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To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

296 replies

Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 09:46

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
maddiemookins16mum · 23/11/2018 20:14

Both as bad as each other, I’d have hated trying to make a brew in the kitchen with you two!

acegod · 23/11/2018 20:16

you both need to grow up and get see a shrink. You should have left when she refused and googled it yourself. Lesson learned for next time, 2nd you dont owe her an apology she owes you for gbh (gross body harm) and property damage. So drop it and go to sleep and think it was a bad dream actually no bad nightmare. lol

MadMadaMim · 23/11/2018 20:26

@OP

Are. You. For. Real????

YABtotallyandutterlyU to spend time posting about nothing!

CC could be on here saying exactly the same about you repeating the same thing over and over.

MN has some nonsense talk threads but thus is by far the worst I've seen in a looooong time.

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 23/11/2018 20:29

KinELL! And I thought I went on a bit!

PS...If it's PLL, it's sort of worth a watch.

You all sound about 10!

FunkyKingston · 23/11/2018 20:35

Roght now, the persom who witnessed this batshittery is in a pub telling their mates 'you'll never guess what the fuck happened at work today'

SneakyGremlins · 23/11/2018 20:45

I've never seen Lost, or Jane the Virgin, or The Walking Dead, or Spooks, or Game of Thrones so this has been enlightening Grin

foodenvy · 23/11/2018 20:55

That was totally painful to read. You’re both nuts.

Neverender · 23/11/2018 20:59

It's game of thrones and you should have just walked off!

MyRashyKid · 23/11/2018 21:01

Jane the Virgin?

MyRashyKid · 23/11/2018 21:03

Oh I see it was! Michael is actually the shittest character so ywbu to stop watching because of him. Your friend was weird but so were you to keep asking her when you could have just googled from the start. You both got weird and made it an issue.

MistyMinge · 23/11/2018 21:12

I can't be arsed to read the whole thread, but the first few pages have given me a good laugh. The couple of glasses of red wine I've had have probably helped too. I think the third more sane colleague should have shouted 'fight, fight, fight' and the two of you should have tumbled to the ground and had a bitch fight amongst the discarded Jeffrey Archer books and custard cream crumbs left by Colin in accounts. Whoever had the most hair in their fist is the winner. Done.

MistyMinge · 23/11/2018 21:14

P. S. Which bloody character was it? I'm guessing Jim Robinson in neighbours Grin

e1y1 · 23/11/2018 21:20

Just to confirm - this was over coffee at work and not dusting juice and snack time at nursery?

Batshit crazy.

e1y1 · 23/11/2018 21:21

*during - ducking iFad

RebulahConundrum · 23/11/2018 21:38

Only Supernatural could inspire such absurd behaviour.

Annette69 · 23/11/2018 21:52

Weird - all of you.

jillybeanclevertips · 23/11/2018 22:35

WTF? I beg to differ, the hitting was the bit that was most wrong, and she owes the apology.Stick to your guns and if she doesn't let it go remind her of your ages and tell her to Get a life.

Yidette86 · 23/11/2018 23:56

Wtf did I just read?

liverbird10 · 24/11/2018 01:01

Grin Good God, OP. Are you and your colleagues stuck back in the early years of high school?! Do some work instead of bleating pointlessly about irrelevant tripe!

liverbird10 · 24/11/2018 01:18

...although after reading the entire thread, I do find your updates amusing! Grin

liverbird10 · 24/11/2018 01:21

PS: I am clearly the Ravenpuff to your Slytherdor.

Aridane · 24/11/2018 01:53

Not sure which of you was weirded -you both sound equally over invested!!

1forAll74 · 24/11/2018 02:38

It all sounds like a school playground conversation to me, ha ha

Ayanda2018 · 24/11/2018 04:34

It must have been a crazy day at work for both of you to get into such a petty 'fight. Forget about it, coz it is really petty. Move on , don't bother about it, till the next petty one. Wink

toddlepod · 24/11/2018 05:38

Larrythecat same here! I read a bit and when I'm invested in certain characters in have to flick to the end to find out if they're still there and if not, why not! That determines whether I read the book!