And sitting there holding her hand? Really? I have held an adult lady's hand when comforting her when she was grieving. Other than for safety or being silly I can't think of any other occasion I've seen adult ladies holding hands
It wasn't weird at the time. Just posing for a photo..
I suspect there was more going on here beforehand than you want to admit
no there really wasn't.. Other than greeting her dh I hadn't spoken to him before this encounter. There was no previous incident either
Their keen involvement with your daughter
all I've been hearing for months and months is "it takes a village" before coming on way too strong and overstepping and assuming roles. I now loath this saying lol
is there any chance she thinks you flirt alittle prior to the head rub, it sounds like it push her over the edge.
absolutely not.
I'd leave the ball in her court now, if she wants to meet up make sure it's just her and you in the future.
I will absolutely be doing this
Are they using your baby to play happy familys
my thoughts exactly 
why on earth would you wake someone up at a party then waffle small talk at them. Surely you would just leave them to sleep.
It was thoughtless and in an intoxicated state. I was sitting on the couch next to him doing something on my phone. I started talking to him.. Looked over realised he was falling asleep.. Brushed my hand on his head. Once.. Not in a caressing way...but obviously I am comfortable with him.. Afterall it's been hammeeed home for months and months that" we are all family "and" it takes a village " he's playing" uncle". Admittedly if I was sober It wouldn't have happened but I was in that "friendly, we're all best buds state of mind after quite a lot to drink" . I'm not excusing it.. Now I know the boundaries and where I stand I will just keep my distance altogether and moving forward I think I will have to be cautious in being too friendly or over familiar with friends husbands etc.
Also be careful letting people care for your child.
will do! - Thanks.
It sounds like a simple alcohol-induced, spur of the moment act of genuine affection towards a friend.
It was this exactly. Whether right or wrong it's definitely not pattern of behaviour but a single alcohol induced occasion which nothing was meant by it and ive been made to feel like a predator
I would just apologise and explain that you were just trying to wake him up and didn’t mean it! Then distance yourself from the couple.....
thanks I did apologise, and will be distancing myself. She has said let's meet up next week.. If she does message to arrange I'll let her know that we both need to take a step back.