Insufferably selfish things your OH does...

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Whenever my exh used to pick up a Chinese takeaway he would eat ALL the prawn crackers on the way home from picking it up. This used to drive me insane as I could never fathom how anyone could do so selfish when he knew I loved them and he would NEVER get two lots no matter how often I asked. Utter nob.

I was thinking about this whilst driving home yesterday and it still gives me the rage 12 years after divorcing him!

I don't think men are inherently selfish. I do believe they are raised to be selfish, and women are raised to be facilitators of that selfishness. (This is not victim blaming - it's talking about societal conditioning.) Once we are aware of it we can try and change our own attitudes to men's selfishness, so rather than being "oh bless" (standing in cold pee - seriously!!), we need to treat our female selves with respect.

When my DH gets in and out of bed, he just gets in and out of bed! I, however, lift the duvet carefully to get in and out so that he doesn’t get it pulled off him or a big whoosh of cold air blasted into him. But no, he just rolls out dragging the fucking duvet with him.

I’m going to have to properly speak to him about this, it really winds me up.

I'm always amazed at the stuff people put up with while proclaiming how brilliant their partners are. I guess a lot of people just don't really know what "brilliant" looks like.

"I don't think men are inherently selfish. I do believe they are raised to be selfish,"
Yep- there are always threads saying "I blame my mil" as if an adult man is not capable of realising on his own and without a woman's intervention that leaving a pool of piss for their wife to stand in and mop up is unacceptable. Of course they know it's unacceptable. They are doing it to reinforce their place in the hierarchy.

@JayoftheRed your husband sounds like a knob!

This thread is making me angry. I think it's what they see modeled as well bertrand so they see their mothers treated badly and do the same to their partners. But yes, surely there comes a point where they can't blame their upbringing or 'social conditioning'.

@JayoftheRed I’m sorry that you have such low expectations of what ‘brilliant’ is.

Your husband is gaslighting you about pissing on the floor and controlling when you sleep.

He’s not a ‘good ‘un’

If my DH ever even attempts to be selfish he gets a WTF are you DOING you di#k head 😂 soon snaps out of it !!!! I'd never let him do half the crap Iv read on this thread !!! Especially the 'he slept in my bed on the maternity ward' !! My poor DH stood up next to me for 24 hours and then slept on 2 chairs... and he has a bent spine! Think I'd have to get rid 👎🏻

I don't make tea for my DH. I think I'm selfish. But I just have teabags and he has 12 varieties of annoying loose leaf with precise required quantities and brewing times. So I'm selfish and I don't do it.

@notagoodname my DH has done some selfish things in the past, but I read him the riot act every single time and now he's really very nice. Why are you putting up with what yours does?? Train him to be nicer or LTB - you could have been killed!

@DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy as i said there’s only been those 2 times in 5 years, if it was an ongoing occurrence i’d be gone!

Shitting all over the inside of the toilet bowl and not cleaning it up, every fucking day . There are far worse behaviours but the not wiping off your own shit every day makes me the most angry now

He’s been an ex for a few months now and my toilet and sink (toothpaste/ shaving into it) are lovely and clean and I’m so happy after 10 years!

Fucking hell. Why are you with these horrific men?!?!?!?

I remember when I was a teenager I was round my exes house. He had a dysfunctional family rarely any food in etc and as I was too young to have any money of my own whenever I went round there I'd end up starving. This one time I actually said "I'm starving" and he said "yeah me too", went into the kitchen... Made himself some beans on toast... Sat down and ate it without offering me a thing. Nearly 20 years later I still wish I'd smashed the plate over his head.

Some of these men sound fucking horrific, I thought this was going to be mostly light hearted stuff like "he used the last splodge of marmite and refused to go to the shop at 11pm to get more" or something.

But a lot of these are just abusive, I'm glad so many are ex "partners"

I can't fathom how even the most cruel hearted bastard could let his children go hungry by eating all their lunchbox food, or the guy sleeping in the new mum's maternity bed....?!?!

@notagoodname I'm so pleased to read that!! My DH's sins would make you tell me to LTB if I put them here, but honestly I think he was just clueless.