To be pissed off that DH pissed the bed

[onlygirlinthehome]

It's not the first time and most likely the last and I'm raging I was the first time and have been every time.
He did it again last night he went out for a few drinks so I had our DS in our bed so he didn't disturb me when he got home as I'm not too well at the moment so he slept in our sons bed and he again pissed the bed I woke up at 4am to the washing machine going so ok at least he has made the effort to sort it out but that's not my point it's still gone into the new mattress.

To all the ladies whose are all so wonderfully lucky to have such a wonderfully amazing fella who never put a foot out place congratulations. But I unfortunately have a man who I love who is an amazing man and a amazing dad yes I am still raging again about the pissing of the new 2 month old bed. He doesn't do it every time he has a drink he has drunk a lot more and not done it.
All I think I wanted was yes I'd be raging so I could show him the post not all the abuse calling him disgusting and an alcoholic or I'd instantly get rid

Caprisunorange, I salute your attempt to argue semantics here, but really, the OP’s DH does have a drink problem. She may not agree or choose to do anything but that doesn’t change facts.

It isn’t a fact because you are not qualified to diagnose such a problem. No one can, over the internet based on the information OP has given.

Disgusting a grown man

He's an amazing dad who pissed in his son's new bed. What a complete disgrace. How is the bar set so unbelievably low?

OP it’s hard when the replies question your status quo. People are saying what they’re saying because their own bars of acceptance are set at a different level. In the nicest possible way it might be worth looking at why your reaction is so different to the majority of posters. You don’t have to accept this behaviour.

I'd see that as a red flag tbh.....being so out of it the sensation of a full bladder doesn't wake you. And 7 times in 7 years is a lot.
I reckon he needs to address his alcohol use, definitely.
My husband once pissed into the laundry basket when he was drunk but at least it woke him up and he did get up...thats the difference imo.

On several occasions your husband has drunk so much that he has wet the bed. You now say that he has in fact got more drunk than that on other occasions, albeit without wetting the bed.

OP, he does have a drink problem. If he was really embarrassed about this, he would do something about it.

You should just accept he pisses the bed(s) and other places then rather than post on here. What did you expect people to post. He sounds a disgusting pig. Doing it once is bad enough, but if he had learnt from that and modified his drinking, that would be acceptable - but to keep on doing it is completely disrespectful and the opposite of amazing. He would be given an ultimatum rather than being shown a thread on MN.

It's not usual for a grown man to piss the bed.

Just give him an adult nappy to wear when he comes in from drinking, problem solved.

FFS HE DIDNT PISS IN THE BED ON PURPOSE FOR A LAUGH AND DARE CERTAIN PEOPLE ENPLY THAT I HAVE LOW STANDARDS AND LIVE IN A DIRTY HOME. YOU DONT KNOW ME OR MY HOME!!!

another one saying that I've never known a man do this. DH and I have been together 17 years and we've both certainly done some full on boozing pretty regularly in our time, but never have either of us pissed in the bed.

6 pints is a lot.

Yep, my 'fella'/husband never pissed the bed whilst drunk, much less with one of our children in it, because that would make him not an amazing person and dad but a saddo who can't hold his drink. He'd have been gone long before I procreated with him had he done that even the once because I have standards.

All I think I wanted was yes I'd be raging so I could show him the post not all the abuse calling him disgusting and an alcoholic or I'd instantly get rid

You just wanted pats on the head and 'aw, hunz, that's de menz fer you' instead of hearing the truth - it's an absolutely disgusting thing to do and he shouldn't be drinking at all because it's obvious he's a lousy drunk. Maybe try Netmums .

OP, in the nicest possible way, if you don't think that this is due to his drinking too much in one evening, perhaps you should insist that he goes to see a doctor.

In the meantime, waterproof bedding would be sensible precaution.

His problem, he deals with it, but he needs to understand that it impacts everyone in the family.

onlygirl; i dont think people mean 'low standards' of house cleanliness; they are talking about the standard of behaviour/respect that you will tolerate in your life partner

Lots of people wee themselves at night through drinking to much. They don't have to have a drink problem.

Its nasty thòugh and i would be so angry.
He needs to scrub that mattress today

OP, we all know he didn't piss the bed on purpose. However, he carried on drinking on purpose knowing that he has a history of pissing the bed when drunk. That makes it 100% his fault, doesn't it?

Same here, River, DH has never done this. We just bought quite a pricey new mattress, a real treat we saved up for as our mattress was about 12-years-old. I'd not be impressed, nor would he, if one of us pissed in it due to drinking too much.

OP, I've been married over 30 years. My DH has had a 'few too many' pints more than a few times. But he has NEVER pissed the bed (or indeed, himself)! From a medical stand point, does he generally have a weak bladder (pisses often/feelings of extreme urgency)? If so, he may want to discuss with a doctor as there are treatment options.

As far as the bed, listen, of course he should sort it himself. But I'd be damned if I'd end up with a ruined mattress simply to prove a point. I'd put it on myself (on any bed he's likely to sleep in). And I'd refuse to have him in my bed or my child's bed when he's been drinking.

Lots of people wee themselves at night through drinking to much. They don't have to have a drink problem.

No, no they really don't. Lots of people don't do that and if you do, you've got a real problem with handling drink and probably shouldn't do it. Unless of course, you're fine with being a disgusting slattern.

Yes my ex did this a few times. He was an alcoholic and died before the age of 50 apparently. Repeatedly pissing the bed is not normal behaviour. If the current MrFastnet did this he would probably be so embarrassed he would make sure it never ever happened again. And 6 pints is a lot.

"Any of these medical issues can also cause bedwetting in adults: diabetes, urinary tract infection, urinary tract stones, neurological disorders, anatomical abnormalities, urinary tract calculi, prostate cancer, prostate enlargement, bladder cancer, or obstructive sleep apnea"

So, he should get checked out.

Low standards as in what you’ll put up with from your h.

I don’t think lots of people do this to pp.

My ex used to do this when drinking pints. CF had the nerve to blame me the first time.

The relationship didn't last very long