Fil coming round unannounced on a Sunday!

[Toughtips]

Aibu to be annoyed by this? I don't want to see him. Dh is downstairs with him atm
I was being a slob sat in my dressing gown and don't really wanna have to change. Aibu to stay upstairs?

@ThroughThickAndThin01

If you’d do that as well as the OP you need to grow up too Yvbmioasp

Just because someone is different to you, it doesn't make them infantile. Making rude comments on a forum on the other hand......

@Yvbmilasp
@notacooldad

Telling the OP to grow up is totally out of order. Not everyone likes unannounced visitors. I don't, and I consider myself to be all grown up

FFS read my post correctly before you start criticising. I didn't tell the OP to grow up.

@Toughtips I said you sound awful! Which you do!

@notacooldad

Fair point, sorry.

Agree with the majority.
Unless there is a massive drip feed you've not dropped yet, YABU.
Of course a close family member should be able to drop by.
Obviously, when people pop in, they have to take you as they find you. That's fine. Many of us have no problem with visiting a home that isn't a showhome, or a friend or family member who might be relaxing.

Im thinking there is a few dropper inners on this thread where it never occurs to them to ring first before going to people's houses.

It's fine to have different ways of living our lives but it's not fine to call the OP names, just because she's different to you. It's not on.

I’m a bit like this OP. I like the chance to be reasonably dressed and make sure there’s no skids in the toilet before visitors come over. I quick ‘Are you in’ type text or call is polite and sensible I think.

Cool. Happy to be told iabu. Hence why i posted.

After i posted i went down anyway.

My parents have never popped round n noone else ever has without calling.

To be called lazy and awful is weird but ok. I'm mature enough not to be upset by others opinions lol

YANBU OP. Just because someone has a different outlook, this does not mean you're unreasonable.

And sorry. No drip feed.

I'd never just drop in on someone. I have two daughters and I'll never just drop in on them unannounced either

I went down anyway....

You're a hero!! So DH is unwell, you strop off upstairs but you're so lovely you went down and spoke to your FIL! You are just so lovely!!

None of our family drop in either. We just don't and that's fine with us.

I went down anyway....

You're a hero!! So DH is unwell, you strop off upstairs but you're so lovely you went down and spoke to your FIL! You are just so lovely!!

give it a rest @sonandhelpneeded

@sonandhelpneeded really? You sound delightful yourself. Do you get a kick out of arguing with people? Glad I'm not your DIL. God forbid she doesn't ever wanna see you one Sunday evening.

To be honest I hate people coming here unannounced. I like the chance to have a quick hoover round/tidy up beforehand and ensure I'm presentable.

I think it's rude - what if you're in the middle of something? Or had planned to go out?

It's not about being lazy or a horrible person.

@Yvbmioasp why? OP states why should I get dressed and dirty clothes, why should I go down!

Then it's a whole story change when's she's called out on it!

DH not well that's why I'm not dressed, i went down!

To my mind she's trying to appear a pleasant and reasonable person....that she isn't!

It must be fucking hard to speak nicely to her fathers husband for a visit!

There was no stropping lol. But please continue to make shit up. I went up whilst dh opened door as I'd got nothing on under my dressing gown

A whole story change? Hardly... But do continue lol

@sonandhelpneeded

No one in my family drops in. We're polite enough to wait to be invited or else we phone ahead. It's just manners in our family.

I wouldn’t dream of just turning up to anyone’s house with checking that it’s ok first. It rude and bad manners to expect someone to stop whatever they are doing to entertain you. A quick phone call or a text would tell you if you are welcome.

Thanks. Got no issues in him coming. He's asked before and no issue.

I just wanted a lazy Sunday slobbing about. Just miffed when that got interrupted lol

Really @golden I must have very low standards. I don't get dressed on a sunday unless I'm going somewhere lol

I wouldn't be keen on people coming over unannounced and would really try to discourage it personally. Nothing wrong with the odd pajama day