Fil coming round unannounced on a Sunday!

[Toughtips]

Aibu to be annoyed by this? I don't want to see him. Dh is downstairs with him atm
I was being a slob sat in my dressing gown and don't really wanna have to change. Aibu to stay upstairs?

God, there are some right twats on this thread, and also a lot of ill mannered people.

It was obvious OP just wanted to have a moan about her FIL turning up unannounced.

Some horrible judgemental comments on this thread, if the OP wants to wear whatever on a Sunday afternoon in her own home then that's her prerogative. Relative or not, calling in unannounced, unless it's some sort of emergency is not really on.

Everyone is different, everyone's relatives are different. We can't always expect individuals to behave and react in the same way. OP YANBU.

I mind family coming over unannounced. They know if not planned there will not be food etc but cuppas are always available.

Thoughtips not sure why you are getting such a hard time on here.

Your house, your choice how to spend your Sunday. Family do pop in and out people accept that but it’s manners to send a text or give a quick ring first no matter who it is.

You and your DH open the door to him naked next time. That will ensure he has the manners to send a quick text first.

I would never turn up at someone’s house without checking if it was convenient first, so I’m completely with you OP. I think it’s rude to do otherwise.

Anyone is always welcome, just let me know first so I can be presentable and so can the house. I will feel incredibly uncomfortable otherwise. That’s not me being rude and antisocial.

I was once in the middle of a blazing argument with an ex when we had people turn up unexpectedly. I answered the door in tears, he was still shouting at me in the background.

We were as mortified as each other. A whole
other thread really but a quick text would have avoided it.

@Sonandhelpneeded sounds like the overbearing MIL from hell

@shesabloodywitch I think my DIL May disagree! Lol!!

Having just had dinner and four hours of chatting, she laughed her bloody arse off at this..... like she'd give a damn if she was in her dressing gown if myself of my DH turned up!

But then everyone is different..... THANK GOD!

That's what she says to your face ....

@shesabloodywitch that's so funny! Do you not know the feeling of a good and genuine relationship? I presume not!

I do indeed - but thankfully not with people who think they can waltz in anytime of the day or night like they own the place. Luckily my friends and family have manners and are considerate of other people - and the fact that they may have things they want/need to do -rather than just thinking about what they want - so they pick up the phone first. I'm so glad you're not my MIL

@shesabloodywitch luckily my friends and family have manners and also know they are welcome in our hone anytime! Even on a ....SUNDAY!

@shesabloodywitch I'm also glad I'm glad I'm not your MIL!

When we are at an age that we don't both have stressful full time jobs, young children to deal with and clubs to take them to, parties to sort, dogs to walk,shopping to deal with etc all in a short space of time then maybe I will mind less - but currently every moment at the weekend counts so I'd prefer a tiny bit of consideration to just check it's convenient. As you have married children you probably have more time and so you don't mind people popping in and out, but you should remember this isn't the case for everyone so maybe just try and think from someone else's perspective rather than your own

shesabloodywitch
good grief, just accept that not everyone is the same, you don't like it, but many of us are fine with it, presumably sonandhelpneeded knows her own family.
Seriously projecting yourself on to her life!

Like you've been doing to the OP for hours you mean? That is very very funny bored now bye

I meant she has been projecting not you .... anyway off to bed

I don't always even answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone. I don't care who thinks that's rude.

My in laws do this too.turn up at like bedtime on a Sunday night or while we’re in the middle of watching a family film. Honestly wouldn’t mind if we got a tx to say ‘put the kettle on we’ll pop up in five mins’ or something but just no warning at all is annoying! My family would never do this and I wouldnt do it to anyone else.

Bloody hell. Some of the nasty responses on this thread. I hate people turning up unannounced. And I love a pyjama day. I can't imagine having the cheek to just turn up at someone's house without checking it was ok with them first. Family or not.

Some of these posts are incredibly harsh. I wouldn’t pop in on anyone without a quick message or call so I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all for the OP to be a bit miffed that her lazy day was interrupted a bit.

Of course she is entitled to a 'pyjama day', but its a bit stampy footy to get sooo annoyed over such things.

@shesabloodywitch I think my DIL May disagree! Lol!!

Having just had dinner and four hours of chatting, she laughed her bloody arse off at this..... like she'd give a damn if she was in her dressing gown if myself of my DH turned up!

See not that it'll matter but I don't believe you. you've been like a dog with a bone on this thread banging on about your lovely kind son and amazing DIL. How you can drop in and stay for 4 hours unannounced like you did yesterday. You absolutely, disturbingly even cannot see the OPs point of view at all which makes me wonder if your DIL is indeed lovely or has just conformed for an easy life.

@gamerchick believe what you like, but I'm happy in the knowledge of the truth!

Or happy you get your way? You've been very unkind to the OP on what was a minor annoyance and TIC comment, she even said she went downstairs immediately after posting. She had not deserved the namecalling from you or a slew of other nasty posts.

Lovely or not I can guarantee you dropping in unannounced has irritated your DIL briefly at some point. Whether you believe that or not, because she's not a robot.

Agree OP. My FIL is a lovely man but he drops in at the worst time. I had pnd after my son and the unannounced visits were too much and I didn't want him knowing any of my medical business. He pops in just as I'm taking my son out or the dog or if I'm ill. it's so inconvienent