Fil coming round unannounced on a Sunday!

[Toughtips]

Aibu to be annoyed by this? I don't want to see him. Dh is downstairs with him atm
I was being a slob sat in my dressing gown and don't really wanna have to change. Aibu to stay upstairs?

@thurman no tension in the family.

I just didnt really wanna entertain anyone today.

What's wrong with that?

Like ive said... I had to go upstairs to make myself decent. Not comfortable sat with just a dressingown on in front of fil

Would you be this nasty to a person's face?

I highly doubt it.

But wasn't your question asking "AIBU to stay upstairs?" Isn't that the same as hiding?

@rachell I literally posted and went downstairs. I was just fed up that I had to entertain tbh.

I'd be pissed off too. I've been in the bath, bra is off, I don't want bloody visitors on a Sunday evening when I've got work tomorrow. I have serious chilling to do.

Always envious of families who can just mooch around in the house all day - my DC always chomping at the bit to get out, like puppies! They go crazy if they don't get a run around.

Your AIBU was if you should stay upstairs which would have been UR. Being pissed off is not unreasonable. If you silently seethed whilst getting dressed and going downstairs and were polite to FIL then no YANBU!

Need to live far enough from family that they won’t just be driving past but close enough it’s not a mission to visit them.

Ps are you my SIL? 🙈

@thurman yeah I agree it would of been bad of me.

I went up to get changed n wrote the post out as I was annoyed at being interrupted doing nothing.

I then went down and made conversation

I would never turn up to anyone’s house unannounced so would really not appreciate it being done to me, a quick hi are you home do you mind if I/we pop round? Just a heads up so I can have a quick tidy or shower or nip out for milk/biscuits. I just think it’s polite to ask.

@RitaSueandFatFuckingMavis has got it spot on @Toughtips !

@Toughtips ... google says yawp is to shout or exclaim hoarsely .... not sure that's possible on the Internet?

It's not about what someone's wearing it's about the unplanned visitors. I don't mind even 10 mins notice but have toddler and baby and prepare an easily excited 2yo for a visit and consider how for both it fits with naps and meal times...

Are you looking for advice or a fight ? Just checking so I can try to offer the best assistance.

Wasn't looking for a fight but I won't take kindly to name calling. Merely asked if I was being unreasonable.

@Toughtips ... google says yawp is to shout or exclaim hoarsely .... not sure that's possible on the Internet?

You googled it? Fuck me man brilliant

I don’t think OP is looking for a fight, just defending herself. Perhaps she should have worded her post differently but no need for all the nastiness really. She already explained that she didn’t actually sit upstairs and ignore DIL, which is what I originally thought, hence my initial comment!

YANBU
Ex MIL once dropped in unannounced with a friend when DCs were tiny but it was their naptime. She really could have phoned in advance to arrange a convenient time.
I would never dream of setting off in my car to visit someone without asking them first !!!

@Toughtips we are knobs? But you don't like name calling.....

@gamerchick yeah I googled it!! Took less time than getting dressed to see visitors!

It too like five seconds!

Amazing!

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@Toughtipswe are knobs? But you don't like name calling.....

YANBU, I never understand people who say you are rude for not wanting to have uninvited people over....but don't think it's rude for someone to decide they want to come over to your house without checking if it's convenient, that's bloody rude in my opinion!