To think after trying it on with boyfriends brother,we are done?

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I'm massively ashamed.
Friday night I met my boyfriends family as they had a party and I made a total fool of myself.
I drank 1l of vodka,I tried to kiss my boyfriends brother,I fell down some stairs.
I told his sisters and gran (who is 82) they were "swear words"
I can't remember any of it.
They've told me I'm not welcome in their home again.
Can I redeem myself here?
Do you think boyfriend will dump me?

I've got anxiety and I drink at times to help

It doesn’t “help”. It makes it worse

Please forgive me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 swore at granny🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ok it’s out of my system. Ahem.

I second hand written sincere apology and maybe some flowers.
I think you may need to end the relationship for now and work on yourself a bit. I think you should consider yourself an alcoholic and become teetotal.

I don't think you have to break up with him tbh, because he is now surely in progress of blocking you on all platforms. And so is his family.

I don't mean to be mean, but at 23 (was seriously hoping you were like fresh 18)you should now better. I think this is a great kick up the butt which will hopefully make you think about how you are dealing with life and maybe get back to your doctor, talk to them about it and get more help.

P

*know better

I'm surprised after a litre of vodka you're not seriously Ill. Was this an all day party?

I don't believe you when you say you only drink at weekends. To get through a litre of vodka is heavy drinking.

The relationship is not the issue. Yes it is over. But you need to focus on your alcohol issue. I say this non judgmentally, I am a highly functioning alcoholic, I put myself into rehab earlier this year. Please get help for yourself, this is a progressive illness and your signs are deeply worrying.

People have said before that vodka doesn't agree with me.
He probably drank a few out of it but majority I drank.
I have zero recollection of any of it.

Fucks sake.

You’ve got bigger problems than the boyfriend (rightly) dumping you.

Grow up and sort out your drinking.

• Bells on

If your boyfriend doesn't leave you, because he's a nice person who believes in second chances, then you need an immediate unconditional grovelling apology letter on a nice, good quality letter, to be given to his family. Don't make excuses and don't suggest any way to make it better. Just acknowledge you fucked up colossally and you're not going to let it happen ever again.

And then, here's the fun part:

NEVER LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN

FGS how do you even drink a litre of vodka? Jesus.

Wow you are getting such a hard time on here, this thread is not going to help you feel any better if you already feeling guilty..
The thing is, it's happened now, you can't go back and change it. You've got to just move on now and learn from your mistake.
It's hard for young people when there is such a drinking culture, not everyone can control themselves.
You don't remember it? Did your boyfriend ask you to stop drinking at any point? You were nervous, did anyone have a quiet word to reassure you? Don't be too hard on yourself.

Go and watch Geordie shore, they do a lot worse, it'll make you feel better.

Could people ease off on the virtue signalling a bit here? OP already says she suffers anxiety, this isn't helping.

Yeah I mean it's totally ok to drink a litre of vodka, fall down stairs, swear at relatives, kissing your bf brother. It's all totally fine.

Absolutely nothing to do with anxiety. Stop excusing it.

I don't know why he didn't take me home earlier.

1ltr of vodka.

That's the issue here OP.

Hopefully this is your rock bottom and you’ll now take steps to sort out your drinking. You’ll probably find your anxiety improves if you do. I would strongly suspect you’re in denial about how much you drink if you’ve managed to neck a litre of vodka without passing out. You must have very high tolerance

Well half brother.

I don't think there's anyway to redeem yourself after calling granny a cunt swearword

Il just leave this now,I already feel bad enough tbh.

I don't know why he didn't take me home earlier.

How about you take responsibility for your own actions and grow up?

I’ve had a drink problem as well OP. It only ever gets worse unless you tackle it.

I don't believe you did drink a while litre to yourself, someone is trying to drink shame you...!

Many, many years ago I drank a litre of vodka. Never again. I'm never a nasty drunk though or even embarrassing I don't think but it's dangerous. I thought it was a good idea to walk about three miles in the snow. Thankfully my brother came with me otherwise I probably would have died of hyperthermia 😧

In answer to your question I think you bf would be mad to stay with you. You will never live this down in his family and after swearing/name calling are unlikely to forgive you. That's not even thinking about you clearly being prone to cheating so how can he trust you?

A litre of vodka doesnt agree with anyone.
This cant even be true.

Op you have not addressed any of the suggestions to go and get help. Don't you want to? After this?

It’s quarter past 2 in the afternoon so I’m assuming he must have spoken to you by now surely??

Drinking yourself into oblivion is quite frankly scary, especially when it seems like you have a habit of doing it. You could get seriously ill and someone could take advantage of you when you are in such a state and you might not even know about it.

If you can't stop drinking when you've started, you need to not drink in the first place. You know you do stupid things when you drink vodka, so why you would even contemplate drinking it in the first place is beyond me. You don't even enjoy drinking it, it seems as though you feel you need it to get you through certain situations. You need help. Alcohol won't help your anxiety