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To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

296 replies

Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 09:46

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

OP posts:
ambereeree · 22/11/2018 10:00

This has made me laugh and shake my head with disbelief! Now did you say school or work?

user789653241 · 22/11/2018 10:01

Agree with pp. Both sides are way ott. Grin

Tink2007 · 22/11/2018 10:02

I just want to know which show it is 😂

Valasca · 22/11/2018 10:02

Well as you’re both petty, you can stroll up to her tomorrow and ask if she’s ready to apologise for hitting you and dropping your phone on the ground, you’re ready to apologise for “not trusting her.”

Rolypolybabies · 22/11/2018 10:02

Homeland?

ElideLochan · 22/11/2018 10:03

She sounds like hard work!!

But what is the show??
I think it's a shame that you stopped watching something just because a character died, you have no idea what will happen with the rest of the characters, you're only missing out on something that might be brilliant (possibly)

And if the show has been out for years, then it's not a spoiler

neom · 22/11/2018 10:03

Dirty Den. Obvs

Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 10:04

Happy for the consensus to be I need to grow up, as long as I don't need to apologise also... Grin

for those asking, this is the show- found an ambigous link! spoilers obviously...don't make me hit you.....

<a class="break-all" href="http://www.buzzjack.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=211373www.buzzjack.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=211373" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.buzzjack.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=211373www.buzzjack.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=211373

OP posts:
SpannerH · 22/11/2018 10:04

She owes you an apology for knocking your phone out of your hand but I bet that won't happen either. I'd just sweep it under the carpet and move on.

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2018 10:05

I want to know now :)

DragonFire99 · 22/11/2018 10:05

You both sound bonkers tbh.

StealthPolarBear · 22/11/2018 10:05

Sorry x post
Roly, that was what I thought

CupoBlood · 22/11/2018 10:06

I love that show and was also Shock

ohfourfoxache · 22/11/2018 10:06

Oh I LOVE that show!

ambereeree · 22/11/2018 10:07

Oh i love that show!

EivissaE · 22/11/2018 10:09

She sounds crazy, definitely don’t owe her an apology but I’d have walked away well before you did.
I did wonder if that was it when you said only one person died and yes you do need to watch it! I can’t wait for series 5 for it to be explained!

ADayAlwaysHasToEnd · 22/11/2018 10:09

I love that show as well 😍

SorryBaby · 22/11/2018 10:10

Got to be prison break

IceBearRocks · 22/11/2018 10:10

I can't believe some in wrote all that about fuck all !!!

AnotherOriginalUsername · 22/11/2018 10:11

Sounds like you should have trusted her 🤷

SorryBaby · 22/11/2018 10:11

Not Prison break then 🤣

hartof · 22/11/2018 10:12

Sorry but that character didn't make the show. I was fuming when I saw he was still alive.

Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 10:13

It is such a great show. Although I am now tempted to wait for the next season and skip the last one entirely!

Agree I should have walked away, but she's one of those annoying pushy people and I let myself get irritated.

@AnotherOriginalUsername I refuse to concede!!

OP posts:
MinorRSole · 22/11/2018 10:15

Never heard of the show and you both sound batshit, who cares! I'd have walked off and googled it myself long before it became an issue.

callymarch · 22/11/2018 10:15

i love the show but for reasons of too many shows i must watch lost track of it before anyone important "dies". now im need to know who "died/didnt die" and will have to start watching it again.

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