Not everyone feels sorry for Mums of just boys or only children

[AlwaysFuckingTired]

Speaking to an acquaintance who mentioned feeling sorry for two of the women she works with in her office. One a Mum of 2 boys, and the other a Mum of one. Apparently she feels awkward as she thinks they're both jealous of her as she's a Mum of both sexes. I asked why she thought that, and she said "oh all women want a Daughter don't they? and everyone wants more than one" I said I've known lots of people happy with an only child or all boys, and she pulled an odd face as if she didn't believe me and said "well that's what people say"

AIBU to think she's a bit of a knob?

Distancecall, yes my MIL is like this and clearly thinks that SIL is a superior being to DH and BIL. It's awful. Although weirdly DS is her favourite grandchild, I think because he's the eldest. She was quite rude when we found out dc2 is a boy though and has shown zero interest in my pregnancy/asking how I am etc. She's a very strange woman.

I'm a mum to one boy and I love it.Im not jealous of people with girls all.

I have x2 boys & it's bloody great!
I love being a mum of boys.
I don't envy people who have daughters or one of each.
I've actually thought having one of each is probably much harder than 2 of the same.

honestly, yes i would feel sorry for someone who just kept having boys. Save your pity. I have 2 DSs and wish I had 2 more. I would have been a poor mother to girls so crisis averted.

How strange..im hoping for a second boy as the final member of our family

She’s a knob. What does she think about childless women? That they want to scratch out her eyes and skill her precious gender balanced little brood.

Start talking to her about the increasing trans trend in children, and how she would feel if she suddenly only had one gender.

Oh Northern you’ve just reminded me of something an awful colleague said before I had my own children. He said he had two girls then a boy because his wife “took three tries to get it right.” I was so, so appalled.

This drives me crazy! I get asked a lot if I will keep trying for a girl, I think it’s so rude. It’s implying that my boys are not good enough.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t be disappointed to have a girl but it’s not something I’m desperate for.
Me and my sister had a very strained relationship with our mum so I’ve never seen the big deal of a mother/daughter relationship

I'm currently expecting DC#2 (1st born is DS) and the amount of people who actually insist I must want a girl this time is unreal. Even when I say I really don't mind if it's a boy or a girl one woman actually said "You say that but I guarantee that you actually want a girl because that's the ideal isn't it, one of each?" Nope, the ideal is a healthy baby, really.

I had a miscarriage between my two DS and it really upset me when I was pregnant with DS2 and people would try and put a dampner on my happiness buy expressing sympathy over his sex

I would love another baby, boy or girl it really doesn't matter.

Total knob!

Totally weird. That is a v v strange world view!

It's such a strange concept, where did it come from? I'd have thought the same though, before I had my boy.

If that same woman had only sons, or only daughters, or one child, she would still believe she was superior and that everyone felt jealous of her situation. It's her personality type.

My ex neighbour used to heavily disapprove of young unmarried mothers. She was very vocal about it. When her eldest dd got pregnant at 16 she did a neck snapping about turn and couldn't stop going on about how clever her daughter was to have a baby early, and what a shame for people whose kids make them wait decades for a grandchild. Some people need to come out on top whatever the circumstances.

Who are these people?

I have just the one boy and tbh I wouldn’t know what to do with girls.Obviously if I’d had one then I would have, but princesses and dressing up and the like just wouldn’t be on my radar. And before anyone starts with the “girls don’t have to/aren’t necessarily into that stuff,” of course not, but the truth is that many are.

And I wanted more than one dc but secondary infertility put pay to that. However years on my life circumstances have changed and I wouldn’t swap having an only child for the world.

But tbh I wouldn’t really give two shites if anyone felt that I deserved their pity. Says much more about them than about me.

I have two. A boy and a girl. They are both hard work. In another life time I wouldn’t have children at all.
I just feel sorry for people with loads of kids, whatever the make up of their sexes. But then I guess I shouldn’t feel sorry for them because they chose to have them and are probably very happy. People with multiple births I always feel - not sorry for exactly - but more ‘thank god I only had single births’ but that’s more about my inability to cope than anything to do with them!

I have three children, first two are different sex. The shock and confusion when I announced pregnancy number three. Why did I want a third when I already had one of each. .

Are there really people feeling sorry for me because I have two boys?! How odd

I was very relieved at having only boys!

What a moron...this is seriously bizarre, she’s going through life assuming any parent who doesn’t have a girl and a boy must feel jealous of those who do? Is this woman generally highly unintelligent?

I have one girl and 2 boys. Never even thought in terms of preference. They’re all my children.

But, I do find it hypocritical on these types of threads that it seems perfectly acceptable for people to express a preference for a boy, yet not for a girl.

I’m often praised by strangers for having boy/girl twins, with comments such as “ooooh, aren’t you clever?”, “perfect, well done” and “all done at once”. All apart from the last one amuse me, because it’s like people forget I had no say in what sex the children are, and I didn’t expect twins. The last comment of being done just annoys me, because people assume because we have one of each we couldn’t possibly want any more kids.

People are weird.

The only people I know who would say such a thing are the types of people who are unhappy in their own lives and want to project that on to others. As they say, misery loves company...

I’m sure people like Kate Moss, Elizabeth Hurley (mother’s of onlies) or Elle McPherson or Naomi Watts (mothers of boys) are very jealous of your friend! You have to be a spectacularly dumb person to not realise that people living different lives to yours can be happy.

It's not genderit is biological sex.

Oh, have a day off! You know full well what the OP and subsequently posters mean 🙄

Whatever you do OP don’t ever take anything this woman says as truth. She’s very self absorbed in a twisted world view. Quite self important too.

I have one DD. Very happy with an only child. It works out perfect and I know I’d be crap with two so definitely an only is perfect for me.

I have two lovely boys. It's never occurred to me to feel sorry for myself.