To not sleep with my husband because I hate his moustache?

[creepymoustache]

DH has been working away for months. He recently came home for 2 weeks leave with a moustache. He knows my feelings about facial hair. I don't mind moustaches so long as I don't need to go anywhere near them but the thought of kissing him or doing anything more with it on his face literally repulsed me. I normally find DH extremely attractive but I just couldn't see past it.

I had friends over at the weekend and I told them that I hadn't had sex with DH when he was home because I can't bare the moustache. They couldn't believe this since he was gone for months and is now gone for months again. It's left me wondering. Was I BU? Should I have just pretended it wasn't there or can anyone relate? Is anyone similarly turned off by facial hair or is it just me who has this problem?

In all honesty, I agree that you absolutely don't have to sleep with someone just because you're married. I mean that IS ridiculous and we aren't in the dark ages, but if you are in the mood and withhold as some kind of power play to get there 'tache gone, I think that would be a problem and quite controlling/concerning.

Not feeling like it, facial hair or not, is a bloody good reason not to whip your pants off.

After that pic op, I definitely couldn't shag him. Who has a curly tache unless they are auditioning for the part of the baddie sheriff in a bad western FFS?

It never ceases to amaze me the shit some men put up with.

Having facial hair is something men naturally have, its part of what makes them men, being repulsed by your husband because he hasn't shaved is unbelievable.

What if he broke his arm and couldn't scrape a razor over his face each morning ? Men with stubble or beards look hot. If you felt so strongly you should have married someone who can't grow a beard.

Man in has facial shocker.

Lol *has facial hair !

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Therealjoseph you think a spouse telling their spouse that they won’t have sex until they lose the moustache is actually ILLEGAL?
Are you on glue?

And she's saying the same in reverse, so that may well be bothering him. confused

Well yes, quite. That’s why I said above that I’d be asking some questions of my marriage and their desirability for each other. I wasn’t saying it was all his fault, just that I think it’s a fundamental issue.

I’m trying to imagine how this would have played out with my DP.

He’s a lazy shaver - only does it once or twice a week most of the time. By about day 3 the coarse grade sandpaper is too much and I can’t kiss him without getting a stubble rash.

So before we have sex he has learned that he HAS to shave or I end up turning away from him, I can’t get into it properly . (To be fair I still think he looks gorgeous with stubble but it’s quite rough to kiss.)

I don’t have a repulsion like you do, so if it was important to him to keep it for several months and I was seeing him in the middle of those months, I’m pretty sure I’d put up with it, even though it might change how we do things.... However, I cannot imagine for one moment that it would be important enough to him to keep it, if that meant no sex

The minute he realised he wasn’t getting any action, day one of those two weeks, he would have happily shaved it off, as I’m pretty sure nothing is more important to him than our sex life. I’d be more annoyed with him about that than the bloody moustache in the first place. Every day of those two weeks he’d be very well aware of what he was missing out on and I’m pretty sure he’d cave after a day or two, if not immediately.

I cannot understand how your H, after trying it on and being rebuffed, knowing full well why, would then keep the stupid face fluff!! Either he’s spectacularly stubborn or your sex life isn’t that great!

I would say “why not just go for a BJ” but mine has even more fur down there He doesn’t twirl wax in it though

However, I cannot imagine for one moment that it would be important enough to him to keep it, if that meant no sex

Men have feelings too shock. I imagine being told "in your natural state you repulse me" would torpedo many people's lust.

I’m pretty sure nothing is more important to him than our sex life.

I think that's quite sad! Sex is very important to me in our marriage but I'd not be happy in a relationship where the most important thing in life was our sex life.

I wouldn’t say sex is the most important thing in our relationship, but it’s more important than a moustache.

I think that's quite sad! Sex is very important to me in our marriage but I'd not be happy in a relationship where the most important thing in life was our sex life.

Being not repulsed by your partners slightly ungroomed appearance for example ?

Id not be with dp if sex was the most important thing to him. Very shallow :(

Ha SoyDora exactly, ESPECIALLY AFTER 4 MONTHS!!!!!

Id not be with dp if sex was the most important thing to him. Very shallow

Not shallow at all. Sex is the one thing we get from each other and not from anyone else.

If he’s not around physically I can still go out for dinner or to the cinema with someone else.

If he’s not available emotionally I can talk to my friends and family about things that are on my mind.

If I want a laugh and a relaxing evening I can spend it with my DCs.

Our sex life is the one any only non-negotiable, can’t get it from anyone else, exclusively ours thing we have. It deepens our connection and there’s a reason sexual infidelity is a deal breaker for most people. Not because enjoying sex is shallow, but because it means so very much.

We do it every day and missing out for two weeks because growing a moustache is more important - that seems much sadder to me!

Oops name change fail!

We do it every day and missing out for two weeks because growing a moustache is more important - that seems much sadder to me!

It’s missing out for 6 months, not 2 weeks! All because of a moustache!

Totalky agree Raging, but I was commenting on a pp saying sex was THE most important thing to their dp in their relationship. I would be pretty sad if my dp felt like that.

l totally get that, creepymoustache. My ex husband did something similar years ago. He grew a beard, but didn't trim it. He looked like David Bellamy. lt was about six different colours and looked like there were things living in it.
l have asthma and if he came near me it used to make me wheeze. l've never gone for facial hair on a man. l possibly could have coped with stubble or a nicely trimmed short beard, but that was just disgusting.

Not at all.. I refuse to kiss my husband when his growth gets to a certain point... I don't mind a bit of stubble but boke!!!

A former partner of mine used to grow the whole moustache and goaty thing for 'Movember'

It used to make my stomach turn, sorry but I couldn't bear to be near him when he had it.

He left in the end thank god

I honestly think all these women who are repulsed by facial hair ought to have picked men who can't grow a beard. That would be more reasonable than predicating your attraction on a constant life long grooming regime.

No, you’re not BU, my DH doesn’t like a full grown hairy 1970’s bush ( neither do I) so if I decided to bin the razors i’d Understand if he didn’t want to go “down there”

Here I go:
Bear : a beastie in the woods,sometimes called "Teddy"
Bare: tolerate, or buck naked.
FFS am I the only numpty on the planet that spent their childhood reading and looking at words?

Couldn't you have sex from behind?