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To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

296 replies

Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 09:46

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
Survivedanotherday · 23/11/2018 17:32

You're right, very petty, you are both ridiculous.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 23/11/2018 17:32

You all seem like teenagers Hmm

myusernameisnotmyusername · 23/11/2018 17:38

This is absolutely ridiculous and something that would’ve happened at my old ridiculous workplace ----where I used to ignore everyone

Mummadeeze · 23/11/2018 17:40

Ha ha ha. I’m on her side to be honest. She was giving you a big hint that you would have enjoyed it but didn’t want to completely spoil the plot for you. You sound a bit annoying questioning and questioning her. But you are mostly unreasonable for letting her annoy you this much! You do not need to apologise but you do need to chill out a bit.

TheCherries · 23/11/2018 17:40

Good god. Are you all in a preschool?

Workreturner · 23/11/2018 17:42

There are employed adults that actually behave like this? Someone has actually employed the COP (Crazy OP) and this CC and is paying them to do a job?

The mind boggles

y0rkier0se · 23/11/2018 17:44

I thought this was Grey’s Anatomy. Not the same without Derek Sad

Workreturner · 23/11/2018 17:44

Sometimes it’s hard to walk away from people like that even if it’s better for your sanity.

Hard if you are a 4 year old perhaps

yunalis · 23/11/2018 17:44

I love that show but even I am baffled 😂

FWIW I'm a bit gutted he's not dead. Plus then I had to watch the entire series again to figure out how this atrocity had occurred 😂😂😂

I will miss it when it ends, even if gina is annoying in real life.

DaveyouareanuttertwatDave · 23/11/2018 17:46

I'm guessing lost......they're all dead

goodomens830 · 23/11/2018 17:49

I think you're insane. Why on earth did you go on and on? I feel sorry for her. She tried to include you in the conversation and not spoil a show for you. She sounds a delight.

winniestone37 · 23/11/2018 17:50

Dear god she's swful, you're awful, literally crying!!!

MotherofDinosaurs · 23/11/2018 17:53

100% with you OP. There are few things more irritating than people smugly guarding info on TV series and not understanding that some of us like and want spoilers.

Patienceisvirtuous · 23/11/2018 17:55

Can’t believe I read that full OP 😄

Wow2806 · 23/11/2018 18:00

Think your both bat shit crazy

BTW do you mean Carl - still dead
However this season is fan loving it and new characters didn't think I would but I am

Watch it ha ha ha hw

Lavende · 23/11/2018 18:00

The conversation could’ve ended like this:

“Watch season Y!”
“Yeah I’ll give it a go”

HopeGarden · 23/11/2018 18:03

I’ve been in that whole refusing to give spoilers sort of conversation before. It’s annoying.

Now when I start having “not going to tell you but you need to watch season y” conversations I just say yeah, I’ll do that, and then I get out my phone and start googling for the spoilers the minute they turn their back.

LondonLassInTheCountry · 23/11/2018 18:03

Very petty

You both need to get a life

CrispbuttyNo1 · 23/11/2018 18:05

If you two worked for me I would sack you both and myself for hiring you. The pair of you sound like 8 year olds.

Doubletrouble99 · 23/11/2018 18:06

What a stupid conversation, why did you keep it up for so long, could just have googled when you left the kitchen. Your both mental!!

Hippopotas · 23/11/2018 18:07

Stargate SG1?

NotTheFordType · 23/11/2018 18:08

I can't be bothered to RTFT but I'd report her assault to your line manager. She needs a (metaphorical) flick round the earhole.

Getoffthetableplease · 23/11/2018 18:10

Yabu for missing that wet weekend of a character. Thanks for making me grateful I no longer work in an office though even though I'm jealous you get paid to stand an quibble telenova

LondonLassInTheCountry · 23/11/2018 18:12

Not only did you have this stupid discussion, you then decide to put it on here.... Why???

Reckon it might be a full moon tonight, going to be lots of weird threads

CaMePlaitPas · 23/11/2018 18:19

Well that's 5 minutes of my life I won't get back.