To think after trying it on with boyfriends brother,we are done?

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I'm massively ashamed.
Friday night I met my boyfriends family as they had a party and I made a total fool of myself.
I drank 1l of vodka,I tried to kiss my boyfriends brother,I fell down some stairs.
I told his sisters and gran (who is 82) they were "swear words"
I can't remember any of it.
They've told me I'm not welcome in their home again.
Can I redeem myself here?
Do you think boyfriend will dump me?

I've understandably name changed.

Yes. Apologies and excuse yourself from the relationship etc

Do you normally get on like that when drinking?

I’d dump you if I were him tbh.

Yeah apparently I do.
Well when I drink spirits anyway.

Well, at least you can be dumped and never have to see any of them again. It's a very slim, almost invisible silver lining.

Do you have an alcohol problem? Why on earth would you drink so much?

'Apparently I do' makes me think you have heard horror stories about yourself before, learn from it.

That's from a non judgy perspective, if I drink wine, even 2 or 3 glasses I get angry/aggressive and end up being sick 😔 Iv learnt from this and stick to vodka now when I'm out as it makes for a much nicer drunk me.

I'd send an apology and some flowers to his family and back away from the relationship gracefully

A litre of vodka? Cracking onto the brother? Swearing at the granny? Yep, safe to say you might not be getting an invite to Christmas dinner anyway. I think you need to get your drinking under control if this is how you behave.

A litre of vodka???

I think you need to look very carefully at why you wanted or needed to drink so much on an occasion where you surely wanted to make a good first impression.

Yes. You’ve completely fucked that. Apologise and spend some time working on yourself and why you felt the need to drink that much and then act that way.

I do stupid things when I drink vodka.
My friends have told me this before.
I was so nervous before meeting them that I drank it just to stop my nerves.
I'm a totally different person sober :-(

I’m amazed you survived drinking a litre of vodka tbh. 🤔

I can't remember a thing.
I can't even remember going back to his house.

A litre of vodka? God that makes me feel sick.
Take some responsibility- you know that you react badly to spirits so stop drinking them. Yes, I would assume your boyfriend would finish it with you. You owe him and his family a huge apology and then to leave them alone.

If he doesn’t dump you, I’d be questioning his judgement tbh...

I can understand the urge to have a drink when you're a bit nervous, but getting through a litre of vodka implies that once you start you can't stop.

So basically you think he will dump me?
He said this morning he knew it wasn't the real meal and it's not.
I've got anxiety and I drink at times to help.

Has he spoken to you since?

I think you need to think very carefully about why on Earth you needed that amount of alcohol. You are doing yourself some very serious harm drinking that much.

I would dump you for that behaviour!

Were you intentionally sabotaging your relationship?

Where was your bf when all this was going on?

He hasn’t dumped you but he should. You’ve embarrassed yourself and him so much I can’t see the way forward.

You need help for your drinking.

I’d never show my face again! I’d send a hand written apology and break up with bf.

You won't be able to make it right with his family so why go through it?
Get the anxiety sorted and the drink and then look for a partner.

Drinking does not help anxiety.

As some else in here has said. It does sound like you were trying to ruin the relationship before u went. Knowing that drinking that would end in this result. Wether you did it knowingly or u intentionally