To not sleep with my husband because I hate his moustache?

[creepymoustache]

DH has been working away for months. He recently came home for 2 weeks leave with a moustache. He knows my feelings about facial hair. I don't mind moustaches so long as I don't need to go anywhere near them but the thought of kissing him or doing anything more with it on his face literally repulsed me. I normally find DH extremely attractive but I just couldn't see past it.

I had friends over at the weekend and I told them that I hadn't had sex with DH when he was home because I can't bare the moustache. They couldn't believe this since he was gone for months and is now gone for months again. It's left me wondering. Was I BU? Should I have just pretended it wasn't there or can anyone relate? Is anyone similarly turned off by facial hair or is it just me who has this problem?

Generally you can have sex without looking at leg/arm/pubic hair. It's a fair bit harder to get in the mood to have sex without looking at someone's face, and kissing would be off the table completely.

Or should I have said :
I gather you like a bare face, not one that looks like a bear's ?
It's been a hard day.I'm sorry.If trains could run on time ,or at all I wouldn't be so crabbit.

Nah, I just picked a bloke who knows my feelings about too much face fuzz.

My Dh grows a ‘holiday beard’ every time he has holiday from work. This means basically he can’t be arsed to shave. I hate it. He knows I hate it. It hurts my face and it’s not a nice hipster beard, it’s a ‘queuing outside Wetherspoons at 9.30am’ beard. I’m not entirely sure how I’d feel if he decided to keep it, but he always shaves it off before he returns to work. I feel your pain OP.

Blindfold next time?

If I was him I’d very offended though

I’d still have had sex. You don’t need to look at his ugly tash in the doggy position.

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Here you go. You’re not alone. My ex, blonde-ish, decided to grow a tach. It was ginger and just looked weird. Glad he at the time got rid of it.

'Oh so you effectly blackmailed him into shaving, in exchange for a shag? Last time I looked, blackmail was illegal?'

There you go OP. It was illegal of you not to shag your moustachioed husband.

Completely agree and understand you op.
My partner has grown a moustache and I find it repulsive. He knows I do. Our sex life has gone downhill. It makes me very sad

Men grow facial hair, it is their natural state FFS. When a man comes on a bed states he is repulsed, actually to the extend that be would split up his family, by his wife's ungroomed state he would be flamed. And rightly so.

Can you think of a grooming activity that if you didn't do for a few days your husband would be "repulsed" by you ? Your natural state repulsed him ? How would you feel ?

Christ on a bike some of you are so immature.

Lol "comes on a bed" = comes on here.

I rather feel my outrage has been undermined by my atrocious typing.

I think that’s fair. If he wants to get laid he should shave it off.

I understand your unhappiness, but i think that you're going to be sorry bc you're rejecting him and he is rejecting your wishes also.

Both of you need to be more careful with one another. You were BOTH unkind.

I love a moustache and a nice beard.. I don't like bald really, although I know being bald sometimes, cannot be helped., except for those guys who have their head shaved which is horrible to see.

Looking at the period of time that he's been away. I hope your phobia will be worth him trying to get it from elsewhere. I think not having sex with him is quite cruel.

I don't blame you for feeling repulsed by a moustache as they are horrible, especially if the ends are 'oiled' or whatever it is that's put on them for 'twirling' purposes.

However, to discuss your sex life or lack thereof with friends is a bit off I think.

There you go OP. It was illegal of you not to shag your moustachioed husband

Thats a pretty extreme reaction to someones facial hair to actually be repulsed by your own husband.

When my dp grew his beard long, I didnt like it, but yknow, I was still able to see the man I love underneath. Its still him.
Peoples appearances change throughout life. God forbid nothing ever happens that makes any other change to the appearance you prefer

I loathe DH's tache, and when he shaves I always tell him he missed the slug above his lips. But actually, kissing him isn't really affected by the tache, because he keeps it trimmed. He always says that he's had the tache longer than I've been alive (this is true) and it's part of him.

He has never once criticised me for not being arsed to deal with my body hair, so I suppose it's fair enough. It's his face.

@RightsaidMabel

Here I go:
Bear : a beastie in the woods,sometimes called "Teddy"
Bare: tolerate, or buck naked.
FFS am I the only numpty on the planet that spent their childhood reading and looking at words?

You don’t use ‘bare’ for ‘to tolerate’. It’s ‘bear’, as in ‘I can’t bear it.’

YANBU moustaches are fucking disgusting - very creepy territory.

oh get over it what if he said he doesnt like your pubic hair or something-sholdnt have to take it off for him

If you told your husband how you feel about it and he still hasn’t shaved,maybe he’s trying to tell you something

Why do people keep going on about pubic hair? It's weird. Like comparing public breastfeeding to taking a shit.

Like comparing public breastfeeding to taking a shit.

Or hair on one part of the body to hair on another part of the body