To stop sending my child to nursery cause they allow him outside

[O8O818]

here me out, I hope I'm not being PFB but I am so fed up with my child's nursery. Time and time again I've said he is not to be outside, but nobody listens! Each day he comes home caked in mud, all up his back, caked on his shoes, not wearing any gloves or a hat, some times not even wearing his wellies just his indoor shoes! Its Baltic. On Friday I went to collect him and they said he was outside making hot chocolate... with the mud he was rolling around like a pig in shit but he was covered from head to toe, in his hair, his ears, his back from when another kid through a mudball at him I don't know whether I'm overreacting though? Aibu!!

FruitCider describing the weather as 'baltic' is a turn of phrase, for goodness sake! It does not necessarily mean the temperature is precisely the same as an isolated farm in Latvia!
If you'd read the full thread, you'd see there are additional issues at play here and why your post is not helpful to the OP whatsoever.

O8O818 - does your child have extra support - a 1-1? Any outside professionals coming in (like speech and language or physio?). You said the person at the nursery said it allows them more 1-1 time with the other children - do you think they find your son difficult to entertain inside? I'm trying to find a good way of saying it, but some early years setting are not very good at supporting children with additional needs, and I wonder if you worry they are just trying to make life easy by sticking him outside (which he obviously enjoys- but which should happen alongside time inside, and with the support of an adult when he is outside, and of course he should be dressed aporopriately)

He is supposed to have an early years person with him for two of his nursery settings, he gets SALT every week and somebody from physio once a month
But yes thank you that did cross my mind

O8O818, it really does sound like they are not supporting him well, or even keeping him safe. I hope you can sort something out. Sorry this thread has been a bit if a shit show....

I don't know if you ever post on the sn boards but you might get more help there in future.

Ofsted insist all nurseries have an outside area and all kids once walking go outside daily unless weather is too wet. You need to provide proper outdoor clothing - an all over waterproof suit is perfect plus a fleece etc for cold weather, wellies plus gloves and a hat

OP, you're crazy for criticising the nursery and for still keeping him there given their level of neglect.
Isn't MN wonderful?

Just ignore the people who don't bother to RTFT. And the haters (quoting DS).

I don't think people even read the original post, let alone any subsequent ones. Do people really just read the title, see 630 posts and just post. Odd.

You need to provide proper outdoor clothing - an all over waterproof suit is perfect plus a fleece etc for cold weather, wellies plus gloves and a hat

Fricking genius! Bet op never thought of that!

Christ on a bike this thread is one seriously depressing insight into the comprehension skills of the general public. We are all doomed!

anniehm - perhaps reading the OPs posts may enlighten you to the steps she's already taking - indeed to help those posters who can't or choose not to read beyond the first line she's done a helpful summary yesterday morning

*Ok to sum it up -
I do provide a jacket, but when I cannot get it washed and dried the next day, I mean with two other children who actually can? He goes in a hoody those days I wish he wasn't sent out.

• he wore boots on Friday, as I had no other footwear left for him. on other occasions the boots are dropped off with him but not worn
• I have provided an outdoor suit, it is also not worn
• he is left alone I've been told by the staff that he is. maybe not for long, they never did specify. upon collecting he is always alone outside. no other kids are wearing outdoor wear so it appears he is the only one.
• I do not mind if he plays with mud but I don't like him jumping in it, to the point it is in his ears!
• we have a massive garden, with heaps of toys, I do allow him outside. Frankly he is outside more than in!
• don't nit pick, it's baltic grin
• I have a meeting at the nursery tomorrow and I'm awaiting a call back from the care inspector people, I will spend Thursday and Friday looking at a childminder option.
• yes I believe the nursery are at fault for not helping him with suitable clothing. If they left him in a dirty nappy, is that not their fault? Or is it my son's for simply not being able to manage it for himself? *

o8o818 good luck with your meeting today and with other avenues you're pursuing.

Your son sounds like a fun loving, tenacious, adventurous chap who I'm sure will continue to bring you grey hairs lots of joy

Good luck with meeting 080818.

Good luck OP.

As an aside, I did ask MNHQ if the OP's posts could automatically be highlighted in a thread.
They're working on it.

Checking whether they've been read or not before you're allowed to post may not happen for at least another decade sadly.

They are automatically highlighted in a different colour anyway aren’t they?

Not automatically, you have select it in your settings. Obviously, some people don't.

Ah ok. I’ve never selected it and it happens anyway (they’re highlighted in green).

I wonder why I had to set it then? I've recently changed the shade because I was a bit bored! 😂

Hoping your meeting went positively

OPs are green and my own posts are pink. What would be lovely is if a thread would open at my last contribution so I don't have to scroll back before I can pick up where I left off!

OP please do let us know what comes of it all!

Aunt
Just 'bookmark' your post!
Hover over the bottom corner, click on 'bookmark' and it will save it.
Next time you will open at that post.

Willow, thanks for that tip. That's the most useful thing I've gotten out of this thread (other than that all-in-one suits area good idea and I should cancel the cheque) 😂

OP, might be a good idea to start a new thread about your meeting, as this one has gone so haywire.

I read the thread. Hope the meeting went well OP.

My only real take away, that doesn't appear to be highlighted, is the fact that the child has appropriate clothing, and refuses to wear it, and they still let him out. That's strange as he's 2 and they are adults with responsibility for him. If they think he should wear coats and stuff, then they should ensure he wears coats and stuff before he's allowed out.

A little something called discipline.

It sounds like it's easier for them to deal children without his particular needs.