Restricted by days DSD is here...

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I have a 4 week old baby.

Also have a DSD who is here one weekday every week and every other weekend Friday-Sunday.

Husband wants me to never arrange something on these days because it prevents DSD from seeing her sibling.

I haven't arranged anything for the past 4 weeks on these days, and I try my best not to, but next week I have an appointment on the weekday evening. It's not an essential appointment but it's something I do regularly and it's the only day available for 2 weeks.

I've booked it.

DH thinks I'm cruel because DSD will now not see her sibling for a week.

I don't know what to do. I've avoided making appointments for the past 4 weeks, I've not had visitors on these days. They've been dedicated solely to DSD. Surely I need to have a life though and can OCCASIONALLY do something on these days?

Or AIBU?

@RiverTam I didn't have any concerns about OP being a troll I was confused thinking she had twins at first. I didn't know it was a thing until now to change the sex of people you are posting about.

Well, I don’t know if it’s a Thing, it’s just something I do on occasion.

Sorry, did you have something you wanted to say, or just resorting to emojis?

Why are sorry? What would you like me to say to your ridiculous comments? You say you aren’t a GF and yet, your posts speak for themselves.

I've always name changed when needing to be discreet. At least now I know I can just change details. It's so much easier ! Thank you for clearing it up for me 😊

I certainly haven’t personally attacked you.

@JellieEllie @RiverTam I change the sex, age etc of people quite regularly. jellie I'm absolutely not a troll. Would be a weird thing to start a pretend thread about!

Sorry OP you've clearly misunderstood. I've never mentioned troll.

Tone is everything isn't it. Posters are saying here that your partner is being controlling but only you know how he says it. Suggesting one family night - when his whole family is together and very new - doesn't seem unreasonable to me. You could have had the appointment at other times. Yes you need self care time but if you were saying your DP was putting his self-care or hobby before you, new baby and DSD he'd be flamed.

when you said anyone who disagreed with you was either an ex-wife or a goady fucker

I didn’t.

Yes you need self care time but if you were saying your DP was putting his self-care or hobby before you, new baby and DSD he'd be flamed

No actually if OPs DP was only able to make an appointment for something necessary on a certain day and that unfortunately happened to fall on a 'family' day with his DSC but it wasn't a habit that he did all the time and he was genuinely not purposefully avoiding his DSC I wouldn't flame him at all. I'd tell OP to spend some quality time with her other child while her DP went to his appointment and to stop making a big deal out of it.

You should have just name changed OP.

I assume you've changed age and possibly gender of your step child as well? Must be exhausting to keep it up.

Glad it's all sorted now.

Is having your hair done necessary so though @OhCrumpets. Hairdressers round here are open every day of the week. Surely the appointment doesn't need to be in the two hours when DSD is around

Is having your hair done necessary so though

Have you read the OPs posts? Yes it is necessary in this case.

Hairdressers round here are open every day of the week. Surely the appointment doesn't need to be in the two hours when DSD is around

Again, reading the OPs posts would help you out here.

BF card 😂 my youngest is 1 and I still only leave him for a few hours at a time. At 4 wks he was practically still part of my body. And as far as he was concerned he was!

NWQM it would help if you RTFT first.

That's what you said about me
@IStandWithPosie

Yes, about you, (for good reason- I’ve seen enough of your posts on MN to know) not about electric or anyone who disagrees with me as she claims. And I do stand by it.

I think I've read one of the most ridiculous threads on MN ever.

OP tell your DP to get a gripe. Contact time is legally for his daughter to have time with him not the rest of you. Therefore if you randomly go out and take the baby, her half-sibling, with you then he has a chance to improve his relationship with her on their own.

Sorry to interrupt but can someone please tell me more about these breastfeeding cards. I've never played one so must have 2, unused. How does one play them? Can I exchange them for prizes (like a beetle drive) or are they more like "get out if jail free cards" or do I hand them to dh when it's my turn to wash up or what?

What have I missed @OhCrumpets - the OP describes the appointment herself as not essential.

Basically I have very Afro hair that takes a lot of maintenance and it's hard with a newborn so I'm having a protective style put in which I usually have but haven't been able to go since the birth.

Her braider only had an appt on the evening the DSD was due round.

I know I started this thread but it's getting a bit embarrassing now...