To stop sending my child to nursery cause they allow him outside

[O8O818]

here me out, I hope I'm not being PFB but I am so fed up with my child's nursery. Time and time again I've said he is not to be outside, but nobody listens! Each day he comes home caked in mud, all up his back, caked on his shoes, not wearing any gloves or a hat, some times not even wearing his wellies just his indoor shoes! Its Baltic. On Friday I went to collect him and they said he was outside making hot chocolate... with the mud he was rolling around like a pig in shit but he was covered from head to toe, in his hair, his ears, his back from when another kid through a mudball at him I don't know whether I'm overreacting though? Aibu!!

Sounds like your ds is having a fab time, he's being allowed to explore his environment. Mud kitchens are fab for children to use their imagination.
Yes he should be dressed according to the weather, warm clothes and wellies, but other than that, be reassured he is being able to explore and play to his hearts content x

Yes he should be rolling around in the mud, but yanbu that he should be in wellies, waterproofs and a washable coat to do it. Send him with wellies and waterproofs and insist he wears them every day.

He is the only child out there, it's not like they are all out doing it.
He isn't allowed to wear wellies indoors and I got told for sending him into the nursery in wellies but he had no other footwear! It is really inches thick.
My issue is just that he gets covered, without proper clothing. If I send wellies in they won't put them on him, If I send in gloves or a hat they won't do that either as I've already done it. They've had him out in a t-shirt in the rain and hailstones because 'he said no to wearing a jacket' just seems like he gets bunged outside because they cba doing anything with him

When I worked in a nursery (albeit with 2-5 year olds, not sure how old your son is?) we had some parents who asked for their child to be kept indoors. The answer was always that, in line with the EYFS, we had a free-flow policy and the children could choose where to play and learn. I'd have made sure they had costs and outdoor shoes on though - although sometimes the odd one slips by you unnoticed when you're busy with others. Perhaps have a word about the lack of coat, but nowhere will keep him indoors or stop him getting filthy, if it's in the course of playing and learning I'm afraid.

How old is he 08? Once in the preschool section our nursery allow children to come and go as they want with the garden and they are expected to put their own shoes and coats on.

Yabu. Sounds like he loves it. Send him in clothes you don't mind getting dirty. It's v good for his development/he's learning to risk assess etc.

I’d love if my DD’s nursery did more of this! They go out twice a day no matter what the weather but there is no mud to roll around in.
I’d provide him with the correct clothing and let them know it’s in his bag for outdoor play.

He should be supervised. How cold are we talking?

BUT why are you sending your child to nursery without coat and shoes?

SoundS like you have an isssue with the quality of care rather than the mud? If so, perhaps raise this with the nursery manager and OFSTED.

Please tell me you're joking? Children needs to go outside and explore! Yes they make a mess but that's all part of the fun. So yes, YABU! Stop being dramatic and let them have fun. My DS loves going outside and nursery takes him outside whenever he is there.

So what if it's inches thick?

Assuming it is - because the weather isn't 'Baltic' anywhere in the UK yet (it's one of the warmest autumns in records) so I suspect you are giving in to hyperbole.

Yep you are PFB.

It’s a bit of mud.

He’s obviously enjoying himself

I disagree with some of the comments. While I think it's excellent that he's going outside so much, at nursery age staff should help him into suitable clothes for outside and be able to enforce that. My 19 month old insists on going out in the garden in all weathers, but he knows he has to wear coat, hat and wellies

He wears a jacket and shoes of course! The jacket comes off upon entering nursery, they do put that on sometimes
He is the only kid out there so not likely he is being missed.

The Op has already explained that correct clothing etc is sent in, the nursery have ignored it!

I'm with you OP, I'd be asking them why they aren't dressing him in the clothing I provide which is suitable for going outdoors. I'd be livid if my child had been outside without a coat in this weather. Complain again and see if it helps, I'd be moving him if not.

He gets outside in my garden, has a playhouses, sand pit, slide, swing, bikes and scooters. It's not like I'm denying him going outside! I just can't understand why he has to get so filthy. He will be traipsing that back into the nursery as well

Rose, it bloody feels baltic! We are up in Scotland. Allowing a 2 year old to be outside, no hat or gloves for hours just isn't on. If I did that I'd be reported

He needs to be going out to play but he also needs to have the right clothing on. I would speak to the nursery manager about this. Make sure they know exactly what he has to put on - the all in one suit and his wellies as a minimum I would say.

I don't understand why he's outside by himself.

How cold is it? My daughter's school has recess (outdoor play time) unless the temperature is less than 32°F (0°C). Is it colder than that!

At my DS nursery they spend I’d say in average 3/4 hours outside, in all weathers. However they have a huge box of spare hats , scarfs etc. For the summer they have sun hats spare (enough for everyone), I leave a pair of wellies at nursery and he has a pair of slippers there too.

I’d say you are being unreasonable expecting him not to go outside however you are reasonable to think he should be properly dressed.

I’d raise it with nursery that you are concerned re the lack of clothing when outside, it’s cold and you send a hat / gloves so can he put them on. However If they say he jut takes them off,,,,, well that’s is a diff problem,

I don’t think you can insist he is kept inside (although refusing to put wellies on him when he goes to play in the mud seems ridiculous), but I wouldn’t be happy if my child was outside in the rain without a coat unsupervised. These seem like quite extreme ends of the spectrum! As others have asked, how old is he? You say they cba doing anything with him, does he present with particular challenges or educational needs?

It’s not below 0 during the day here in Uk unless you are in the far end of Scotland etc

I think you need to speak to the nursery and find out their outdoor clothing policy. At my nursery they have to wear coats, hats, gloves etc. How old is he?

You need to direct your energies towards making a fuss about the staff's failure to put him in suitable clothes when he goes outside, rather than the issue of letting him go out.

Off the point but: I've tried to work it out and failed - what do you mean by "It's Baltic"?