful! I can see why he is an ex!

That prawn cracker thing is fucking outrageous! He didn't leave any? Not a single one??

I could write a sodding essay; there are so many!

1. Spending family money on his private therapy when we literally didn't have money for food or Christmas.
2. Wanting to do his hobby almost all day Saturday (having worked long hours & made almost zero contribution to family life during the week).
3. Eating all the dc's snacks so they didn't have enough for school

These are just a few examples; he has generally been unable to put anyone else first, due to MH issues.

The end of it-. Don't let his MH be an excuse for selfish behaviour. Some people are just selfish without reason.

My husband is so selfish and petty but I just laugh at him. I'll be honest we've both been guilty of the prawn cracker thing in the past but these days we manage to only eat a few on the way home
My husband will ask me not to buy chocolate as he can't help himself but eat it and he wants to be good. I'll then buy coffee chocolate for me that I know he hates but he'll eat it anyway out of spite because there's no chocolate for him. Also, he's always making himself cups of coffee without offering me anything, even if it's me who's put the kettle on. He's very selfish but I knew (although not to the true extent) that when I married him

mmgirish literally just crumbs. Arsehole.

I bought a big multi pack of quavers with 20 in for my DD, she loves quavers and I allow her 1 bag a day (before I get flamed she loves fruit and eats plenty of it), it should have lasted her ages it didn't even make 2 weeks as my DH ate them all, I had bought a 6 pack of crisps for him, but he ate all his and started on our DD's.

My ex, when cutting a cake in half , would always take the biggest bit from himself.

If he cut it in half, then there is no biggest bit.

Ahhh being single is the best thing ever!!!!

Love being single too @Lucymorningstar

Great name btw

My exh used to tuck into takeaways as fast as possible in order (it seemed to me) to get more than his fair share. Also would start eating while I was still getting plates etc ready

More selfishly after dc he used to hog any sleep that was going. Any lie in opportunities - his. Any naps - his. Any early nights - likewise. All night waking? - mine. Then used to moan and say "oh you are so obsessed with sleep. Why are you so bad in the mornings?".

I put the children to bed every night. Sometimes, it takes bloody ages. Eldest is self sufficient- reads to himself and just needs tucking in, but youngest has ASD so bedtime MUST be done by me, and its stressful/set routine must be followed.

What really pisses me off is that, when I come down feeling drained and fraught, he's always poured just himself a glass of wine and kicked back watching whatever he wants on tv. So I then sit through the remaining 20 or so minutes of whatever superhero shite he's watching, after pouring my own glass of wine. It's the lack of teamwork that feels selfish.

One nasty/selfish thing he's done, which I've never told anyone... youngest was a very tricky baby. I now know he he was undoubtedly distressed due to sensory issues. But then he was a baby and could only communicate by screeching all day long. I had zero breaks. Until, 8 months after he was born, I was invited to a Christmas night out. It was my first time away from baby, day or night time. A big deal. It would mean dh looking after baby. It would be stressful for him, but so had it been for me for the previous 8 months. I had a great time, got a bit tipsy after only a few drinks, so stopped drinking early on. Came home to a silent house, everyone asleep - excellent! I just couldn't sleep, layed there for ages. Just as I was drifting off, baby starts crying. Normally, I'd leap out of bed so dh isn't disturbed. But this time, I thought "he knows I've had a rare late night drinking, perhaps he'll deal with this for once. Baby cried for literally less than 10 seconds, dh roughly shook me and hissed with absolute disgust "what's wrong with you? He's been crying for ages and you're so pissed you've slept through it."

So, my one night out in forever, and instead of letting me enjoy it, he tried to guilt trip me in to thinking I'm an irresponsible mother. That's how much he resented looking after his own child for one evening.

I sat up and said perfectly coherently (seeing as I was sober and awake the whole time!) "No he hasn't, he only just woke up. Why would you lie about that?"

TheEndofIt Why are you still with him? I left my ex for many reasons that include some of the examples you gave. Yes, he had depression, but he was still a selfish arse and I refused to put up with it any more.