To not sleep with my husband because I hate his moustache?

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DH has been working away for months. He recently came home for 2 weeks leave with a moustache. He knows my feelings about facial hair. I don't mind moustaches so long as I don't need to go anywhere near them but the thought of kissing him or doing anything more with it on his face literally repulsed me. I normally find DH extremely attractive but I just couldn't see past it.

I had friends over at the weekend and I told them that I hadn't had sex with DH when he was home because I can't bare the moustache. They couldn't believe this since he was gone for months and is now gone for months again. It's left me wondering. Was I BU? Should I have just pretended it wasn't there or can anyone relate? Is anyone similarly turned off by facial hair or is it just me who has this problem?

gamerchick, people are making the comparison because there are similarities between a man saying “urgh hair on my GF, gross” and a woman saying “urgh hair on my BF, gross”. As women don’t tend to keep grow beards then there isn’t a direct comparison but this is fairly close and something we read regularly on here, so many posters have experience of being in the receiving end of this kind of judgment.

I can see that facial fur would be off putting for some women to kiss, due to the tickling/scratching and the fact that it seems to harbour the smell of food if not recently washed. Similarly I imagine that men who object to women’s pubes do so because they’re planning to get in amongst it, not purely from an aesthetic POV.

It’s a valid comparison, not like breastfeeding and pooping at all.

No it isn't. Facial hair is impossible to avoid where a woman doesn't wave her fanny around. It's not a like for like.

I disagree. In both cases someone is dictating how someone else should have their body. How can one case be justified and the other not?

Op isn't dictating. She isn't blackmailing him. She said she never mentioned it to him.

Some of you seem to think that once married you must have sex with your partner at all times, no matter what. It isn't blackmail to say that you won't have sex with a partner who stinks unless they have a shower is it?

Why should she have sex if it makes her feel sick? Particularly if she will be gritting her teeth and not even turned on enough for it to be comfortable.

Oh so you effectly blackmailed him into shaving, in exchange for a shag? Last time I looked, blackmail was illegal?

I like a beard, not sure about a moustache on its own (although I did once date a moustachioed man, but I think that was more or less despite the moustache.

As long as you're convinced he really will shave it off before you next see him OP I don't think this is particularly concerning within the context of a long and happy marriage. I've enjoyed the thread a lot though